'Have a Blessed Day' versus 'Hope You Get Lucky Tonight'

[Uberpod]

I guess I already have to restrain myself a bit in regard to people assuming I am straight, I have a harder time with people assuming I am religious. I once had a guest for Thanksgiving who insisted on saying grace aloud ( I had requested that we go with a moment of silence). Her daughter explained that I did not believe in God, so she replied 'well he still exists'. Why, do I politely bow my head as a guest at other peoples homes during grace, and others are not expected to bend an inch when in my domain?

 

[Thana]

I always thought that 'Have a blessed day' meant something along the lines of have a lucky day or have a good day. The person is just wishing you well, Must you complicate it?

 

[ChristineES]

I guess I already have to restrain myself a bit in regard to people assuming I am straight, I have a harder time with people assuming I am religious. I once had a guest for Thanksgiving who insisted on saying grace aloud ( I had requested that we go with a moment of silence). Her daughter explained that I did not believe in God, so she replied 'well he still exists'. Why, do I politely bow my head as a guest at other peoples homes during grace, and others are not expected to bend an inch when in my domain?

You weren't obligated to bow your head, you know. Also, you don't know if someone is really assuming you're religious: She may just say "have a blessed day" just as a greeting, in which it would have no meaning whatsoever. I've heard atheists say "bless you" when people sneeze out of habit and I've heard atheists say "swear to God". She may even say it because she's religious.

 

[Uberpod]

I always thought that 'Have a blessed day' meant something along the lines of have a lucky day or have a good day. The person is just wishing you well, Must you complicate it?

It's not complicated. They can choose to interpret my wish that they get lucky tonight in a similar fashion, but when they are outraged, would you give them the same speech or criticize me again?

 

[Draka]

I truly don't get it. It is as if some people try to be over-sensitive. Blessings, in the simplest of definition, just means "good things". By wishing someone a blessed day, it just means they hope you have a day filled with good things for you. This phrase may be used by a Christian, yes, or it may be used by a Pagan, true, or it could just be a phrase they were raised to say or have picked up because they like the sound of it and what it means. It does not have to necessarily mean anything particularly religious aimed towards someone, nor is it said out of any need to proselytize. Even if it is coming from a religious place within them it's like when someone says Merry Christmas to me or Happy Easter. The point is the good intent. You merely thank and move on, or wish them a happy holiday in return. To feel offended over a term that is just a phrase meaning well wishes in passing...that takes a whole lot of effort and want to be offended. Just take people's good will as just that. Good will.

 

[Ingledsva]

You weren't obligated to bow your head, you know. Also, you don't know if someone is really assuming you're religious: She may just say "have a blessed day" just as a greeting, in which it would have no meaning whatsoever. I've heard atheists say "bless you" when people sneeze out of habit and I've heard atheists say "swear to God". She may even say it because she's religious.

Yep, I never bow my head when other people are praying.

I also don't cover my heart, or say the Pledge of Allegiance to a flag. I don't believe in such.

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[ChristineES]

Yep, I never bow my head when other people are praying.

I also don't cover my heart, or say the Pledge of Allegiance to a flag. I don't believe in such.

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That's your prerogative.

 

[Uberpod]

You weren't obligated to bow your head, you know. Also, you don't know if someone is really assuming you're religious: She may just say "have a blessed day" just as a greeting, in which it would have no meaning whatsoever. I've heard atheists say "bless you" when people sneeze out of habit and I've heard atheists say "swear to God". She may even say it because she's religious.

It is actually much worse if she says that and does not care if I am religious or not. That's the whole point. I want to be aknowledged for who I am. I would actually have no problem wishing her a blessed day, and I certainly would with no qualms if she wanted me to get lucky tonight !!

 

[ChristineES]

It is actually much worse if she says that and does not care if I am religious or not. That's the whole point. I want to be aknowledged for who I am. I would actually have no problem wishing her a blessed day, and I certainly would with no qualms if she wanted me to get lucky tonight !!

I am not 100% sure why you are so offended by it. It's just an expression like "see you" or "have a good/nice day", etc. (George Carlin was offended by "have a nice day") But just tell her you are offended by it. You said you weren't Christian to her, but I don't know if you told her you were offended by it. If she doesn't change what she says, then just ignore it. It's, as you said in the OP, a small thing.

