'Have a Blessed Day' versus 'Hope You Get Lucky Tonight'

[Uberpod]

It may be a small thing, but it's a thing: a waitress and a physician repeatedly wish me well by saying "have a blessed day" when we depart. I am not sure why I need to look through their words and see their good intentions. Yeah- and I have told the waitress I am not Christian. She does not remember me (or my order.) so she continues. She apparently always says goodbye this way.

I am an Atheist but they don't know that. But, by treating me by default as if I were Christian they are minimizing me. So, I have resolved to respond to their well-intended farewell with an assumption of my own. Having a good sex life is awesome. I know most people actually agree, but many want to keep the fact that they are sexual beings behind the curtain. However, if someone wished for me to get lucky tonight, I would feel very good intentions from them, and thank them for the good wishes. So, the golden rules says it is fine for me to try this out. What do you think??

 

[Buttercup]

It's a great idea! Hope it works out well for you...keep us posted. By the way, I hope YOU get lucky tonight!

Why do you assume these two are Christians and why would it matter, really? I've known Pagan's who say the same thing. Would it be a more acceptable wish for your day if it was coming from a Pagan instead of a Christian?

 

[Uberpod]

It's a great idea! Hope it works out well for you...keep us posted. By the way, I hope YOU get lucky tonight!

May you as well !!

Why do you assume these two are Christians and why would it matter, really? I've known Pagan's who say the same thing. Would it be a more acceptable wish for your day if it was coming from a Pagan instead of a Christian?

I am in the South in a very conservative Parish. I do not mind at all being wished a blessed day from anyone as long as I get to interject my balanced point of view without any unpleasant reaction.

 

[ChristineES]

It may be a small thing, but it's a thing: a waitress and a physician repeatedly wish me well by saying "have a blessed day" when we depart. I am not sure why I need to look through their words and see their good intentions. Yeah- and I have told the waitress I am not Christian. She does not remember me (or my order.) so she continues. She apparently always says goodbye this way.

I am an Atheist but they don't know that. But, by treating me by default as if I were Christian they are minimizing me. So, I have resolved to respond to their well-intended farewell with an assumption of my own. Having a good sex life is awesome. I know most people actually agree, but many want to keep the fact that they are sexual beings behind the curtain. However, if someone wished for me to get lucky tonight, I would feel very good intentions from them, and thank them for the good wishes. So, the golden rules says it is fine for me to try this out. What do you think??

I wouldn't take it personally, they may do that to everyone. Maybe if it really gets on your nerves, you could ask them to please stop it and that it makes you uncomfortable. ( I only say "Have a blessed day" to people I know personally are religious. )

 

[Uberpod]

I wouldn't take it personally, they may do that to everyone. Maybe if it really gets on your nerves, you could ask them to please stop it and that it makes you uncomfortable. ( I only say "Have a blessed day" to people I know personally are religious. )

So should I wish people nighttime luck only if I know they are sexually active?

 

[Buttercup]

I am in the South in a very conservative Parish. I do not mind at all being wished a blessed day from anyone as long as I get to interject my balanced point of view without any unpleasant reaction.

I'm not sure that wishing good sex to a relative stranger is guaranteed to have the reaction you want....which is a hearty "Thank you! And the same to you!" in response. I would love for your to record the reactions of people. This could be good.

 

[Uberpod]

I'm not sure that wishing good sex to a relative stranger is guaranteed to have the reaction you want....which is a hearty "Thank you! And the same to you!" in response. I would love for your to record the reactions of people. This could be good.

I am thinking it might not go well at all with this 18 year old waitress and 55 year old male doctor, but who knows? Are hidden cameras legal?

 

[ChristineES]

So should I wish people nighttime luck only if I know they are sexually active?

That's up to you. I would be taken quite aback if someone said that to me, but I wouldn't be offended (I'm married).

 

[Buttercup]

I am thinking it might not go well at all with this 18 year old waitress and 55 year old male doctor, but who knows? Are hidden cameras legal?

I've lived on the West Coast my whole life so I'm assuming this experiment wouldn't be as shocking as we tend to be more liberal as a whole. I imagine the reaction could be quite different in the South, however. Plus, I think men might take it lighter than women. As far as filming undercover, 20/20 does it so why not? Seriously, I don't know about secret recordings but don't get yourself arrested.

