Groping: a male and female perspective

[-Peacemaker-]

I have to admit as a male I've enjoyed the times I was groped by the opposite sex. I've never met a woman that I felt enjoyed it when strange men groped them. (Not by me mind you, I have a strict no groping policy with ladies). Women always seem to feel violated. But it does beg a couple of questions. Men: do you enjoyed getting groped by the opposite sex? Women: is acting offended sometimes just an act to not appear loose?

 

[Debater Slayer]

I don't enjoy other people's disrespecting my boundaries. That includes groping and uninvited physical contact in general.

 

[Penumbra]

I do not enjoy it. There is no "act".

 

[methylatedghosts]

I prefer not to get groped without my permission. Anyone that has attempted to has been meet with a firm message of "no".

Of course, it's in context, depending on how long I've known them and whether I've made it clear such an advance might be welcome. The same is true in reverse - I don't make a habit of groping strangers if it hasn't been made clear that that is what they'd like. Don't get me wrong, I love sex and all that goes with it, but I'm not in the business of violation.

Also, I'm not a creep

 

[Madhuri]

I dislike it. It's an unexpected invasion of my personal space to an extreme extent. I think most women do not like sexual contact with people who we haven't already decided that we want. It's important to us that we get to decide on a person. Uninvited sexual contact is disturbing.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

I only wouldn't mind if I knew the person and was comfortable enough for them to do that. I wouldn't want just anyone doing that.

 

[-Peacemaker-]

I dislike it. It's an unexpected invasion of my personal space to an extreme extent. I think most women do not like sexual contact with people who we haven't already decided that we want. It's important to us that we get to decide on a person. Uninvited sexual contact is disturbing.

Can you give me an idea of how often it is that a woman decides she wants a man that she has seen but hasn't actually spoken to? You see in my experience, a woman is excited more by what she hears than by what she sees. And this is coming from a guy that is considered by most to be quite handsome. I've always had to "spit game" (ie. be charming, confident, engaging, etc) to get a woman excited. It's never been enough to just walk into a room and look hot. Guys on the other hand are willing to bed women on looks alone.

 

[Debater Slayer]

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Guys on the other hand are willing to bed women on looks alone.

You mean "Some guys," right?

 

[-Peacemaker-]

You mean "Some guys," right?

If you are a guy you know what it means to be so struck by a woman's physical beauty that, ignoring any moral or ethnical concerns, you would stop everything and sleep with her on the spot.

 

[Debater Slayer]

If you are a guy you know what it means to be so struck by a woman's physical beauty that, ignoring any moral or ethnical concerns, you would stop everything and sleep with her on the spot.

I think it is irrational to make blanket statements about people's values based on their gender.

Your statement seems to imply that any guy wouldn't mind cheating on his partner(s) provided that he found someone else physically attractive enough. Would you say that you yourself wouldn't mind doing something like that?

 

[Nymphs]

Men: do you enjoyed getting groped by the opposite sex? Women: is acting offended sometimes just an act to not appear loose?

I'm just curious if you see how you are asking these questions....just think on it for a minute. I'll also be curious to see if another woman sees what I do. :cover:

How about you ask these questions:

Men: do you enjoyed getting groped by the opposite sex?
Women: do you enjoyed getting groped by the opposite sex?

Men: Is acting offended sometimes just an act to not appear loose?
Women: Is acting offended sometimes just an act to not appear loose?

Sounds a bit ridiculous, doesn't it? Being groped (without permission) is a violation of boundaries and personal space. Someone does that to me without consent, I'm going to smack a ***** down -- no matter the gender.

 

[Twilight Hue]

I highly doubt women are opportunistic creatures for a quick "feel". It might be no issue for men in general if a woman contacts, but imo, whenever you find yourself in close quarters with a "captive" crowd like a bus or elevator, I take that boundaries should be respected as much as possible as such environments typically are not areas people look for adult fun. Every women in public to me is a nun as far as im concerned and as far as "groping" goes, completely due to curcamstances. Not hormones in the general scheme of things.

 

[Gjallarhorn]

I don't like being groped by anyone except my boyfriend really, and even then it depends.

 

[Vinayaka]

You mean "Some guys," right?

No kidding! Whew!

I'm a guy and I would absolutely consider any groping by a woman to be really intrusive of my personal space. They'd be told so rather immediately.

 

[MysticSang'ha]

I have to admit as a male I've enjoyed the times I was groped by the opposite sex. I've never met a woman that I felt enjoyed it when strange men groped them. (Not by me mind you, I have a strict no groping policy with ladies). Women always seem to feel violated. But it does beg a couple of questions. Men: do you enjoyed getting groped by the opposite sex? Women: is acting offended sometimes just an act to not appear loose?

I could care less if I appear loose, wanton, slutty, etc.

But I do not like being groped. I was once on the dance floor at a club, when a guy came up from behind me, reached around, and began fingering my crotch. I slammed my heel into his foot, turned around, and punched him in the face. The security guard pulled me off of him because the "fight or flight" adrenaline rush instinct was taking over me, and I was trying to hurt him.....badly.

 

[-Peacemaker-]

I think it's a bit of a turn on to have a strange woman's hands on me, someone who I didn't give permission to touch. I appreciate the boldness. I guess it's just a strange quirk of mine

 

[Sha'irullah]

I thought groping was just a quick butt cancer inspection? When on earth did it become disrespectful!?


Kidding aside though, I dislike general touching period. I dislike it when women or men touch me altogether. I also dislike touching others although I may make an exception for hugs. I also dislike it when others talk about sex or relationships which I find worst then groping. I also dislike "ocular groping" or excessive starring at other's intimate parts because it just seems perverted and this alone makes me feel uncomfortable.

 

[Sha'irullah]

I only wouldn't mind if I knew the person and was comfortable enough for them to do that. I wouldn't want just anyone doing that.

Muhahahahahaha!

Is that an invitation man, because it sounds like one

 

[Badran]

Men: do you enjoyed getting groped by the opposite sex?

Depends on context. If by a stranger, usually not.

Women: is acting offended sometimes just an act to not appear loose?

Personally i think more often than a woman acting that she's offended when she's not, it's a case of entitled wishful thinking on the part of the instigator, due to inability to accept that the sexual advances are simply not welcome.

Guys on the other hand are willing to bed women on looks alone.

If you are a guy you know what it means to be so struck by a woman's physical beauty that, ignoring any moral or ethnical concerns, you would stop everything and sleep with her on the spot.

"I" doesn't equal "all men", regardless of how much comfort believing that may bring you.

 

[Debater Slayer]

I think it's a bit of a turn on to have a strange woman's hands on me, someone who I didn't give permission to touch. I appreciate the boldness. I guess it's just a strange quirk of mine

Whatever makes you feel better. Just try not to project and make assumptions about what other guys like based on your own preferences.