It seems there's a bit of a communication issue already. Do you and your husband talk at all about faith, church, politics, social issues, etc? If so, have you been honest with him about your questions and conclusions (which may change again as you continue to question, research, pray or quit praying, etc)? Or do you think this is truly going to hit him out of left field? If you haven't been open with him up to this point, why is that? You say he's opinionated, but apparently you are too, so that can't really be the reason that you are hesitant to bring this stuff up. A person can be opinionated without being overbearing or cruel or intimidating. I think you need to get to the real crux of WHY you have gotten this far away from your original mindset without discussing this with your spouse up to this point, before you decide to finally include him in your inner musings.
People change and grow as they mature - or get older (the two are not necessarily simultaneous happenings!). Of course, some people moreso than others, and it's always nice if a couple stays on the same path as they age and as they discover things about themselves and others, but this isn't always possible. You don't have to be mirror images of each other though - for instance my husband often tells me I'm more liberal than he is (true) and occasionally he is actually appalled by my opinions, but so what - they're MY opinions and he doesn't have to agree with me on everything in order for us to live happily together - we just have to respect the other's individuality. What makes you think that your husband will not respect your right to your own belief system?
One more question - what sort of compromise are you willing to offer when it comes to religious observances that the two of you have been apparently BOTH engaging in up to this point?
