Jumi
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Yes.
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How do/would you practicaly perceive adultery for your personal life?
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Jon916
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Maybe a lot of people don't really know what or agree with the legal bond. It is, everywhere a legal contract with sole binding exclusivity.
Agree with it or not. One should not sign on the contract if they don't either also agree that their word means nothing, or it does.
Unless they have another binding promise or contract otherwise.
Make sense?
Agree with it or not. One should not sign on the contract if they don't either also agree that their word means nothing, or it does.
Unless they have another binding promise or contract otherwise.
Make sense?
Jon916
Member
I got married in English law in Singapore. The sole exclusivity, Sex and all, was an
article in the agreement.
Jon916
Member
Sorry, that came out wrong @Father Heathen
It was a contract liability in my Singapore (English) Law marriage contract. Perhaps a very old proforma still being used.
It was a contract liability in my Singapore (English) Law marriage contract. Perhaps a very old proforma still being used.
That's youth talking. We all feel that way when we're young.
An open relationship is not incompatible with loyalty to one's partners.
Horrorble
Well-Known Member
I know middle aged plus people who still feel that way.
Sexual exclusivity <> loyalty.
For the purposes of this discussion, do you consider "legally separated but not divorced yet" as part of "married"?
I'm confused to answer. Are "legally separated" and "divorced" different? To me, both seem like the same thing.
It can be a subtle distinction, but the short of it is that divorced people are free to marry other people as if they had never married previously.
By contrast, legally separated people are still considered married for legal purposes, but with somewhat lessened and/or more formalized expectations of mutual dedication and support. Legal separations have some measure of intervention by the government, usually in the form of statements of what they are allowed, forbidden or required to do to each other.
Of course you do. So do I. Some people are naturally monogamous, while many other people are tragically fearful of expressing their true wants and needs in life for all sorts of reasons. They fear what their neighbors, employers, children, extended family, or others in general would think. They might believe open relationships are sleazy or immoral. They might be paralyzed by worries about contracting STDs, having an unwanted pregnancy, or encountering unmanageable jealousy. And some folks even think they would burn in hell if they acted on their love for more than one person. But I do not believe that nearly as many people are as naturally monogamous as most of us might think.
Horrorble
Well-Known Member
I agree, I just don't think we can assume Frank's needs are to do with youth but it may be all those things you mentioned plus past experiences with relationships.
As someone who has experienced both possessive abuse and using the threat of cheating as a manipulative tactic in relationships, I empathise with both the yearning for an open relationship and the yearning for sexual exclusivity.
All relationships have romantic and sexual boundaries.
That's somewhat rude and dismissive. Just because I'm 26, doesn't mean I don't know what I want from a relationship and that I'm going to end up being like you. Some people just want monogamy. I have been the "third wheel" with people in relationships multiple times and have been involved with an adulterous married woman. I'm sick of that and it's hurtful. I want to be someone's #1. I'm very jealous, possessive and emotionally intense, as well, and I expect the other person to feel the same about me. So I'm not really cut out for open relationships.
Covellite
Active Member
I'm almost 46, and share the same opinion: "Unacceptable. I expect monogamy and to be exclusive life mates with someone. Otherwise, I will just be alone."
Adultery has nothing to do with open marriages. An open marriage is just that, open. The question of the thread is…if you feel adultery is unacceptable. Adultery is about sneaking around, lying to your spouse so you can sleep with others, and still keep your marriage going, your partner none the wiser. That is wrong. If you want to sleep with others, be straight about it…tell your spouse. Give your spouse the option of staying in the relationship, adultery takes away the option of your partner to have a fair say in expectations.
It wasn't meant to be rude and dismissive, but to point out the very real fact that young people at their age generally have a much stronger desire for monogamy than they are most likely to feel at, say, my age. If you think about it -- and most people won't -- there could be evolutionary reasons why that's so.
No doubt you have convinced yourself that you currently know, at 26, what you will want at, say, 60. Personally, I have discovered that I myself was a fool in my 20s to think I knew what I'd be like in my 50s. But maybe you'll prove different.