If you have to choose between two types of women (rebellion vs obedience)

[Godobeyer]

Hello all


I am just want to know your opinion about if you want to marry a woman , your have just two choices ,

1- the first one : is very obedience , and calm , sensitive ( obedience )

2 -second one is rebellion , reject your requests ,she had strong personality than you ,(rebellion )


+ bonus questions : what is your type you prefer to marry ( i mean the caracteres of your futur woman in mental not body) ?

 

[Tumah]

What if she's strong willed, calm and sensitive?
Or if she's very obedient, but also very strong-willed?

 

[Godobeyer]

What if she's strong willed, calm and sensitive?
Or if she's very obedient, but also very strong-willed?

that's may expanding the details of personality of woman or mixed .

in general , i am talking about Rebellion woman VS Obedience woman

 

[lewisnotmiller]

In my experience, women are not so simple. But in the interests of the hypothetical I chose rebellious. This would be tiresome if done simply for effect, but my wife's independence is something I regard with great affection and respect.

 

[Terrywoodenpic]

I would not expect any one to be "obedient"
If you mean by that, only doing what they are told.

A marriage is a partnership. Where decisions are shared, where both are equal in the decision making.

Over time, It probably occurs to both partner that one or the other is better at some decisions and the other at others, that is perfectly normal.

To insist that the husband makes all decisions is a recipe for disaster. Just as it would be if they were all made by the wife.
It is far better to come to an agreement on difficult issues, and perhaps agree on a compromise.

My late wife had a mind of her own and we "Shared" everything.


Some times the best decision is " not to make one " certainly not try to "enforce one"
That only creates battle lines, not partnerships.

 

[9-10ths_Penguin]

Hello all


I am just want to know your opinion about if you want to marry a woman , your have just two choices ,

1- the first one : is very obedience , and calm , sensitive ( obedience )

2 -second one is rebellion , reject your requests ,she had strong personality than you ,(rebellion )


+ bonus questions : what is your type you prefer to marry ( i mean the caracteres of your futur woman in mental not body) ?

Neither of your choices reflect me. They both assume that I would order my wife.

 

[Laika]

Voted rebellion. stronger personality, more intresting to be around and the sex may well be better. rebels tend to know what they want.

I'd hesitate to say 'marry' as there is rebellion for the sake of personal growth, and rebellion out of insecurity. the latter ends in trouble as you end up being treated like the enemy- lots of rows, wrecked furniture and broken plates. my aim isn't good, so I'd have to learn how to duck at precisely the right moment.

Obedience woman is ok, but again- they have to have some heart, some passion. obedient is ok, sometimes it can very intimate, sweet and affectionate in unexpected ways. obedience can be another way of saying introverted. spineless is a no. why on earth would I want to be with a mindless zombie (even if they were hot)? sex is good place to start but personality wins out over the long-haul. inner beauty wins....eventually. But really, as long as someone is intresting, can have a conversation with them, be open, honest and are adventerous under the quilt cover, can I really argue with that?

Don't worry guys. I'll do you too.

 

[Servant_of_the_One1]

Obedient but rebellious in the bed

 

[Godobeyer]

Neither of your choices reflect me. They both assume that I would order my wife.

I don't understand what you mean , can you plz elaborate

btw , I just post a virtual choice , just in case there is no choice except "obedience or rebellion".

 

[9-10ths_Penguin]

I don't understand what you mean , can you plz elaborate

btw, I just post a virtual choice , just in case there is no choice except "obedience or rebellion".

I don't tell my wife (fiancee at the moment, actually, but close enough for this discussion) what to do. When we're trying to decide what to do, we collaborate as partners. If she feels strongly about something, then I take that into account; if I feel strongly about something, then she takes it into account. I never issue her orders that she chooses to either obey (and be "obedient") or refuse (and be "rebellious").

Your new third choice doesn't work for me. I am sure, but what I'm sure about isn't one of the options: I want my wife to be a partner I collaborate with, not someone I try to boss around.

 

[The Neo Nerd]

I would chose rebellious.

Because i believe a marriage is a partnership of equals. I do not wish to be with someone who does not get what they want because they are always trying to please me.

 

[Jayhawker Soule]

If you're forced to choose between a woman whose main characteristic is rebelliousness and a woman whose main characteristic is obedience I would recommend choosing a different culture.

 

[Wirey]

I'll take the strong one. If I want something obedient, I'll buy a puppy. My wife is my partner, not my property.

 

[Godobeyer]

I would chose rebellious.

Because i believe a marriage is a partnership of equals. I do not wish to be with someone who does not get what they want because they are always trying to please me.

Just suppose :

If your wife want to work in Bar until 4 am, but you disagree , what you will do if she insisting ?

 

[Godobeyer]

I don't tell my wife (fiancee at the moment, actually, but close enough for this discussion) what to do. When we're trying to decide what to do, we collaborate as partners. If she feels strongly about something, then I take that into account; if I feel strongly about something, then she takes it into account. I never issue her orders that she chooses to either obey (and be "obedient") or refuse (and be "rebellious").

Your new third choice doesn't work for me. I am sure, but what I'm sure about isn't one of the options: I want my wife to be a partner I collaborate with, not someone I try to boss around.

some question to you Penguin

If your wife want to work in Bar until 4 am, but you disagree , what you will do, if she insisting ?

 

[Godobeyer]

I'll take the strong one. If I want something obedient, I'll buy a puppy. My wife is my partner, not my property.

why you think the obedient is close to slaverity , than respect and love

 

[The Neo Nerd]

Just suppose :

If your wife want to work in Bar until 4 am, but you disagree , would you do if she insisting ?

I could not stop her. I would definitely express my concerns.

But i have no right to tell her what to do.

That being said my 60 year old mum spent one night working in the dementia ward at a local hospital. She got hit and pinched etc.

Dad expressed his concerns about the dangerous nature of the work and asked her to not go back. She agreed.

He made a rational argument and she agreed. That was not him imposing his will. That was him expressing his concerns and she considering it.

 

[9-10ths_Penguin]

some question to you Penguin

If your wife want to work in Bar until 4 am, but you disagree , what you will do, if she insisting ?

I would find out why.

I know she wouldn't want to work that late unless there's a real need, so I would talk to her and see what the underlying problem is. Maybe we could figure out some other way to solve it. Maybe we could both get part-time jobs so we only have to work until midnight.

 

[Iti oj]

some question to you Penguin

If your wife want to work in Bar until 4 am, but you disagree , what you will do, if she insisting ?

drink till 4 am at the bar=D

 

[Iti oj]

why you think the obedient is close to slaverity , than respect and love

would you be an obedient husband to your wife ?