It's because your positions are not rational, even as you keep insisting and imaging that they are.
And you don't 'listen' to learn, but only to negate anything that contradicts what you think you already know. I keep explaining why your positions are irrational and/or illogical, but you're not even considering that possibility. Instead you're intent of disqualifying anything that contradicts your presumptions.
Yes, I've considered the possibility that I've made a logical error, but I can't find one. You claim that I'm irrational, and your argument is that there is benefit in a god belief, so those who refuse it are illogical. You don't see the fallacy there? You are projecting yourself onto me. You apparently receive a benefit from a god belief, and generalize that to believing that everybody would. I've explained to you that I have experience there, and found the opposite to be the case. I received a benefit leaving faith, god beliefs, and religion behind. In so doing, I learned to be comfortable knowing that there may be no god or afterlife. I content that there may be nobody not on earth that is looking over me or answering my prayers. You steadfastly refuse to understand that when I call myself an agnostic atheist, I mean that I am open-minded to the possibility of gods, but presently have no reason to believe any exist even if one or more do.
So what do you propose would be the benefit to me choosing your path? Apparently, your god belief meets some need in you that I don't have. I suspect that the benefit to you is related to your successfully overcoming a substance abuse problem with the aid of a religiously oriented organization. You probably beat alcoholism with the aid of a god belief. On another thread, you mentioned that some AA members seemed to miraculously overcome their compulsion. If so, I can understand fostering a god belief just in case that's important or correct.
But that's not my situation. Your logical error is in assuming that if a god belief improved your life, it would improve anybody's. I assure you that it would not improve my life. I've already lived both with and without such a belief, and my life got better and has remained good since.
Our discussion here reminds me of somebody with blurry vision who received the miracle of corrective lenses, and now thinks that everybody needs a pair, even people with good vision naturally whose vision is actually degraded by these lenses, unaware that there are people who don't have any need that glasses can fulfill. You would be telling me that it is irrational for me to refuse glasses, and I'd be telling you that it would be irrational for me to wear a pair. I'd be telling you that I see clearly now, and you'd be calling me stubborn, incalcitrant, intransient for not wearing a pair, and I'd just be shaking my head as I am now in wonderment.
The thing I don't get about atheism is that there is no benefit or logic to it. At least the theist gains some benefit from choosing theism in the face of his unknowing. But the atheist gets nothing from choosing atheism in the face of his unknowing. So why do it? Why not just be agnostic and leave it at that? At least this would keep the mind open to future revelation and possibilities. Whereas atheism just closes and locks a door before having any idea what's on the other side.
There is both benefit and logic in being an atheist. I don't have any need or desire to answer unanswerable questions using the device of a deity. I am agnostic, but all agnostics either have a god belief or don't, meaning all agnostics are forced to choose between theism and atheism in the face of that unknowing. I choose atheism because it is the only logical position possible. Theists may be correct, but if they are they are only guessing correctly. I prefer not to guess.
My mind couldn't be more open. Open-mindedness is required for critical thinking and dialectic. But maybe you mean something other than what I do with open-mindedness. Many theists mean relaxing ones standards for belief and accepting more ideas uncritically, as they have. That's incorrect. What the term means is having the willingness to consider an argument impartially and be convinced by a compelling argument. That implies the ability to recognize a compelling argument. That is all it means.
You know who doesn't do that? Faith-based thinkers. They will tell you that they won't consider arguments that contradict their faith-based beliefs. Here are two examples from prominent Christian apologists. Both of these people are proudly announcing that their minds are closed to contradictory evidence.
[1] "The way in which I know Christianity is true is first and foremost on the basis of the witness of the Holy Spirit in my heart. And this gives me a self-authenticating means of knowing Christianity is true wholly apart from the evidence. And therefore, even if in some historically contingent circumstances the evidence that I have available to me should turn against Christianity, I do not think that this controverts the witness of the Holy Spirit. In such a situation, I should regard that as simply a result of the contingent circumstances that I'm in, and that if I were to pursue this with due diligence and with time, I would discover that the evidence, if in fact I could get the correct picture, would support exactly what the witness of the Holy Spirit tells me. So I think that's very important to get the relationship between faith and reason right..." - William Lane Craig
[2] "The moderator in the debate between Bill Nye and Ken Ham on whether creationism is a viable scientific field of study asked, 'What would change your minds?' Scientist Bill Nye answered, 'Evidence.' Young Earth Creationist Ken Ham answered, 'Nothing. I'm a Christian.' Elsewhere, Ham stated, 'By definition, no apparent, perceived or claimed evidence in any field, including history and chronology, can be valid if it contradicts the scriptural record."
