I read that most people believe in free will.
Although I think it’s not a huge majority.
Why would a person who believes in free will want to prevent others from exercising their own free will?
For a person who doesn’t believe in free will, is it even possible to consider telling other people how to live their lives?
When it comes to free will, I think that many of us discount or ignore the influence and role that pre-wired instinctual behaviors play in our decision-making processes.
I will relay a anecdote from my family. My wife and two of our daughters (college age) were visiting my wife's brother and his son and daughter. After an afternoon of visiting, they decided to all go out for dinner. The female cousin (H.S. Senior) went upstairs and changed clothes. When she returned, my daughters immediately began teasing her because she had dressed up. The cousin fled upstairs and changed again.
In analyzing the behaviors exhibited, I would argue the teasing from my daughters was not a conscious, willed act on their part. It was a reflexive emotional response to their cousins change of clothes. My daughters were in shorts and t-shirt (traveling after vacationing at a lake) and their cousin's action clashed with their perceived group expectation. The cousin dressed up because in her local friend group, to dress up is the expectation of the group when one goes shopping or out for the evening. Did the cousin exert free will when changing to dress up? When the cousin fled to change again, was that expressing free will or was it a reflexive, emotional response to comply with group expectation.
The cousins are close and loving with each other. When I asked my daughters why tease her, couldn't their cousin go dressed up if she liked, they responded by saying "of course she could, we were just joking around."
I would make the argument that no one involved was making rational, well thought decisions. They were responding reflexively and emotionally before thought ever came into it.
Might one say there was a suspension of free will under these circumstances? Are we a slave to reflexive emotional responses, however? No. We can recognize them when they occur and take a beat to decide how best to respond. The trick is learning when we are responding reflexively. Will is asserted when we recognize a triggered instinctive behavior and either counter the reflexive response or make the conscious decision to roll with the reflexive response.