Hit on by the wrong gender

[dgirl1986]

Yep, nothing wrong with that.

I am sure you would be upset if someone tried to convince you to hit on dudes.

 

[Smart_Guy]

lucky me....I'm married....

I just say...I'm taken...

Thief and taken?

Hmm...

 

[Thief]

Thief and taken?

Hmm...

yeah....she stole my heart....
what else could I do but marry her?

 

[Smart_Guy]

yeah....she stole my heart....
what else could I do but marry her?

To get your heart back? That's the right course of action

 

[Deidre]

It's flattering to be hit on by either gender...I don't understand why some get offended.

 

[MountainPine]

I am sure you would be upset if someone tried to convince you to hit on dudes.

Oh, he wasn't upset, he was just shrugging about it.

 

[Draka]

Oh, he wasn't upset, he was just shrugging about it.

Would you shrug it off if a gay guy was trying to convince you to hit on other guys? If so, then what made you think it was a good idea to try to convince him? If not, would you try to hit on guys or would you be offended at the presumption?

 

[dgirl1986]

It's flattering to be hit on by either gender...I don't understand why some get offended.

I think they get scared of the sexuality of said person from the wrong gender.

Oh, he wasn't upset, he was just shrugging about it.

Just because someone doesnt get upset, does not mean that it is ok.

Would you shrug it off if a gay guy was trying to convince you to hit on other guys? If so, then what made you think it was a good idea to try to convince him? If not, would you try to hit on guys or would you be offended at the presumption?

I bet the gay guy would have gotten accused of rubbing his sexuality in peoples faces. Double standards.

 

[MountainPine]

Just because someone doesnt get upset, does not mean that it is ok.

Doesn't mean it's wrong either. You're making a bigger deal out of it than it needs to be. You act as if though homosexuals are being persecuted constantly and must be treated sensitively. That's not the case, as homosexuality is now widely accepted.

 

[Draka]

Doesn't mean it's wrong either. You're making a bigger deal out of it than it needs to be. You act as if though homosexuals are being persecuted constantly and must be treated sensitively. That's not the case.as homosexuality is now widely accepted.

So, it wouldn't be wrong for a gay guy to try to convince you to hit on men? Or would that be offensive?

And are you trying to argue that because homosexuality is more widely accepted it's okay for you to be rude? That a little rudeness is okay in the grand scheme of things? Because it was rude you know.

 

[MountainPine]

So, it wouldn't be wrong for a gay guy to try to convince you to hit on men? Or would that be offensive?

And are you trying to argue that because homosexuality is more widely accepted it's okay for you to be rude? That a little rudeness is okay in the grand scheme of things? Because it was rude you know.

I wouldn't be offended. However it is not the same thing, as it is only natural to have a liking for the opposite sex, and convincing them to do so is only fixing them. BTW, I would like to elaborate on the "proof" you gave me on the other thread Is being gay a sin according to your religion?, this source here: http://www.washingtonpost.com/wp-dyn/content/graphic/2008/06/23/GR2008062300060.html

This is not even a real brain scan, it's just 3D images with some coloring in some spots. it says the graphic was provided by The Washington Post, which means that the "evidence" could have been fabricated in many ways.

I would also like to address Dean Hamer's study on the Xq28 genetic marker, since this study is favored by the LBGT community. Although Hamer's study found links in the Xq28 genetic marker in homosexual brothers, especially twins, this doesn't prove that homosexuality is genetic. Xq28 is a genetic marker and is a coregulator of the androgen receptor. The androgen receptor is encoded by Xq11 and Xq12. If the androgen receptor is deficient in any way then it is mutated, and therefore is considered a genetic disorder, which is an unnatural occurrence. The child's body will not produce sufficient androgen, which will make him effeminate, but not necessarily gay. He could end up gay, or it could mean he will be straight and allow himself to be dominated by his woman, or just have a normal relationship with her and be more emotionally driven like a woman. Either way, it's his choice.

All this being said, it is not rude to talk someone into hitting on the opposite sex, just like is isn't rude to talk someone out of eating meat, etc. Talking someone out of doing something that isn't natural is never rude. If you want to say it was rude for me to try to talk him into hitting on girls, then it was just as rude for him to hit on me.

