I don't think that is particularly unusual, but you really have to take pains to be certain that no personal boundaries are disrespected.
-
Welcome to Religious Forums, a friendly forum to discuss all religions in a friendly surrounding.
Your voice is missing! You will need to register to get access to the following site features:- Reply to discussions and create your own threads.
- Our modern chat room. No add-ons or extensions required, just login and start chatting!
- Access to private conversations with other members.
We hope to see you as a part of our community soon!
Groping: a male and female perspective
- Thread starter -Peacemaker-
- Start date
I don't think that is particularly unusual, but you really have to take pains to be certain that no personal boundaries are disrespected.
The last time I was groped uninvited, it was by my girlfriend's mother at a family gathering. I'd rather she hadn't done it.
YmirGF
Bodhisattva in Recovery
But you are a randy male that can barely contain his sexual intoxication.... surely you wanted to boff her right on the spot...
Nymphs
Well-Known Member
Sounds like a fetish to me.
More like an attempt to justify one. :yes:
Planets and the Sun
Member
No, it's not an act. Maybe you enjoy it but I don't know why assume that just because you do that others feel the same way. I know men who would feel upset if they were groped by strangers so it's not a gender thing, it's about respecting the personal boundaries of others.
People have boundaries and they should be respected. When in doubt, don't infringe upon them or ask first.
For most people, it's a violation of their privacy. It's their body and they are entitled to have a say in what others do with it. It's not ok to simply touch a stranger in that manner. For people who have been raped before it can also be very triggering for them.
Even if someone enjoyed being groped by strangers, they may not be attracted to you and not want to have that sort of physical contact with you, they may not be attracted to individuals of your gender, they may have a partner and not be OK with having sexual contact with anyone else. The list goes on.
In short, everyone has boundaries so just because it's not a problem for you it doesn't mean that it's wrong or weird that for most everyone else it's a problem. As I said, if you don't know if the other person would like to be touched in that way, don't assume, ask them... that is what words are for. If it's not appropriate to ask then it's probably not appropriate to go ahead and touch them either.
Not sure what's so difficult about that concept.
It's like saying "I don't have a problem with strangers breaking into my house, why do people feel upset if someone goes into their house uninvited, are they just lying when they say that?". Makes no sense.
Don't be surprised if your entitlement to touch the body of someone else in a sexual way makes them entitled to punch you in the face
People have boundaries and they should be respected. When in doubt, don't infringe upon them or ask first.
For most people, it's a violation of their privacy. It's their body and they are entitled to have a say in what others do with it. It's not ok to simply touch a stranger in that manner. For people who have been raped before it can also be very triggering for them.
Even if someone enjoyed being groped by strangers, they may not be attracted to you and not want to have that sort of physical contact with you, they may not be attracted to individuals of your gender, they may have a partner and not be OK with having sexual contact with anyone else. The list goes on.
In short, everyone has boundaries so just because it's not a problem for you it doesn't mean that it's wrong or weird that for most everyone else it's a problem. As I said, if you don't know if the other person would like to be touched in that way, don't assume, ask them... that is what words are for. If it's not appropriate to ask then it's probably not appropriate to go ahead and touch them either.
Not sure what's so difficult about that concept.
It's like saying "I don't have a problem with strangers breaking into my house, why do people feel upset if someone goes into their house uninvited, are they just lying when they say that?". Makes no sense.Don't be surprised if your entitlement to touch the body of someone else in a sexual way makes them entitled to punch you in the face
PM, do you enjoy being groped by men, too? I'm sure some have found you attractive as well.
My first guess is that you might have an assault fantasy. It's not a character flaw, but I think nymphs was on to something when she mentioned your preferences show a fetish for women who do not respect boundaries.
With your consent, I'd be willing to bring my whip into our conversations, and I can take advantage of you. We can negotiate on the cost of these sessions as well. We can also discuss how far to push your boundaries.
Sound good?
-Peacemaker-
.45 Cal
Actually I'd feel inclined to rip the lungs out of man who groped me. I don't even find it cute the few times they've flirted with me. And if you think I'm paying you in dollars so that you can whip me you have another think coming sister. My allowing you to whip me is more than enough payment. I'll give you the time of your life
Suppose for a moment you get up after a movie and that cute chick behind you grabs a cheek in each hand. You turn around to smile and are confronted with a muscular hairy chest in a rainbow tee. He's big. He could force you to do things you'd rather not. He's smiling.
The difference between the typical reaction of a male and a female to a small assault is the relative risk of a more intrusive one. Men are at near zero risk. So it's easier to interpret an inappropriate touch as a complement. Women have a whole different reaction and the reasons are easy to find.
Tom
PS Suppose it was your first night in jail...
Sha'irullah
رسول الآلهة
Straws? Must be some new slang for anorexic girls. You young whipper snappers and your perversions.
Nymphs
Well-Known Member
Actually I'd feel inclined to rip the lungs out of man who groped me. I don't even find it cute the few times they've flirted with me. And if you think I'm paying you in dollars so that you can whip me you have another think coming sister. My allowing you to whip me is more than enough payment. I'll give you the time of your life
So you feel threatened when a man finds you attractive?
Okay, then what I see is your assault fantasy playing out heterosexually, with an active female taking advantage of you, rather than you just being taken advantage of generally.
That's an important distinction.
And if you think I'm paying you in dollars so that you can whip me you have another think coming sister. My allowing you to whip me is more than enough payment. I'll give you the time of your life
Well, you never were the type of guy who had a low self-esteem problem.
I'm easy, but I ain't cheap. My whip comes at a price. You don't have to pay me with your money. Just your ego.
Muhahahahahaha!
Is that an invitation man, because it sounds like one
Sure, you can grope me, cutey. :flirt:
Hey, you never offered the same for me! *so jealous!*
I owe you pics.
I haven't forgotten.
Mmhmm. Remember: I'll show you mine if you show me yours.
-Peacemaker-
.45 Cal
So we've truly discovered one of my fetishes I guess. A can't be the only guy in this thread with such a fetish. Do you think some of the guys here aren't being honest with themselves/us?
That sounds exhilarating. You shouldn't tease me like that
I wouldn't worry about whether or not you're the only one with that particular fetish. But I can safely say that there are plenty of people who have assault fantasies and who consensually and safely role play these fantasies out. They may or may not exist in this thread, but that's their business.
You have no idea who you're dealing with. :devil:
Mmhmm. Remember: I'll show you mine if you show me yours.
Of course I remember!