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Give Me Self Esteem
- Thread starter The Hammer
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I'd offer you my self esteem, but I'm low on it.
I find self-esteem is inversely proportional to how much you buy into what others think of you. In my experience, every person you encounter has their own version of you in their mind. They will judge you and interact with you based on what they perceive you to be. You have a choice of accepting these judgments or not. Therefore, self-esteem can only be given (or taken) by those you give that privilege of giving or taking it. I've given no one that privilege.
Be your best you and live your best life...without judgment...judgment from others or yourself. Be your own self-esteem.
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Be your best you and live your best life...without judgment...judgment from others or yourself. Be your own self-esteem.
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You're not dead yet.
How does one avoid giving another that privilege when you invite others into your life? Especially close friends or a S/O?
You’re The Hammer!
In the words of the Offspring...
I might be dumb but I'm not a dweeb
I'm just a sucker with no self esteem
exchemist
Veteran Member
Pride is an excess of self-esteem which distorts one's perceptions and makes one objectionable.
As in so many things there is a spectrum, from people who's assessment of themselves is unreasonably low, through to those for whom it is unreasonably high. Being out of whack in either direction is a potential problem.
I have been reluctant to enter this thread.
Now I realize I should just ask: what is the matter, @The Hammer ?
Now I realize I should just ask: what is the matter, @The Hammer ?
Hermit Philosopher
Selflessly here for you
Pride is a form of “self-esteem” [self-worth] but not all self-worth is based on sense of pride.
Threatened, pride become a weakness.
The prouder the person, the easiest they are to offend.
What you are proud of, can be stripped away from you; then, if your self-esteem stands on pride alone, it’ll crumble.
Humbly,
Hermit
Brian2
Veteran Member
True self esteem comes from seeing oneself as a child of God, loved by God.
Ella S.
Well-Known Member
Contrary to what other posters have said here, I would say that pride is the opposite of self-esteem and the result of having a low self-esteem.
Pride arises when we are emotionally invested in our image and status. The people who are the most boastful and prideful are doing so as a way to inflate themselves in the eyes of other people, because they're deeply insecure themselves. They need that validation and praise from others.
Pride is incredibly vulnerable. Prideful people are easy to rile by insulting them or demeaning their accomplishments or status. They have to have others think of them as infallible and omnipotent. They have to pretend to themselves that they are infallible and omnipotent. They must maintain this illusion at all costs, and it is a very fragile illusion that requires heavy maintenance.
Some people are so prideful that they've figured out how to maintain that grandiose self-image internally, but it doesn't actually cure their insecurity. Instead, it acts as an impenetrable barrier against anyone who might help cure someone of their pride, since it's essentially a form of extreme denial perpetuated by willful ignorance.
The cure to that is also for them to learn to love themselves unconditionally and stop feeling like they have to be absolutely perfect and better than everyone else in order to have worth. It's just less apparent, from the outside, that the people who seem to love themselves the most are usually the ones who hate themselves more than anyone else ever could. I struggle to think of anything more pathetic.
So if you don't want to be prideful, practice healthy self-respect and self-compassion, and you can be comfortable being yourself.
Great question!
One can avoid giving another that privilege by realizing that each individual one allows into one's life will judge based on their own perspective which is a result of their own personal experiences. One has to make the conscious choice to either give another that privilege and accept these judgments into one's own reality or to understand that these judgments are merely another's perspective and not relevant to ones own reality.
I reserve this privilege only for myself.
Oh snap. I must have the false self-esteem then.
I think self-esteem is something we keep to ourselves, and as to which aids what we do, but pride is often seen outwardly and does the opposite.
Brian2
Veteran Member
Oh snap. I must have the false self-esteem then.
If your self esteem relies on your achievements or who you are in the eyes of other people then it can evaporate pretty fast.
Subduction Zone
Veteran Member
Death, death, death, . . . Where did I put it? Hang on a second I had some around here just a short while ago.
Did you read anything I said in this thread besides my reply to you?
osgart
Nothing my eye, Something for sure
Healthy self esteem comes from humility which is to see yourself justly in truth rather than be burdened with false conceptions and perceptions. One has to develope their own relationship with the truth of virtues. It's best not to let other people influence the self unless they hold to a truthful standard with a correct judgment.
Bad self esteem is arrogance or pride. In this case one shouldn't feel self esteem at all.
Imv self esteem is only valuable if it's true; in accordance with virtues.
Bad self esteem is arrogance or pride. In this case one shouldn't feel self esteem at all.
Imv self esteem is only valuable if it's true; in accordance with virtues.