Lots of mothers are abusive to their children. You and I are lucky to not have that happen, but many children grow up with abusive parents. Ever see the movie "Precious?"
Haven't seen it, but I see your point and it does indeed make sense (yes, there is no typo here). I guess having different aspects of my religion and culture connected to each other is what make it the norm that mothers are not abusive to their children here, or at least it happens rarely. Honestly, when I hear of parent/child abusive cases in the West, it's all "WTF is going on here" moment to me. I really lose my marbles in loss when I heard of some cases like a parent kill their child, locked them for a long time, raped them and had children with them, etc. in documentaries and here on the internet. But I guess this is another subject. Sorry for going off-topic like that.
I would say if you were in an abusive home and you just put up with it, that would not be a healthy environment. Here in the US we have something called Child Protective Services that remove children from abusive homes in order to save them from a life of physical and/or mental abuse.
Sticking around an abusive parent would be no different from a battered woman staying with her wife-beating husband. Not wise and not advisable. You hear a woman say "even though he beats me I still love him" and you don't think "wow she's loyal" you think "damn, the poor woman needs help and needs to get out of that relationship."
I would argue that the God of the Abrahamic religions is akin to an abusive spouse. It's mental abuse to hold the threat of eternal torturous damnation over people. Do what I say or I'll burn you forever. How is that real love?
Further to what I just said above, I think it is something heavily culturally affected. Here we don't have such organization, but I think I did hear of a case or two that the court took care of. Can't remember them. Such problems for me are unheard of.
The wife husband relationship is far from anything like parent child in my culture, and I wouldn't even consider it a face of comparison to the subject at hand. I believe it is a different subject. Here I've never ever seen or heard of a grown up abandoning their parents, talk bad about them, allow others to talk bad about them, no matter how bad their parents were to them. I guess it is because of how different aspects of my culture and belief are integrated and cohesive, as I implied before. Even I had horror moments from my parents, yet I still can't but love them for some reason.
Not sure how I think of how that last is real love, but love is an emotion and for us for this specific topic it does exist as a fact even tho we know we could have a taste of Hell. Can't really explain it, and call me crazy, but it is the actual fact. I mean the love is there regardless of whatever. Sorry man, dunno how to explain it in a clear way. And just to make sure, not sure about other Abrahamics, but this is how it is with me and Muslims following the same teachings.