Is It Possible To Like Someone Whose Views You Despise?

[Quagmire]

Sure. A lot of people adopt certain beliefs because it's easier than walking around confused, but that doesn't say anything about the level of actual conviction.

A lot of the time beliefs, opinions, views, attitudes, whatever are just part of someone's wardrobe, like a jacket with a logo that they have to put on when they go out in public.

Only people I have a hard time getting along with are the one's who refuse to take their jacket off and just relax for a while (maybe because they don't want anybody to see what's underneath).

 

[Rival]

Sure. A lot of people adopt certain beliefs because it's easier than walking around confused, but that doesn't say anything about the level of actual conviction.

A lot of the time beliefs, opinions, views, attitudes, whatever are just part of someone's wardrobe, like a jacket with a logo that they have to put on when they go out in public.

Only people I have a hard time getting along with are the one's who refuse to take their jacket off and just relax for a while (maybe because they don't want anybody to see what's underneath).

Stop talking about me.

 

[Nous]

I'm glad to see so many people answering "yes" to the question. There are a number of people I literally adore (most of whom are not family) who hold at least some views I vehemently disagree with.

 

[Quagmire]

Stop talking about me.

Sorry Rival, but your insane belief that coke is better than pepsi . . .I just can't get past that.

 

[Rival]

Sorry Rival, but your insane belief that coke is better than pepsi . . .I just can't get past that.

Nah man, you're thinking about someone else. Dr Pepper is my bae.

 

[Quagmire]

Nah man, you're thinking about someone else. Dr Pepper is my bae.

We're good then.

 

[Rival]

We're good then.

It's funny cos in all honesty I prefer Pepsi to Cola, though I rarely drink soda. It's terrible for teeth. And overall health.

 

[BSM1]

The title asks it all.
I've many friends who believe & advocate for things I find absolutely atrocious.
(Being an extremist, it's easy for me to find political & economic enmity.)
I'll avoid hating them if they're smart, civil, friendly, & want similar results though.
But I do despise people who are just plain mean.

Don't tell me who you hate (especially if it's me), but
other than that, feel free to explain, rant or ruminate.

As a musician (rock and blues) I play with a lot of other guys and gals who are mostly younger than me. About 95 per cent of them are truly headupthebutt liberals with little if any common and/or business sense. I really like these people as human beings and as fellow players. Therefore I have trained myself not to talk politics in mixed company. This, as you can imagine, was no mean feat being that running my mouth is probably one of my best traits.

 

[Quagmire]

It's funny cos in all honesty I prefer Pepsi to Cola, though I rarely drink soda. It's terrible for teeth. And overall health.

Also, all those so-called "bubbles" from the so-called "carbonation" are actually tiny neuro-transmitters designed to make us buy things we don't need, and watch hours and hours of mindless television, and join internet forums, and all kinds of things we'd never otherwise do.

Ever notice how these "bubbles" seem to go straight up your nose and lodge in your pineal gland and then "pop", as if they're delivering something? Ever notice the pattern? (I'm this close to cracking the code).

 

[Unveiled Artist]

The title asks it all.
I've many friends who believe & advocate for things I find absolutely atrocious.
(Being an extremist, it's easy for me to find political & economic enmity.)
I'll avoid hating them if they're smart, civil, friendly, & want similar results though.
But I do despise people who are just plain mean.

Don't tell me who you hate (especially if it's me), but
other than that, feel free to explain, rant or ruminate.

Yes. Only thing is when I dispise their views, they think I dispise them. If there is no problem with the person, their views isn't too much of a problem unless it is life threatening or belittles me thereby contradicting my own.

 

[columbus]

Also, all those so-called "bubbles" from the so-called "carbonation" are actually tiny neuro-transmitters designed to make us buy things we don't need, and watch hours and hours of mindless television, and join internet forums, and all kinds of things we'd never otherwise do.

Ever notice how these "bubbles" seem to go straight up your nose and lodge in your pineal gland and then "pop", as if they're delivering something? Ever notice the pattern? (I'm this close to cracking the code).

