If you have to choose between two types of women (rebellion vs obedience)

[Marisa]

there is no problem sister

just personal :

as suppose that you make a party , you dresse sexy dresse , your husband ask you to change that dresse, honestly you would accept his request or reject it ?

and IF he get jeolous of someone , he ask you to don't contract him ever . what you would do ?

the inverse , Did he agree to let you travel along trip alone to Europe for exemple ?

"Sexy" is subjective. If my husband were the jealous type, he would not be my husband. He'd be somebody else's husband and thus their problem.

Let me make this as clear as I possibly can for you: NOBODY tells me what to do with my body. Not even my husband. If there is no trust between me and my husband, we are headed for divorce court and I'll be marrying @Wirey tomorrow.

 

[Godobeyer]

"Sexy" is subjective. If my husband were the jealous type, he would not be my husband. He'd be somebody else's husband and thus their problem.

Let me make this as clear as I possibly can for you: NOBODY tells me what to do with my body. Not even my husband. If there is no trust between me and my husband, we are headed for divorce court and I'll be marrying @Wirey tomorrow.

He suppose not be jealous ?You not suppose be jealous too ?

is there a marriage with 0% jealous ( i mean when he saw you talking with someone ,...etc ) ?

I am affraid that i will be the main reason for your divorce

btw Is Wirey accept to be his wife ,if you get divorced ?

 

[Marisa]

He suppose not be jealous ?You not suppose be jealous too ?

Yes.

is there a marriage with 0% jealous ( i mean when he saw you talking with someone ,...etc ) ?

Yes, mine. We also don't argue.

I am affraid that i will be the main reason for your divorce

Okay, now I'm the one not understanding what you mean. Are you flirting with me? @Wirey is going to get jealous if you are.

btw Is Wirey accept to be his wife ,if you get divorced ?

He's offered to marry me on several occasions.

 

[Godobeyer]

Yes.

ok

Yes, mine. We also don't argue.

indeed yours .

Okay, now I'm the one not understanding what you mean. Are you flirting with me? @Wirey is going to get jealous if you are.

sure was just kiding

He's offered to marry me on several occasions.

seriously , are you serious ?

did @Wirey knows that your married ?

and your husband knows about this issue ?


it's nice to chat with you

 

[MysticSang'ha]

Hey I LOVE my female partners' rebelliousness. Outspoken women with minds of their own? HUGE turn on for me.

 

[Marisa]

seriously , are you serious ?

did @Wirey knows that your married ?

and your husband knows about this issue ?

It's a running joke on the board, but yes, my husband knows. I have nothing to hide.

it's nice to chat with you

Hey, anytime!

 

[psychoslice]

Neither, both are neurotic states of mind, I would rather a women that is just how she is, maybe at times swinging from both sides.

 

[YmirGF]

you agree to be with rebellion ?

If you rebellious wife want to travel to trip alone with her friends , and you ask her to stay, and she don't accept your request ,honestly what you would do ?

Say, "Have a nice trip. I will be here when you get back!"
You don't really get the partnership thing, do you, Godobeyer? Part of a partnership is giving your partner the space and time to do what they want and go where they want.

 

[columbus]

ah you woman

thanks for your advice , and for sharing your experience .

I have not read through the whole thread, so I don't know. Have you gotten any clear answers from lesbians?
I personally don't care what kind of women anyone chooses to marry, so I am asking purely out of politeness.
Tom

 

[columbus]

Okay, now I'm the one not understanding what you mean. Are you flirting with me? @Wirey is going to get jealous if you are.

I hit on you once, I think.

Oh wait, I remember now. I was hitting on your military stud husband. Did you ever tell him about that? You never said.
What did he say?
Tom

 

[Marisa]

I hit on you once, I think.

Oh wait, I remember now. I was hitting on your military stud husband. Did you ever tell him about that? You never said.
What did he say?
Tom

Hey if you aren't hitting on me I don't pay any attention. It's all about me yea know!

 

[Shadow Wolf]

so we all just as robots to our boss during job time ?!!!

I am not. There have been many times I have done things I'm not supposed to, do things my way instead of the way of the official policy, and I have become confrontational with bosses. I'm not always like that, but I definitely have my own way of doing things, and I don't deviate from that way easily.

let's suppose your husband don't agree to work in Bar to late night or to be a friend to someone , what you will do ? did you will seperate ? or accept his choice ?

If he was telling me to not work in a bar late at night or be with friends with someone, yes, I would leave him. I had to deal with my mom telling me who I could and couldn't be friends with (one day she suddenly forbid me to visit with a friend, who was up to that point a life-long friend, because he converted to Wicca), and I won't tolerate it in a relationship.
If the situation was reversed, I wouldn't make such a request, not unless there was a very good reason, such as a friend enabling a drug addiction. Other than that, I couldn't live with myself if I was coming between my significant other and his/her friends.