Here are a couple more from less well-known faith-based thinkers:
[3] “If somewhere in the Bible I were to find a passage that said 2 + 2 = 5, I wouldn't question what I am reading in the Bible. I would believe it, accept it as true, and do my best to work it out and understand it."- Pastor Peter laRuffa
[4] “When science and the Bible differ, science has obviously misinterpreted its data. The only Bible-honoring conclusion is, of course, that Genesis 1-11 is actual historical truth, regardless of any scientific or chronological problems thereby entailed.” –creationist Henry Morris
That's what closed-mindedness looks like. What i do is consider then reject your arguments as I am doing here.
You stated right at the beginning that you and your wife are atheists. So you did choose to guess, and you guessed that gods don't exist. So, obviously, you also have chosen to "guess" that your experiences were not of God. Had you simply remained agnostic, you would not have chosen to take a stance either way. And your mind would still be open. But your mind is not open. Because you have chosen to presume that gods don't exist. And I don't see the logic in making that presumption when there is no evidence of it, nor any benefit in it for you, or for anyone else.
Another straw man. You name beliefs I don't hold than call them illogical.
I've defined what I mean when I use the word the atheist several times. You choose to refuse to acknowledge that.
Yes, my wife and I are atheists, meaning that neither of us has a god belief. And no, I have not guessed that there are no gods. I've told you that and demonstrated it repeatedly. As long as you insist on hearing the word atheist to mean somebody who has positively denied the existence of gods, and thinking that that is my position because I call myself an atheist, we will be talking past one another.
Your definition doesn't include me as an atheist. What value does such a definition have to unbelievers that don't make that claim? I wonder if you can conceive that that is possible. You've never acknowledged that it is possible to both be undecided about the existence of gods and not embrace one.
In fact, by refusing to acknowledge the possibility of the concept of agnostic atheism, insisting that everybody can only be one or the other but not both, you undermine yourself and your message. You don't understand your audience. You don't understand me. You don't know what I believe even after me telling you multiple times, yet you presume to give me life advice that I have told you would do to my life what glasses would do to my vision (in case it wasn't clear, I don't wear corrective lenses).
Incidentally, I wouldn't presume to give you such advice. I have never tried to talk you into joining me in atheism, not just because that would be in vain, but also because I think I would be doing you a disservice if I could and did. It would be the equivalent of me trying to tell you to throw your glasses away because I can see fine without any. Why would I do that?
But you would. If I could take your advice (I can't, because I don't choose what I find believable, and don't believe what I don't) and did, it would degrade my life, not improve it. I know this from experience, and from noting that I am content with life as I live it now.
Atheism means that you are choosing to presume that gods don't exist in spite of your not knowing it to be true.
Not to me. And I have told you repeatedly. If that's the only group you wish to speak with, what atheists call strong or gnostic atheists, then your audience will be very small and your message irrelevant to most of us, who agree that concluding that gods don't exit is unsupported (non sequitur, a leap of faith).
I could understand this choice if there were some benefit in it for you, but there is no benefit in it at all. There is nothing in it but blind negation. And you just keep refusing to acknowledge this. I don't know how to say it more clearly, and yet you can't seem to 'hear' it. That it's a pointless, unsubstantiated bias against a possibility that a lot of other people find great benefit in.
You don't see the benefit in atheism for me, so you assume there is none, even after I explain to you what it is. I don't know why you can't understand me. Atheism made secular humanism possible for me by making room for it, which I've explained was an upgrade in my life.
You don't need to be clearer. You just need to be more convincing.
My bias is far from pointless or unsubstantiated. It is rational. It is the unwillingness to believe without sufficient evidentiary support. There is no other rational position possible.
Those are the kinds of biases I collect - rational ones born from experience. I call them knowledge, and I call acquiring them from careful observation and consideration learning.