'Have a Blessed Day' versus 'Hope You Get Lucky Tonight'

[Ingledsva]

I actually used to make the sign of the cross in cub scouts because the other kids were - I thought I was a scouting thing. I used to bow my head to role model for the kids at the table. Occasionally, I have started nibbling at the food early. There is a great opportunity when everyone's eyes are closed!

You would have liked my Great-Grandfather. Whenever anyone insisted he say grace, he said -

"Good Food! Good Meat! Good God let's Eat!"

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[ChristineES]

You would have liked my Great-Grandfather. Whenever anyone insisted he say grace, he said -

"Good Food! Good Meat! Good God let's Eat!"

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My stepfather said "Praise the Lord and pass the meat, Good God, let's eat!" Made us all laugh.

 

[oldbadger]

Do you think "I hope you get lucky tonight" is a good way to say goodbye? Why or why not?

It's ok 'cos it comes from yourself.
But why tonight? Has it got to be tonight? In your culture do you have to wait till bedtime to get lucky?
Have you ever thought of getting lucky in the kitchen on a Monday morning?

So, my idea would be to enjoy all kinds of ' Farewell' without being too critical.

 

[Uberpod]

I already answered that question earlier. I said I wouldn't be offended by it. I would probably think the person is sex-crazed, though (just kidding on that last crack).

I'm sorry, but that does not really answer the question. What do you think of it as a general strategy for saying goodbye to the public?

 

[ChristineES]

I'm sorry, but that does not really answer the question. What do you think of it as a general strategy for saying goodbye to the public?

I am serious, it wouldn't bother me. It would sure offend some prudes, though. Besides, getting lucky to some people may not even mean sex to them. They might be going to Vegas.

 

[4consideration]

It may be a small thing, but it's a thing: a waitress and a physician repeatedly wish me well by saying "have a blessed day" when we depart. I am not sure why I need to look through their words and see their good intentions. Yeah- and I have told the waitress I am not Christian. She does not remember me (or my order.) so she continues. She apparently always says goodbye this way.

I am an Atheist but they don't know that. But, by treating me by default as if I were Christian they are minimizing me. So, I have resolved to respond to their well-intended farewell with an assumption of my own. Having a good sex life is awesome. I know most people actually agree, but many want to keep the fact that they are sexual beings behind the curtain. However, if someone wished for me to get lucky tonight, I would feel very good intentions from them, and thank them for the good wishes. So, the golden rules says it is fine for me to try this out. What do you think??

I think whatever you say here to justify your intended response, you would really be trying to shock them and throw their well wishes toward you back in their face.

IMO, you might as well be upfront and just tell them to f off since that is what you would really be communicating to them with a response like that.

If you don't mind, and feel justified, in virtually biting someone for wishing you well in the form of a farewell they use for everyone and intend as a pleasantry, and you realize you may convince someone that is treating you well to view you as hostile toward them by replying with something it's predictable will offend them -- go for it. I wouldn't expect it to make you friends, since they will likely interpret it as an under-handed attack. I would.

I think you misunderstand the golden rule.

 

[Draka]

I just don't like it. While it may seem funny, while even some people may react with a chuckle, there will inevitably be a time when that is going to really hurt someone. Why? To refer to sexual relations is quite personal (unlike wishing a person have a good day no matter the phrasing used) and you have no idea what that person may have gone through. It would be just great to wish a lady "get lucky tonight" shortly after she's been raped wouldn't it? Or just broke up with their spouse of 15 years? Or found out they have a medical condition? There are too numerous issues out there that making a specific comment about essentially "getting laid" is just really not appropriate.

Again, wishing someone a "blessed day" is really just wishing them well in general. To see it otherwise is to look to be offended.

 

[ChristineES]

I just don't like it. While it may seem funny, while even some people may react with a chuckle, there will inevitably be a time when that is going to really hurt someone. Why? To refer to sexual relations is quite personal (unlike wishing a person have a good day no matter the phrasing used) and you have no idea what that person may have gone through. It would be just great to wish a lady "get lucky tonight" shortly after she's been raped wouldn't it? Or just broke up with their spouse of 15 years? Or found out they have a medical condition? There are too numerous issues out there that making a specific comment about essentially "getting laid" is just really not appropriate.

Again, wishing someone a "blessed day" is really just wishing them well in general. To see it otherwise is to look to be offended.

Those are some great points. If we still had frubals, I'd want to give you a dozen.

 

[Uberpod]

Wasn't put to me, but will weigh in on it.