 

[Uberpod]

I've lived on the West Coast my whole life so I'm assuming this experiment wouldn't be as shocking as we tend to be more liberal as a whole. I imagine the reaction could be quite different in the South, however. Plus, I think men might take it lighter than women. As far as filming undercover, 20/20 does it so why not? Seriously, I don't know about secret recordings but don't get yourself arrested.

The main problem might be that these blessed people tend to believe sex must mainly be procreative and certainly not a possibility if not married. And, the parallel between our well wishes may escape them altogether.

 

[Jayhawker Soule]

It may be a small thing, but it's a thing: a waitress and a physician repeatedly wish me well by saying "have a blessed day" when we depart. I am not sure why I need to look through their words and see their good intentions.

You don't. You could be petty instead.

 

[Buttercup]

The main problem might be that these blessed people tend to believe sex must mainly be procreative and certainly not a possibility if not married. And, the parallel between our well wishes may escape them altogether.

I'm not so sure about that. I was a devoted Christian (Baptist) for 25 years and believed hot sex between a husband and wife was totally godly and approved. At least the 55 year old doctor could prescribe Viagra for himself if your good wish got him thinkin'!

 

[Uberpod]

You don't. You could be petty instead.

You are right, it is petty, but their arrogant self-referencial bias is of an equal level of rudeness. Why is it fine for the atheist to continually rise above the blindness of believers?

I suppose, an option (for those I see repeatedly anyway) is to delicately but specifically state that that particular way of well wishing is a minor irritant for me, and request an alternate in the future.

 

[Jayhawker Soule]

You are right, it is petty, but their arrogant self-referencial bias is of an equal level of rudeness.

Stop whining …

… and have a blessed day.​

 

[Uberpod]

Stop whining …

… and have a blessed day.​

I hope you don't get lucky tonight.

 

[Buttercup]

You are right, it is petty, but their arrogant self-referencial bias is of an equal level of rudeness. Why is it fine for the atheist to continually rise above the blindness of believers?

Personally, as an agnostic, if someone offers to pray or offers me a blessed day, I'm happy to accept their good wish. I take it as a genuine offering of kindness. I think you might be taking the greeting a little too personally. Just something to think about.

 

[Uberpod]

Personally, as an agnostic, if someone offers to pray or offers me a blessed day, I'm happy to accept their good wish. I take it as a genuine offering of kindness. I think you might be taking the greeting a little too personally. Just something to think about.

If someone who knows I am an atheist offers to pray for me, I have no problem saying 'no, thank you.' I suppose if they couch it like this, I respond better: I know you are not religious, I hope you don't mind if I pray for you.

 

[Buttercup]

If someone who knows I am an atheist offers to pray for me, I have no problem saying 'no, thank you.' I suppose if they couch it like this, I respond better: I know you are not religious, I hope you don't mind if I pray for you.

Do you still say "No, thank you" or do you allow it? So, you're saying the delivery is what matters, You want them to ask permission?

Maybe I'm strange. Anytime anyone offers to think of me and plead good wishes to their god for my benefit, I find it very thoughtful and kind. Could be because I used to do the same for others so I understand the motive.

 

[Riverwolf]

It may be a small thing, but it's a thing: a waitress and a physician repeatedly wish me well by saying "have a blessed day" when we depart. I am not sure why I need to look through their words and see their good intentions. Yeah- and I have told the waitress I am not Christian. She does not remember me (or my order.) so she continues. She apparently always says goodbye this way.

I am an Atheist but they don't know that. But, by treating me by default as if I were Christian they are minimizing me. So, I have resolved to respond to their well-intended farewell with an assumption of my own. Having a good sex life is awesome. I know most people actually agree, but many want to keep the fact that they are sexual beings behind the curtain. However, if someone wished for me to get lucky tonight, I would feel very good intentions from them, and thank them for the good wishes. So, the golden rules says it is fine for me to try this out. What do you think??

Well, I think you'd end up in a similar situation if you said that to a sex-repulsed asexual.

Good health and harvest.

 

[Sapiens]

I've gotten the "have a blessed day" treatment in a number of establishments. I tell those who say that to me, "I don't share your beliefs and would appreciate it if you'd keep yours to yourself just as I have." Usually they do. If they don't I find a new supplier, who wants waitstaff that does not remember you or a physician who does not see you as an individual?