 

[Sapiens]

It actually goes way beyond "have a blessed day." I was at the beach last week and a humpbacked whale breached just off the beach. It was quite spectacular and a woman about twenty feet away proclaimed in a loud voice, "praise Jesus!" I did not say anything to her, I probably should have. People who wear their religion on their sleeve in such an ostentatious fashion are ill mannered and inconsiderate.

 

[ChristineES]

It actually goes way beyond "have a blessed day." I was at the beach last week and a humpbacked whale breached just off the beach. It was quite spectacular and a woman about twenty feet away proclaimed in a loud voice, "praise Jesus!" I did not say anything to her, I probably should have. People who wear their religion on their sleeve in such an ostentatious fashion are ill mannered and inconsiderate.

She wasn't talking to you, so if I were you, I wouldn't get upset about it.

 

[Uberpod]

Yep, I never bow my head when other people are praying.

I also don't cover my heart, or say the Pledge of Allegiance to a flag. I don't believe in such.

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I actually used to make the sign of the cross in cub scouts because the other kids were - I thought I was a scouting thing. I used to bow my head to role model for the kids at the table. Occasionally, I have started nibbling at the food early. There is a great opportunity when everyone's eyes are closed!

 

[Uberpod]

I am not 100% sure why you are so offended by it. It's just an expression like "see you" or "have a good/nice day", etc. (George Carlin was offended by "have a nice day") But just tell her you are offended by it. You said you weren't Christian to her, but I don't know if you told her you were offended by it. If she doesn't change what she says, then just ignore it. It's, as you said in the OP, a small thing.

Do you think "I hope you get lucky tonight" is a good way to say goodbye? Why or why not?

 

[oldbadger]

......... a waitress and a physician repeatedly wish me well by saying "have a blessed day"
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I am an Atheist but they don't know that. But, by treating me by default as if I were Christian they are minimizing me. ........

Hi.....
You're maximising yourself, and minimising their value!
Will you get minimised if a Muslim greets you with 'Blessing be upon you'....? (salaam alaikum).
What if an Indian would offer the success which comes to the great buzzard, circling high?

So, basically, if anybody wishes you well from their culture, faith, religion or language, deep inside you're thinking, 'Well, hang on there mate, I don't fly with friggin' birds or whatever..... ???

I'm not a Christian, but I usually offer farewell with 'God Bless you', but I will try and remember to give you the standard 'Old Kent Road' farewell of 'Hoi! On yer bike!!' in future!

 

[ChristineES]

Also, you guys ought to keep in mind that just because you find something wrong, that doesn't mean we all do. I don't think I need to hide my faith from people. I wear a fish, a StofD, and a fish around my neck. I make no apologies about it and I don't feel as though I should have to.

 

[ChristineES]

Do you think "I hope you get lucky tonight" is a good way to say goodbye? Why or why not?

I already answered that question earlier. I said I wouldn't be offended by it. I would probably think the person is sex-crazed, though (just kidding on that last crack).

 

[Sapiens]

She wasn't talking to you, so if I were you, I wouldn't get upset about it.

She was talking to no one in particular in a voice loud enough to assure that everyone could hear her. Obnoxious.

 

[ChristineES]

She was talking to no one in particular in a voice loud enough to assure that everyone could hear her. Obnoxious.

So? Lots of people are obnoxious. I've had men say to me "Spread 'em, baby" out the window when I was younger. I just ignored them.

 

[Uberpod]

Hi.....
You're maximising yourself, and minimising their value!
Will you get minimised if a Muslim greets you with 'Blessing be upon you'....? (salaam alaikum).
What if an Indian would offer the success which comes to the great buzzard, circling high?

So, basically, if anybody wishes you well from their culture, faith, religion or language, deep inside you're thinking, 'Well, hang on there mate, I don't fly with friggin' birds or whatever..... ???

I'm not a Christian, but I usually offer farewell with 'God Bless you', but I will try and remember to give you the standard 'Old Kent Road' farewell of 'Hoi! On yer bike!!' in future!

I should say there is a difference here. I am sure to communicate with my customers with careful consideration to their frame of reference. I am the customer of that waitress. Why am I wrong to expect reciprocity?

 

[Draka]

Do you think "I hope you get lucky tonight" is a good way to say goodbye? Why or why not?

Wasn't put to me, but will weigh in on it.

It isn't comparable to "have a blessed day" at all. One simply wishes the other person has a good day filled with good things, and the other is specifically wishing a person to have sex that night. Not even in the same realm.