I'm not sure you really understood what I was trying to say, or perhaps I didn't say it very well, but I was speaking about homosexuality as an orientation as a constitutive element of a person's very identity and self. As such, it's about a lot more than just sex. Just as being heterosexual, or heterosexual marriage, is about more than just sex. It's about love and human relationships with are certainly more than sexual. I'm saying that to be gay, and be forced to try to deny it and pretend as though you are not, is something that may be enormously destructive to a person's well-being, which goes beyond sex.