Is It Possible To Like Someone Whose Views You Despise?

[Debater Slayer]

And Rival rated my post funny.
The things I get away with around straight chicks is insane.
Tom

Especially grammar like that.

 

[Geoff-Allen]

Here's food for thought -

"Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves."

~ Carl Jung

 

[columbus]

Especially grammar like that.

"things"can be a collective noun, sometimes singular.

You're just jealous about my success with women. We won't talk about men.
Tom

 

[oldbadger]

Same. I've disowned pretty much my entire family and they've done the same with me. Oh, well. Have to make your own family sometimes. Blood isn't really thicker than water, I've learned.

True.
I know folks who have such close families, truly wonderful togetherness through all their generations, but I'm afraid that some families are just not like that.

I wish all my relatives well, and may they live happy, contented and successful lives, but I would sooner take food and drink with good mates.

 

[Quagmire]

"things"can be a collective noun, sometimes singular.

You're just jealous about my success with women. We won't talk about men.
Tom

Ya need to work on your relationship with monkeys though.

 

[columbus]

Ya need to work on your relationship with monkeys though.

Again?!
I thought women were more challenging.
Tom

 

[Debater Slayer]

You're just jealous about my success with women. We won't talk about men.
Tom

Let's ditch both men and women and stick to imaginary monkeys... and also remove the word "success" to make the competition more realistic given the new subject.

Now we just have to get @Quagmire to tie up all four of its hands so that it won't flip us off too early.

 

[Quagmire]

Let's ditch both men and women and stick to imaginary monkeys... and also remove the word "success" to make the competition more realistic given the new subject.

Now we just have to get @Quagmire to tie up all four of its hands so that it won't flip us off too early.

Too late.

 

[columbus]

Let's ditch both men and women and stick to imaginary monkeys...

Suit yourself, but I am too old and married to learn tricks like that.
You youngsters are too adventurous for me, I don't even Facebook.
Tom

 

[columbus]

Too late.

Too late for what?
All four of his hands are busy? You have already tied him up?

WHAT IS GOING ON HERE?
Tom

 

[Shadow Wolf]

Depends on the views and how strongly they feel about them. It's just too broad of a topic to give a definite yes or no, though in general it tends not to be an issue, though in the back of my mind at times I wish certain friends would shut up about some of the nonsense they believe.

 

[Revoltingest]

I don't think that we share too many political, religious or life opinions, Revolting, but I'd give you a cuddle if you needed one.

I need an <Ew!> rating.
But lacking that, you get the <optimistic> one.

 

[Revoltingest]

I generally like people I disagree with more than people I don't know what to talk to about. If we already agree then there's no reason to talk, so shut up already. But you can't build much of a friendship on "shut up already ".

You are one of the reasons I haven't deleted this pop-up ad fest from my bookmark list. It certainly isn't because we agree much. I find you willfully ignorant on almost every subject worth discussing. Especially bacon.

But you and I get along better than people smart enough to agree with me most of the time.
Tom

My secret to success is indeed ignorance.
Thank you!

 

[Revoltingest]

I would have hated a guy like me 30 years ago, so it helps if you have changed your mind on a few things!

I don't think any belief is really 'stupid' anymore , thinking so usually just means you can't follow their own personal understanding yet

Unless the belief is 'well what do the experts say, I guess they must be right'

Some beliefs are stupid, eg, heat engines which burn water.
But I'm OK with stupid beliefs....they're something to talk about.

 

[Revoltingest]

Yes. Only thing is when I dispise their views, they think I dispise them. If there is no problem with the person, their views isn't too much of a problem unless it is life threatening or belittles me thereby contradicting my own.

Some people have yet to learn that disagreement doesn't mean discord.
Woe unto those who cannot learn this.
I know some even in their 60s & 70s who never got past that.

 

[Revoltingest]

I don't dislike anyone and tend to blame their "incorrect views" on genetics and brainwashing. IOW, it's not entirely their fault.

I bask in the warm glow of your magnanimity!

 

[Revoltingest]

Interesting thread!

I try to cultivate compassion for everyone - even those who are extreme in their views.

So I don't "hate" anyone - does terrible things for your peace-of-mind!

Some in my own family have diametrically opposite views from me but I love them anyway ... we DO tend to reserve our fondest thoughts for those who agree with us and who are most like us - it takes awareness & mindfulness to go the other way

All the best!

I hate some.
But I generally control my hate so that I can enjoy it.

 

[Revoltingest]

I tend to be a judge behavior, not belief kind of person, but I'd have trouble forming meaningful bonds with someone who believes I deserve to die or be in hell or something along those lines. I try to set an example by keeping my temper (with varied success) and answer questions about my belief, ive even done quite a bit of volunteer work at and with churches. But deep personal relationship? Not yet anyway.

I know some who believe I'll burn in Hell, but it doesn't bother me because it's only their
religion which causes this......not a personal view that such a fate should befall me.

 

[Revoltingest]

A good friend of ours frequently asks my wife and I if there is anything that we ever agree on, and we've been married for 50 years. And only once over all that time did we ever go to bed angry, and the next morning we laughed because the disagreement was so stupid to begin with.

My point is there are many people whom we can have strong disagreements with and yet still respect them-- and even love them.

BTW, I don't hate anyone, but there are some people that I prefer to keep my distance from because the worst in me can come out-- and there's been many an occasion that it has.

Why are you glancing in my direction?

 

[Revoltingest]

Same. I've disowned pretty much my entire family and they've done the same with me. Oh, well. Have to make your own family sometimes. Blood isn't really thicker than water, I've learned.

My family is split down the middle, with vivid hatred dividing us.
There's the good side, & the bad side.

I'm on the good side.