When you say you were 'forced to attend meetings'....can you tell me what responsible parent leaves their young children at home whilst they attend 'church'? What did you expect your father to do if the rest of the family was going to the meeting?
It appears that you were a victim of the legal system which deemed that both of your parents had access to you as a minor. If neither of them did you any favors and you bolted at 16 from your father, who supposedly abandoned you over your acne (how ridiculous!) then perhaps you were a right royal pain in the backside and he realized that all his efforts were wasted? When a child grows to maturity, it is up to them to decide whether the religion of their parents is right for them. No one is born a JW. It is a choice....and no one can force it because that is not what God wants. Your experience is warped from your perspective.....it is certainly not the perspective of those who choose to become JW's because they want to. You didn't want to and that is your prerogative. Not everyone has your experience or even the perception of it.
Your "experience" has jaded your view to say the least. The impression it left on you has lasted a lifetime....but what if the impression was mostly your own doing spawned by a bad attitude on your part, coupled with the bad example set by two apparently unbalanced parents,(according to you) one of whom you describe as an alcoholic abuser?
This is a true picture of dis-functionality. You paint your father as an ogre and then say he wasn't.
Being a family head was often misinterpreted in times past to mean "I am the boss"....this is not what the scriptures teach. Family heads are to handle their assignment as Christ handled his headship over the congregation. It was to be headship exercised with love, not a dictatorship that demanded obedience or else. That is not how Jesus conducted himself.
This is your warped perception....it is your experience through your own eyes....I wonder what your father's version of events would reveal? Were you the poor hard done by child you paint yourself to be? Or were you the troubled teen who just wanted to do his own thing? Who would know from what you post? We only have your side of the story. You could have been a rebellious little twerp for all we know.
That being the case, then Jesus was nothing but a controlling dictator. Religion is an organized way to serve the interests of a very organized God. The Jews had an organized religion and Jesus was Jewish.
They are going up by the thousands every year all over the world. Between 1999 and 2013, 26,849 Kingdom Halls were built by 230,000 volunteers in 88 different countries. There is a constant need for thousands more as our ranks increase.
It is too easy to blame parents for your own shortcomings. I agree that messing up your children is not something most parents set out to do...but it happens because we are all imperfect and sometimes parents are the result of bad parenting and poor role models themselves. On reaching adulthood however, we are all then free to validate or invalidate what our parents taught us, either by example or by their words. Therapy exists to assist those who are damaged to heal the wounds.
I have to say that the ones you posted appear to be made up. They are not in the realms of my experience by a long shot. Do we have kids like you were? Yes we do and if they choose to leave, then so be it.
God doesn't want anyone who doesn't want to be there....and neither do we.
Nightmares tend to continue if we don't heal what caused them. I am saddened to see a heart so poisoned.
The truth about people is good to know, but distortions based on one person's bad experience is not useful in determining the calibre of the entire brotherhood. There are way more good people than bad in our ranks. The ones who are not serving Jehovah with all their heart will soon be weeded out. We would sooner they leave than stay around and cause dissension.
The National Safe Kids Campaign recommends that kids should be 12 years old before they are allowed to stay home alone. The truth is that there is now way JW parents or any other very religious parents are going to allow their children to stay at home because religion is about control. People always want to push their beliefs onto others and children can't really do anything about it.
What did I expect my father to do? Ask me whether I would like to miss out on the Kingdom Hall experience and respect my decision.
I was a victim of a legal system? I was not a victim of the legal system. In 1971 mothers almost always got custody and fathers got two weekends a month visitation.
I did not bolt from my father at age 16. He stopped picking me up for his weekends and I never called him to find out why because the weekend that I had seen him he went berserk because he thought I was being punished by God.
Maybe I was a pain in the backside? I rarely talked. I completely closed down because I was so afraid to say anything around him. Jokes did not serve God. Music did not serve God. Funny stories were lies. There was no point in talking since everything was forbidden. I did wet the bed sometimes but only on the weekends at my dads. Even with all the abuse at home with my mom I never once wet the bed there. I think my dad felt that I did not buy into the JW thing simply because I had asked questions.