It isn't comparable to "have a blessed day" at all. One simply wishes the other person has a good day filled with good things, and the other is specifically wishing a person to have sex that night. Not even in the same realm.

So, you chose to interpret each in an imbalanced fashion. They are exactly dialectical. Have a blessed day can be interpreted more specifically as 'I hope God has / will bless(ed) your day' and I hope you get lucky tonight can be interpreted as Good Luck.

 

[ChristineES]

So, you chose to interpret each in an imbalanced fashion. They are exactly dialectical. Have a blessed day can be interpreted more specifically as 'I hope God has / will bless(ed) your day' and I hope you get lucky tonight can be interpreted as Good Luck.

Did the waitress use the word God? You didn't say that earlier. I've already said that "blessed" doesn't always mean something religious. It usually does, but not always. You can't really know the waitress's intent.

 

[oldbadger]

I should say there is a difference here. I am sure to communicate with my customers with careful consideration to their frame of reference. I am the customer of that waitress. Why am I wrong to expect reciprocity?

Ha ha! Bulldust!
What's the difference in a Moslem saying 'Salaam...' or an Indian wishing you hunting success (whatever) or a Theist wishing 'God Bless..' or a Christian offering 'Bless you' (whatever....
You've got to be careful that you don't become a nitpicking boor out there, and when anybody offers you any kind of friendship it might be a good idea to take it.

Reciprocity? ....... what is your problem?

 

[Draka]

And you know what? So what if in their mind they are wishing whatever deity they believe in blesses you, smiles upon you, treats you well? So fricken what? The intent for you to be happy and have good things in your life is still there. It's the intent that matters. Not what you erroneously infer.

 

[Uberpod]

Maybe have a blessed day conjurs up a lot of hateful things to a gay atheist. Why not just keep it neutral when dealing with an unknown person??

 

[ChristineES]

Maybe the next time I see an atheist, I will say to him or her

Maybe have a blessed day conjurs up a lot of hateful things to a gay atheist. Why not just keep it neutral when dealing with an unknown person??

People who don't know you have no way of knowing that.

 

[Draka]

Maybe have a blessed day conjurs up a lot of hateful things to a gay atheist. Why not just keep it neutral when dealing with an unknown person??

And just why would it conjure up such "hateful things"? Unless someone wants to look for hateful things that is? I'm Pagan. I have a variety of beliefs that fall under a few different umbrellas, but certainly not Christian. I have no issues with homosexuality, nor atheism (don't believe me ask around to several atheists here, many are my friends), and I wouldn't hesitate to wish someone a blessed day if I felt like doing so. If you knew exactly who it was coming from would it still conjure "hateful things" for you? If you don't know the person at all, how can you just assume "hateful things"?

 

[Uberpod]

Maybe the next time I see an atheist, I will say to him or her

People who don't know you have no way of knowing that.

Exactly - so why would they say that to me. I don't know them - so I would never actually say I hope you get lucky tonight. It's about risk of faux pas.

 

[oldbadger]

And you know what? So what if in their mind they are wishing whatever deity they believe in blesses you, smiles upon you, treats you well? So fricken what? The intent for you to be happy and have good things in your life is still there. It's the intent that matters. Not what you erroneously infer.

Absolutely! I don't often meet with 'chip on shoulder' nit-pickers, but I saw one last week. A young woman was carrying a baby and trying to pull a folding pram to the bus door in order to get off. A bloke sitting near the door said 'Let me help you with that, luv'. (loads of men and women use 'luv' around here, ok?)
She looked daggers at him and said ,'I don't need your sexist help THANKYOU!' and then nearly dropped the baby as she staggered off bus.

Some folks are just too angry about too much.

 

[Draka]

People who don't know you have no way of knowing that.

Nor does he know what their beliefs are or anything about them.

 

[Sapiens]

And you know what? So what if in their mind they are wishing whatever deity they believe in blesses you, smiles upon you, treats you well? So fricken what? The intent for you to be happy and have good things in your life is still there. It's the intent that matters. Not what you erroneously infer.

I don't think that was the intent, if that was what had come through I'd have felt as you suggest. All one can do is read the intent as best one can.

 

[ChristineES]

Exactly - so why would they say that to me. I don't know them - so I would never actually say I hope you get lucky tonight. It's about risk of faux pas.

Well, I don't know of many people who be offended, even if they are atheists and/or gay. We theists believe that God can bless anyone, even those who don't believe in Him. I usually don't do this, but I once told an agnostic that I would pray for his good health: Not only was he not offended, he was touched. I don't make a habit of that, though. People are so easily offended these days.