Is it okay to beat the heck out of my autism brother?

[Kevin__Huang]

I have a younger autism brother.
This year he is turning 15.
Almost everyday he turned violent.
He threw things, try to beat my mom, and he even try to smash furnitures and TV.
I got angry and I started to hit him.
But my dad prohibited it. Only my parents are allowed to hit him.

My dad has done almost everything to cure him.
My parents said that if they grow old or passed away, it's my responsibility for taking care of him. But I don't wanna.

What would you do if you have an autism brother and you can't create a good life and future?

I'm still in high school now. I'm planning to move far away from him when I'm already finished high school.

I'm afraid if I stayed with him any longer, I can't make any friends later in college and mess up my future.

What do you guys think?
Is it okay to beat the **** of him or is it better to just leave him alone?
I'm so struggling right now

 

[Burl]

Is it okay to beat the heck out of my autism brother?

The present is embodied in Hexagram 5 - Hsu (Waiting): With sincerity, there will be brilliant success. With firmness there will be good fortune, and it will be advantageous to cross the great stream.
There are no changing lines, and hence the situation is expected to remain the same in the immediate future.

The things most apparent, those above and in front, are embodied by the upper trigram K'an (Water), which represents danger and the unknown.

The things least apparent, those below and behind, are embodied by the lower trigram Chi'en (Heaven), which represents strength and creativity.

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[Kapalika]

...what?

If it's that bad your entire family might need some serious intervention. It sounds like your entire family is highly dysfunctional all together, even if your brother is this severely autistic. Does he speak or talk at all?

 

[Kevin__Huang]

Is it okay to beat the heck out of my autism brother?

The present is embodied in Hexagram 5 - Hsu (Waiting): With sincerity, there will be brilliant success. With firmness there will be good fortune, and it will be advantageous to cross the great stream.
There are no changing lines, and hence the situation is expected to remain the same in the immediate future.

The things most apparent, those above and in front, are embodied by the upper trigram K'an (Water), which represents danger and the unknown.

The things least apparent, those below and behind, are embodied by the lower trigram Chi'en (Heaven), which represents strength and creativity.

http://www.facade.com/iching/person...eat+the+heck+out+of+my+autism+brother?+&Deck=

I don't understand....
Are you trying to say that my future will remain the same as now?

 

[Jumi]

I got angry and I started to hit him.
But my dad prohibited it. Only my parents are allowed to hit him.

If your parents are beating him, they aren't doing "everything" to help him. Actually that is making it worse. You should educate yourself on how to help your brother deal with life, if you feel like you could be capable and responsible.

 

[Kevin__Huang]

...what?

If it's that bad your entire family might need some serious intervention. It sounds like your entire family is highly dysfunctional all together, even if your brother is this severely autistic. Does he speak or talk at all?

My entire family is completely normal except my younger brother.
And yes he can talk but not like a normal person.

 

[Quintessence]

No, it is absolutely not okay to engage in battery or assault... those both result in fines/jail! This is seriously a question?

 

[Burl]

Maybe he needs a girlfriend?

 

[Twilight Hue]

I can't think of any brothers that don't beat the **** out of each other.

That said it probably wouldn't be altogether a a bad idea to look at other's in a similar situation and see how they handled it.

 

[Kevin__Huang]

If your parents are beating him, they aren't doing "everything" to help him. Actually that is making it worse. You should educate yourself on how to help your brother deal with life, if you feel like you could be capable and responsible.

My parents didn't beat him that bad.
They're like punishing a little child for doing bad things.
Even if I'm capable enough to deal with him, he's just a burden to me..

 

[Kevin__Huang]

No, it is absolutely not okay to engage in battery or assault... those both result in fines/jail! This is seriously a question?

Maybe you're right. If I get caught, then I will go to jail. But I just can't handle my anger here..

 

[LuisDantas]

No, it is absolutely not okay to engage in battery or assault... those both result in fines/jail! This is seriously a question?

Quintessence speaks for me as well. Seriously!

 

[Kevin__Huang]

Maybe he needs a girlfriend?

I don't think so....
I even doubted if he understand what is girlfriend..

 

[LuisDantas]

Maybe you're right. If I get caught, then I will go to jail. But I just can't handle my anger here..

That sounds like a good reason to make some significant changes in your environment, as well as your brothers.

Seek help if you have to, but don't even consider settling for habitual hitting from anyone on any of your family members, including your brother.

 

[Kevin__Huang]

I can't think of any brothers that don't beat the **** out of each other.

That said it probably wouldn't be altogether a a bad idea to look at other's in a similar situation and see how they handled it.

Well, brothers beating each other is okay because they're NORMAL....

 

[jeager106]

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.
Don't hit!
Period.
I live with my fiance who lives with her schizophrenic 42 year old daughter.
She is a challenge and I feel like whacking her but it's WRONG on all levels.
I'm 70 years old now and suppose I've learned a bit of tolerance.
That and I have a home of my own 40 miles away and can get out of the situation when I need too.
I get away frequently.
But NO! Don't hit.

 

[Kevin__Huang]

That sounds like a good reason to make some significant changes in your environment, as well as your brothers.

Seek help if you have to, but don't even consider settling for habitual hitting from anyone on any of your family members, including your brother.

I don't know dude. My life is mess up right now...

 

[Kevin__Huang]

Noooooooooooooooooooooooooooo.
Don't hit!
Period.
I live with my fiance who lives with her schizophrenic 42 year old daughter.
She is a challenge and I feel like whacking her but it's WRONG on all levels.
I'm 70 years old now and suppose I've learned a bit of tolerance.
That and I have a home of my own 40 miles away and can get out of the situation when I need too.
I get away frequently.
But NO! Don't hit.

Yep that's what I plan after I finished high school.
I wanna live far away from home so I can go to college peacefully.

 

[Parchment]

I have a younger autism brother.
This year he is turning 15.
Almost everyday he turned violent.
He threw things, try to beat my mom, and he even try to smash furnitures and TV.
I got angry and I started to hit him.
But my dad prohibited it. Only my parents are allowed to hit him.

My dad has done almost everything to cure him.
My parents said that if they grow old or passed away, it's my responsibility for taking care of him. But I don't wanna.

What would you do if you have an autism brother and you can't create a good life and future?

I'm still in high school now. I'm planning to move far away from him when I'm already finished high school.

I'm afraid if I stayed with him any longer, I can't make any friends later in college and mess up my future.

What do you guys think?
Is it okay to beat the **** of him or is it better to just leave him alone?
I'm so struggling right now

Locking them up in a closet or elsewhere in the family home seemed to work O.K. in Victorian times

 

[LuisDantas]

I don't know dude. My life is mess up right now...

That goes without saying. I fear there are no easy ways out of that.