 

[The Neo Nerd]

so you accept the wife who reject your requests
?

you never ever request your wife for something personal , don't talk to that "person" , or don't go to that place .... ?

I think you are struggling to understand the concept of gender equality here.

We can request and she can say no. We do not believe we own our women, therefore we cannot tell them what to do or make them.

 

[averageJOE]

The most successful women in history were obedient to no one.

 

[Godobeyer]

The most successful women in history were obedient to no one.

so you said they obedient to "no one " , in all the ways the women are obedient

just kiding

 

[Godobeyer]

I am not. There have been many times I have done things I'm not supposed to, do things my way instead of the way of the official policy, and I have become confrontational with bosses. I'm not always like that, but I definitely have my own way of doing things, and I don't deviate from that way easily.

If he was telling me to not work in a bar late at night or be with friends with someone, yes, I would leave him. I had to deal with my mom telling me who I could and couldn't be friends with (one day she suddenly forbid me to visit with a friend, who was up to that point a life-long friend, because he converted to Wicca), and I won't tolerate it in a relationship.
If the situation was reversed, I wouldn't make such a request, not unless there was a very good reason, such as a friend enabling a drug addiction. Other than that, I couldn't live with myself if I was coming between my significant other and his/her friends.

For sure there is very huge different between our cultures and communities and religions .

how about jealous , do you jealous when he talk to pretty woman , or kiss or dance ...etc ?

do you agree that your husband goes to bar or club with other woman ?

do you ever ask him to don't dance with such woman because " she is dirty " , for exemple ?

let's suppose that he admit to you that he cheat on you , will you forgive him ?

 

[Treks]

My ex-husband was the controlling type of man, and I fell into an obedient woman role. He would get angry if I went out with my friends (even female friends) and assumed I flirted with men and would leave him for someone else.

It did not take long before I started to resent him. I couldn't go out with friends, yet he could get a lift home with a female colleague, and I was supposed to be OK with that. I had to work to bring in the money, because he didn't, and yet if I had to work back late he would get angry and suggest I was seeing a man instead.

I did end up leaving him.

And now I'm much more aware and will not let a man control me like that again, and I will not surrender my freedom to make someone else happy at my own expense.

@Godobeyer , when your wife asks you not to go somewhere, do you obey her? If she is jealous of you speaking to another woman, do you stop speaking to her? If not... why not? And why is it OK to expect something of one person when you wouldn't tolerate it for yourself?

 

[SomeRandom]

How about more deep personal requests , dresse (don't wear short dresse) ,don't be friend to someone (jealous) , don't go to trip alone ...etc

Umm, if a man makes "requests" (which according to the way your comment was worded, is more akin to a command) about clothing, friends, and trips that their partner takes, it's often considered to be the first warning sign of an abusive relationship.
Not always, of course. But when a guy starts to get to the point where he is trying to change my clothing choices without a proper rational discussion with me first, then I'm getting the hell out of that relationship. Same with a guy who tells me who I can or can't be friends with, unless I have a heterosexual guy friend aggressively flirting with me and vice versa, I suppose I would understand the insecurity and discuss it with him.

 

[illykitty]

Well, I know you aimed this question at men, but I'll answer anyway, I'd rather be with someone who has opinions and doesn't do something because it's asked of them, but because they want to do it. Someone who is caring, respectful, but is independent, he/she has a head on their shoulder.

I also think that my husband married me because I am me... He never asks me to dress differently, act differently or "obey" him. I feel he respects me and treats me equally. And I also don't ask him these things and treat him well. And biggest thing of them all, we trust each other, we know we'd never cause pain deliberately or cheat and we married each other because we have similar personalities and interests.

So don't ask me any "bar" or "club" situation, because we both don't go to those places (not everyone in the west does that and like I said, part of why I married him was because of similar tastes and interests). I wouldn't marry someone who's a regular to these types of places personally, but a lot of other people have already answered and it's probably the norm to just trust the other person or leave, if there's no trust.

Because a marriage or relationship would be miserable if you suspected the other person of cheating all the time and if you feel this way about someone then either there's something you need to work on in your personality - there's no evidence and it's all in your head or if there's evidence of them cheating, then they're not the right person. I know I would be unhappy if my husband thought I was cheating, it means he doesn't really know me, doesn't trust me and assumes things about me. I am very loyal. Same goes for him, I'm sure his feelings would be hurt if I suspected him of doing such things.

It's not that complicated really.

 

[Pastek]

maybe that's why i told you before (if your remember) i am confused to choice between "Western and Algerian "local" " woman .

in general our women are obedients .

for our culture are different and tradition too , so for sure our view in this issue are different .

I know a lot of algerian women (arab and berbere) and they have strong personality most of time.