The world is divided into those who realize that they have no reason to disesteem homosexuality and those who have been taught otherwise. You've made the same error that the anti-choice people make when they call pro-choice people pro-abortion. No, they're pro-choice, and don't have much interest in which option a person chooses.
No. But if you consider homosexuality a moral defect and homosexuals somehow violating some natural or God-given law, then that constitutes homophobia. Bigotry need not feel like hatred. Bigots can feel constructive in their bigotry of low expectations, as when one objects to women in the military because it violates his idea of what a woman is capable of and what is good or harmful for her. I call this cold bigotry. It occurs when one unwittingly serves as a vector for somebody else's hot bigotry - the kind where one feels antipathy for the target of the bigotry.
If the deity depicted is homophobic, then yes. This is classic cold bigotry. Whoever wrote the words attributed to that god wants homosexuals persecuted and oppressed. If a god wrote them as believers believe, then that god is homophobic. How could one be more homophobic than to declare homosexuality an abomination in the eyes of a god that is said to be a "just and good judge of the world," fit for eternal suffering for having same-sex sexual relations.
Agreed. What we have here is a man in search of way to live and rules to follow who has found a holy book with a value in it he doesn't share (he is not homophobic), and who deals with the cognitive dissonance by distancing himself from the issue and not taking a stand. He frames this unwillingness to pass judgment as a virtue, not recognizing that to others, it is seen as defense mechanism.
I disagree. He understands you, Tagliatelle understands you, and I understand you. Why do you see yourself as difficult to understand? You've been in search of a religion for years, and the latest one has at least one principle that you reject. You are not homophobic, but the latest religion is. You have a strong aversion to disagreement and have chosen to deal with it by saying that unlike this deity, you don't judge anybody. If you disagree, please say where and why.
Is that what you thought he did? I don't. He's pointing out the inconsistencies in your position. He probably doesn't care if you continue to think that way. He's telling you how he thinks and why.
Disbelief? LGBTQ is not an ism to be believed or not. The correct word is disapprove. If you disapprove of homosexuality, you are homophobic. It's not about whether you feel hatred. It's about holding irrational and destructive beliefs that harm an entire demographic of largely law-abiding people just trying to be good neighbors and pay their bills as they go about their lives. That's destructive. It diminishes lives. It leads to gay bashing, discrimination, self-loathing, and suicide. Humanists among others consider it immoral to hold such ideas, and worse to express them even in ways that seem loving to the bigot.
Unfortunately, all you have are the words of men speaking for gods. It is by faith that you believe they are of divine providence.
I don't think that's the attitude. Hold an irrational and destructive view about every member of a law-abiding demographic just for belonging to that demographic and you're a bigot. If one agrees that homosexuals are immoral or somehow less than heterosexuals, he's homophobic and a bigot even if he feels no hatred.