 

[dgirl1986]

I can't even...

 

[Acim]

I think it depends on how you're getting hit on. Being bi, the wrong thing hasn't happened with me. But being either wrong time for me or wrong partner (not mutually attracted), I've always gone with the I'm flattered, thanks, but no thanks type of rejection. Wasn't offended, just not into it.

But I know how guys hit on people and sometimes it ain't pretty or nice. It's blunt and possibly rude. I'm sure somewhere there are women like that, but seems highly disproportionate. That type of guy (or person) hitting on anyone could be met with reaction that looks a lot like offense has been taken. Pretty sure if people were looking on, we'd all agree that it would be okay to not be so polite, nicey nice about the rejection.

It seems obvious to me that people who are offended, regardless of the come on, are phobic to some degree of that orientation. Don't wish to self identify that way. Makes them extremely uncomfortable and are reacting more emotionally (from own hangups) than thinking about how the other person might feel.

 

[The Mormonator]

I play on three different soccer teams so I get hit on a lot by dudes. Some people think that only gays play soccer, but that's not true at all.

 

[bobhikes]

If you have been hit on by someone of the gender you are not attracted to, how have you responded and why? Or how might you respond if it were to happen?

Personally, I just take it as a compliment if a woman finds me attractive and thank them but simply tell them that I'm straight. I just don't understand why some people take offense at this.

If you do take offense, could you explain why?

I think I would love to be hit on directly by either sex. If man came up to me and told me how sexy and handsome I was. Yes It would be awkward but it would give me a high for the day. I don't believe men get hit on directly to much, I know I never have been.

 

[RRex]

Several times in my younger years. I just told them I'm heterosexual and like men.

 

[illykitty]

Well being attracted to any gender, there's no such thing for me, but I can say with confidence I'd probably react the same way as if someone unattractive hit on me, I'd say thanks but I'm not interested. Since I'm married that's the default for me now, but I can't remember last time I was hit on.

And I don't see why I would get offended about someone thinking I am attractive and/or interesting. As long as they are nice about it.

 

[Draka]

I wouldn't be offended. However it is not the same thing, as it is only natural to have a liking for the opposite sex, and convincing them to do so is only fixing them.

"Fixing" them? Really? "Fixing"? No, just, ...no. I'm sorry, but it is the same thing. It is not "only natural" to have a liking for the opposite sex. There are several species in the world that have and prefer homosexual relationships to heterosexual ones. That means that homosexual orientations are, indeed, natural.

All this being said, it is not rude to talk someone into hitting on the opposite sex, just like is isn't rude to talk someone out of eating meat, etc. Talking someone out of doing something that isn't natural is never rude. If you want to say it was rude for me to try to talk him into hitting on girls, then it was just as rude for him to hit on me.

It is rude. Extremely rude. Glaringly rude. And no, it was not rude for someone to hit on you, unless you would think it rude as well for a woman to hit on you. If a woman could make a pass at you and you not consider it rude then it isn't rude for a man to. No one knows for sure, just by appearances, what orientation someone is. Often people are just taking a chance. Or, perhaps, you may be exuding something about you that others perceive to be an indicator of homosexuality. Who knows? Either way, whether it is a man or a woman, shouldn't a pass at you simply be taken as a compliment as long as it isn't sleazy?

 

[turk179]

I wouldn't be offended. However it is not the same thing, as it is only natural to have a liking for the opposite sex, and convincing them to do so is only fixing them.

This isn't the place do debate this obviously misinformed statement. You did answer the OP so kudos to you but I gotta ask...have you had much success fixing gay people?

I spent a couple of years with a gay man as a roommate and looking back I'm actually a bit disappointed I wasn't hit on. C,mon! Am I that bad, really lol. As someone else stated, at my age, I'll take what I can get.

 

[RRex]

I spent a couple of years with a gay man as a roommate and looking back I'm actually a bit disappointed I wasn't hit on.

Instead of seeing it in negative terms, see it positively, as a matter of respect for your boundaries.