How do guys like you pull this off?
A woman says "Don't do that". You do it anyway. In minutes she's chatting you up about drinks?!

Was she begging you with her eyes?
Tom

 

[Quagmire]

How do guys like you pull this off?
A woman says "Don't do that". You do it anyway. In minutes she's chatting you up about drinks?!

Was she begging you with her eyes?
Tom

If I posted it on the internet they'd take away my "Guys like you" membership card.

 

[columbus]

If I posted it on the internet they'd take away my "Guys like you" membership card.

Boy, you are a clueless dude.
@Rival knows I wasn't actually talking to you.
Tom

 

[Nakosis]

The title asks it all.
I've many friends who believe & advocate for things I find absolutely atrocious.

I don't dislike anyone and tend to blame their "incorrect views" on genetics and brainwashing. IOW, it's not entirely their fault.

 

[Quagmire]

Boy, you are a clueless dude.
@Rival knows I wasn't actually talking to you.
Tom

In that case, I'm completely lost.

But my imaginary talking monkey just flipped you off (and I can usually trust his judgement about this kind of stuff).

 

[Debater Slayer]

The title asks it all.
I've many friends who believe & advocate for things I find absolutely atrocious.
(Being an extremist, it's easy for me to find political & economic enmity.)
I'll avoid hating them if they're smart, civil, friendly, & want similar results though.
But I do despise people who are just plain mean.

Don't tell me who you hate (especially if it's me), but
other than that, feel free to explain, rant or ruminate.

Yes, and it is also possible to dislike someone despite agreeing with most of their beliefs. It goes both ways.

I used to believe that liking or being friends with someone required that we not strongly disagree on many issues, but over the years I've come to realize that I was rather mistaken. In hindsight, I'm sure I would have missed out on a lot of opportunities for positive and thought-provoking interactions if I hadn't managed to drop my previous belief.

To be specific through personal examples, I intentionally keep a very small circle of close friends rather than a larger one of more distant friends. Currently, the only friends I have (in person) whom I talk to regularly and on a very personal level are four: one is a Christian (albeit a fairly secular one), one is a devout Muslim, one is a Muslim who is neither devout nor liberal, and one is an agnostic. I'd say the closest is the devout Muslim, and it's mutual closeness too, despite the explicit and strong disagreement we both know we have regarding each other's beliefs.

I think that as long as certain traits in personality are common between two people regardless of what beliefs they have, they can like each other. I'd befriend a gentle, respectful conservative Christian any day over a narrow-minded and/or disrespectful atheist.

 

[columbus]

In that case, I'm completely lost.

That's what I said.

But my imaginary talking monkey just flipped you off (and I can usually trust his judgement about this kind of stuff).

So, your imaginary monkey says "Eff him!" and I haven't expressed interest in effing anybody? And you're taking his advice?
Wheeeee. You straight boys are easy.
Tom

I am channeling my inner Wirey here.

 

[Geoff-Allen]

I've many friends who believe & advocate for things I find absolutely atrocious.
(Being an extremist, it's easy for me to find political & economic enmity.)
I'll avoid hating them if they're smart, civil, friendly, & want similar results though.
But I do despise people who are just plain mean.

Don't tell me who you hate (especially if it's me), but
other than that, feel free to explain, rant or ruminate.

Interesting thread!

I try to cultivate compassion for everyone - even those who are extreme in their views.

So I don't "hate" anyone - does terrible things for your peace-of-mind!

Some in my own family have diametrically opposite views from me but I love them anyway ... we DO tend to reserve our fondest thoughts for those who agree with us and who are most like us - it takes awareness & mindfulness to go the other way

All the best!

 

[Quagmire]

That's what I said.

But my imaginary talking monkey just flipped you off (and I can usually trust his judgement about this kind of stuff).

So, your imaginary monkey says "Eff him!" and I haven't expressed interest in effing anybody? And you're taking his advice?
Wheeeee. You straight boys are easy.
Tom

I am channeling my inner Wirey here.

Now he's using all four of his hands.

 

[columbus]

Now he's using all four of his hands.

And Rival rated my post funny.
The things I get away with around straight chicks is insane.
Tom