When a child grows to maturity it is up to them to decide whether the religion of their parents is right for them? But JW's teach that you are to cut people out of their lives if they do not accept the JW beliefs. For some kids it's just easier to pretend that they are into the JW thing just so they can still have a relationship with their parents.
No one is born a JW? Sure they are. Many kids do get out and do their own thing but what child or young adult doesn't need their parents any more?
My perspective is not the same as those who choose to be JW's? Of course it's not. Those who choose to be JW's think they are going to get paradise earth. They think that God is going to fix things so all they have to do is wait. That is not what's going to happen. God does not fix things for you or for humanity. Humans have to do it. And, believe it or not, some people join religions because they like the idea that others are going to burn for believing something different.
What if it was all my fault? Right, blame the children for being afraid to go door to door and not accepting the primitive belief that God is an angry and jealous God who burns people. If I or anyone chooses to not accept JW beliefs then it would have to be our fault, right? It couldn't be JW's.
I paint my father as an ogre and then say he wasn't? Ogre is your chosen word, not mine. He was not abusive, just very cold, unemotional, and uneducated, but absolutely in total control of the house. To me the JW religion was and is abusive. You don't spank your kids at church just because they fall asleep.
Family heads are to handle it like Christ? In the 70's JW's did not preach about Christ very much. All this JW's preaching about Jesus is new. My dad used to say that Christians give too much worship to Jesus and he always argued that Jesus did not die on the cross but on a stake.
You wonder what my father's version would reveal? Probably that I was very quiet and never talked. Probably that I would run from his car when he dropped me off at home. Probably that I never called him and never said "I love you" to him and that I never gave him a father's day card. And he might say that one time in a store I asked him to buy me a set of green plastic army soldiers and he wouldn't do it because JW's don't believe in green plastic army soldiers. And he might say that he paid $3,000 for my teeth to get fixed when I was 12 years old and one time he paid the school $300 so I could get an extra milk for a month. Oh, and I'm sure he would bring up the time I threw a crying tantrum at Disneyland because he would not buy me a black cowboy hat. Yep, I was just soooo bad.
I could have been a rebellious little twerp? Right, blame the children. It's their fault.
Jesus was a controlling dictator? If one of the apostles wanted to leave the group, would Jesus have said "No, now go up to all the doors in the town and sell magazines."
Jesus did not establish a religion, that was done much later. Jesus did not build a church. His "church" was people.
Religion is an organized way to serve the interests of God? How would you know what the interests of God are? From books written thousands of years ago by men who were afraid of comets?
Jesus was Jewish? A Jew who preached new ideas and condemned certain ideas like stoning to death.
JW church's are going up by the thousands every year all over the world? 8.13 million regulars, which sounds like a lot until you realize that is out of 7.4 billion people worldwide. JW's make up just 0.8% of the US population, that is behind Muslims, Hindus, Chinese, and Buddhists, and atheists.
It's easy to blame parents for my own shortcomings? I blame them for their actions. I also blame them for hindering my development of better social skills because I could not talk to either of them without getting a snotty answer or a "God will provide" answer. Other than that, I have way more education that either of them ever got, way more money than they ever had, I retired much earlier than they did, I've seen more of the world, and I created something beautiful. And I know a whole lot more jokes than either of them. That's more than a lot of people can say.
The stories I posted appear to be made up? They would have to be, right? Anything bad about JW's just has to be made up.
God does not want anyone who does not want to be there? God creates beauty. What beauty is there in a Kingdom Hall? It's dry, boring, dull, a completely inhuman place. You chose to make your religion boring. God is not boring, God created music, art, laughter, happiness, you think we laugh because it's some mistake?
There are more good people than bad in the JW ranks? When a JW does something wrong it's not the religions fault, it's the person's fault because JW religion is perfect in every way.