I’d say that this sort of paradox stems from not applying the spiritual meaning of “self”.
I don't think that applies in the context of what Jesus was speaking about. "The love your neighbor as yourself," was to summarize the Law and the Prophets commandments, which had to do with how we treat other individuals, such as not stealing their goats, or coveting their wife, lying to them, etc. The "self" that is the focus there is their individual egoic selves, not their Atman, or their True Self, or their Christ Consciousness. But that's not to say that when we can see that they are more than just their egoic selves, and we can see the Divine in them, that does not apply, which it of course does.
But technically, you don't need to love your Atman, or your true Self, as that IS love itself, as it is the divine Nature, or the "Christ in you", which is Love itself. You do however have to "Love yourself" in the sense of self-forgiveness of the ego's shortcomings and sins, an acceptance of one's human nature and not a rejection of it as dirty and awful, and trying to disown yourself. All of that is about the ego and letting go of self-condemnation and self-loathing, which manifests itself as hatred towards others.
We all have an ego, but there is legitimately a
healthy ego, which is necessary and good in order to function as a human being in societal relationships, and an unhealthy, or damaged ego. The teachings of forgiveness, is directed to healing the damaged ego, and making it healthy. Then.... once the ego has been healed, it can more easily allow the true Self, or the spiritual nature to breathe Life and Love into it, which then is able to "forgive others and we forgive ourselves," or "love your neighbor as yourself.
In general; any study of religious scripture that does not take into account its spiritual aspect, can only really result in nonsensical interpretation and paradox.
Actually, when you start encountering paradox, you know you are on the right track. If you can resolve it rationally, then you're not dealing with the nondual, but your dealing with the dualistic mind instead.
The spiritual “self” is not your person, your body or your individual, worldly predicament. The “self” here is that which, beyond worldly manifestation, is One. The “self” in biblical terms, is us all.
As I pointed out, that is not the context of the "two great commandments", which have to do with your individual ego in relationship with both itself and with other individual egos. Enlightenment, or knowing the Self, is not how you fulfill "the law and the prophets". But being receptive to divine Love is. "Love works no ill." If you are filled with love in yourself, you won't attack or harm others.
By serving yourself, you remain the centre of your own reality and struggle to surpass the perspective of your own predicaments.
By taking care of yourself first, you are then able to actually help and be of service to others. But not before that. Think of it like putting on your oxygen mask in an airplane. You need to put yours on first so you can breathe, before you can help others. If you pass out, nobody is helped. If you want to help others, you need to be healed first.
By serving those you encounter, you allow for a broader experience, which with practice and time, enables you to see that “you” were never what you might have thought you were in the first place - you were never a position, a body, a predicament.
There is a path of service as one of the 5 yogas, that works towards that end. I'm not saying you can't heal yourself by helping others, but that may not be the best path, or effective at all for others who need a different type of path. The ego can actually never be dealt with as someone is always out there trying to save everyone else, as a way to avoid looking within.
How many of our RF saviors do you know that fit that scenario? The louder the preaching, the greater the avoidance of confronting themselves.
There was never a “you” to serve. And one way to discover this (the way that Christ recommends) is by the wholehearted service to others.
Yes it can be. But I believe he also teaches other ways as well, such as forgiveness, letting go, surrender of the ego, and so forth. Those are all there as well. In fact, I think he pretty much covers the five basic yogas found in Hinduism, except of any explicit mention of the physical of hatha yoga. Certainly if you look these over, you can see these taught in scripture as well as Karma yoga, or the path of service to others you mention.
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