Is there a way of forcing people to do things without force ?

[Quagmire]

Show them you care about them.

That's exactly it.

We're a selfish species so it's a pretty simple recipe. We tend to:
--- like people who like us,
--- care about people who care about us,
--- respect people who respect us,
--- be interested in people who show (positive) interest in us.

And that isn't a coincidence, there's cause and effect going on there:
"That person likes me. "Therefore interacting with that person makes me feel good about myself.
"Therefore I like being around that person.
"Therefore I like that person".

Of course that doesn't always work. If you're giving attension, time, respect, or anything positive that you have to give and you're not getting it back then you're giving it to the wrong person/people.

 

[Nakosis]

Like say for an example I want people to care about me how would I get this to happen without violence ?

I can tell you the Scientology trick.
In Scientology they have the ARC triangle. Knowing how this works you can be friends with anybody, supposedly;

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To increase affinity (to make someone like you more) you need to work on increasing the other two sides.
IOW, by increasing communication with someone or increasing reality with someone, you can get them to like you better.

For example, through communication you find out they like sport - football or baseball. So you learn more about baseball, increasing the reality you share. Then communicate this shared reality of baseball with them and they start to like you more.

You just have to be careful though. For example if you talk about something they don't like. Maybe they are a republican and you are a democrat. You start to argue about politics, the reality you share decreases and you start to dislike each other. In Scientology they call this an ARC break.

So in a relationship, that's what you got to do, communicate, increase your shared reality and the affinity between the two of you will increase.

You can't have any expectation of affinity when you haven't worked at increasing the other two sides.

Generally, communication is the easiest to start with as long as you don't cause a break in your shared reality because of it.

 

[Banach-Tarski Paradox]

For example, through communication you find out they like sport - football or baseball. So you learn more about baseball, increasing the reality you share. Then communicate this shared reality of baseball with them and they start to like you more.

Baseball would be a good choice in Iowa.

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