If you have to choose between two types of women (rebellion vs obedience)

[Godobeyer]

would you be an obedient husband to your wife ?

Of course NO , but i will share with her opinion , and take and give , and respect her .

maybe that's why i told you before (if your remember) i am confused to choice between "Western and Algerian "local" " woman .

in general our women are obedients .

for our culture are different and tradition too , so for sure our view in this issue are different .

 

[Marisa]

I don't tell my wife (fiancee at the moment, actually, but close enough for this discussion) what to do. When we're trying to decide what to do, we collaborate as partners. If she feels strongly about something, then I take that into account; if I feel strongly about something, then she takes it into account. I never issue her orders that she chooses to either obey (and be "obedient") or refuse (and be "rebellious").

Your new third choice doesn't work for me. I am sure, but what I'm sure about isn't one of the options: I want my wife to be a partner I collaborate with, not someone I try to boss around.

Thank you.

 

[Marisa]

If you're forced to choose between a woman whose main characteristic is rebelliousness and a woman whose main characteristic is obedience I would recommend choosing a different culture.

 

[Marisa]

Of course NO , but i will share with her opinion , and take and give , and respect her .

maybe that's why i told you before (if your remember) i am confused to choice between "Western and Algerian "local" " woman .

in general our women are obedients .

for our culture are different and tradition too , so for sure our view in this issue are different .

But you assume that your opinion on a given matter ends the discussion and that whatever you've chosen is what gets done, correct? That's not how mutual respect works, I'm afraid. That's called "I expect to get my way no matter what my wife's objections may be, and I expect her to be happy about it".

 

[Godobeyer]

But you assume that your opinion on a given matter ends the discussion and that whatever you've chosen is what gets done, correct? That's not how mutual respect works, I'm afraid. That's called "I expect to get my way no matter what my wife's objections may be, and I expect her to be happy about it".

that's depend the subject and case , my opinion is about something serious , It is debatable

- let's me post an Western exemple
for exemple IF she want and insist to go bar or to cafe with someone alone , she represent him to me as her childhood friend . i would not accept this .

 

[Iti oj]

Of course NO , but i will share with her opinion , and take and give , and respect her .

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then yes obedience is about slavery not love and respect .

 

[Marisa]

that's depend the subject and case , my opinion is about something serious , It is debatable

- let's me post an Western exemple
for exemple IF she want and insist to go bar or to cafe with someone alone , she represent him to me as her childhood friend . i would not accept this .

Let me answer your question from MY perspective, because you are flat wrong to assume that all western couples would be okay with your scenario. In MY marriage, my husband would be fine with it. My husband's best friend is an old army buddy who happens to be a woman, and I would be fine with him meeting up with her for a few drinks or even dinner. No, neither of us assume that only sex can come from friendly relations with the opposite sex, that's rather juvenile in my opinion, and suggests that we posses no control over our own actions. If you're worried that a woman might cheat on you once you're married, DONT MARRY HER. That's my advice.

 

[Shadow Wolf]

Head strong, strong willed, tenacious, and rebellious. I wouldn't want it any other way, in a man or woman.

for exemple IF she want and insist to go bar or to cafe with someone alone , she represent him to me as her childhood friend . i would not accept this .

Why not? Such jealously and demands are not what a good relationship is based upon.

 

[Akivah]

in general our women are obedients .

And if they're not, you can beat them.

 

[Akivah]

why on earth would I want to be with a mindless zombie (even if they were hot)? sex is good place to start but personality wins out over the long-haul.

I'm reminded of the bride selected for Eddie Murphy in "Coming to America". She was hot and obediently brainless. He had her barking and hopping on one foot.

 

[Parsimony]

I'm not married, but if I was, I would not expect my wife to be any more obedient to me than I would be obedient to her. I would expect us to work things out with discussions when we had disagreements.

 

[Wirey]

why you think the obedient is close to slaverity , than respect and love

Obedient suggests a lack of character. My wife can think. If she just did what I told her, what would be the point?

 

[Shad]

Voted rebellious. Far too many women are obedient in my family due to their upbringing. The rebellious ones have created careers and made something of themselves rather than being molded as some sort piece of clay. Obedience is far too close to oppression thus a patriarchy view of the world for my liking.

 

[Godobeyer]

Let me answer your question from MY perspective, because you are flat wrong to assume that all western couples would be okay with your scenario. In MY marriage, my husband would be fine with it. My husband's best friend is an old army buddy who happens to be a woman, and I would be fine with him meeting up with her for a few drinks or even dinner. No, neither of us assume that only sex can come from friendly relations with the opposite sex, that's rather juvenile in my opinion, and suggests that we posses no control over our own actions. If you're worried that a woman might cheat on you once you're married, DONT MARRY HER. That's my advice.

ah you woman

thanks for your advice , and for sharing your experience .

 

[LuisDantas]

Women worth marrying should hopefully have more complex personalities than they would have to be fairly described in such succint categories.

Of course, if it comes to such a simple decision anyway, sensitivity (hopefully not obedience as such) would probably be far more appealling than rebellion for rebellion's sake.

But there is definitely appeal and personal growth in dealing with people who are at the same time respectful and not submissive. Those are more often than not the best mates of all.

 

[Marisa]

ah you woman

thanks for your advice , and for sharing your experience .

Is my gender important? Or did you just not realize I'm a female?

 

[Godobeyer]

Is my gender important? Or did you just not realize I'm a female?

no there is no problem , i just though that you man

 

[Godobeyer]

Obedient suggests a lack of character. My wife can think. If she just did what I told her, what would be the point?

So you though obedient wife is like a Robot ?

so we all just as robots to our boss during job time ?!!!

 

[Marisa]

no there is no problem , i just though that you man

Ok.

 

[Godobeyer]

Head strong, strong willed, tenacious, and rebellious. I wouldn't want it any other way, in a man or woman.


Why not? Such jealously and demands are not what a good relationship is based upon.

for your opinion jealous , is bad value in man ?

do you prefer a man jealous, or alittle or no at all ?

let's suppose your husband don't agree to work in Bar to late night or to be a friend to someone , what you will do ? did you will seperate ? or accept his choice ?