So saying things like "please watch over my son who's going to blabla" or "please help my husband with his cancer" etc, in prayer is utterly useless?
I would like to address this mindset because it betrays the "genie" mentality that so many people have been taught to have about prayer. God is not sitting up in heaven with a switchboard cutting some people off whilst granting requests to others. Prayer is not a request for miracles. Those who think it is, are not very knowledgeable about God or the purpose of prayer in the Bible.
Philippians 4:6-7...
"Do not be anxious over anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication along with thanksgiving, let your petitions be made known to God; 7 and the peace of God that surpasses all understanding will guard your hearts and your mental powers by means of Christ Jesus."
Prayer can take many forms....and God will answer them in ways we do not expect or even understand at times. It is important to note that the result of that prayer is "peace"...whatever the outcome.
Take also the Lord's Prayer which was given as a model for our own....what was the subject of his prayer?
"9 After this manner therefore pray ye. Our Father who art in heaven, Hallowed be thy name.
This was not a prayer to be repeated mindlessly, but a "manner" upon which to model our own prayers.
First priority was God's name and his reputation....called into question by unbelievers, but faithful ones will respect and promote it.
10 Thy kingdom come. Thy will be done, as in heaven, so on earth.
Second was the coming of his kingdom so that God's will can be done on earth as it is in heaven. The whole purpose of the Kingdom was to bring faithful humans back into a close and personal relationship with God, as we should have had in the beginning, before sin created a barrier. The sacrifice of Christ will remove that barrier during the rule of the Kingdom. In the meantime, we have an appointed Mediator who acts as a 'go-between' so that sinful humans can still approach God in prayer. So what were the kinds of requests that should be made?
11 Give us this day our daily bread.
This is a request for life's necessities, simply
enough on a daily basis to sustain our lives. It is not a request for a banquet....or riches or anything other than sustenance.....a meeting of our needs, which is what God did for Israel in their wilderness wanderings.
12 And forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors.
God's forgiveness of our sins is dependent on our forgiving others for sins committed against us. It leaves no room for revenge or for holding a grudge. Forgiveness prevents the fomenting of hatred and revenge, which the Bible says is a recipe for ill health. (Psalm 14:30)
13 And bring us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one." (Matthew 6:9-13 ASV)
It ends there, but for Protestants it has an additional ending that was not part of the original prayer.
This is asking for the wisdom to recognize a temptation from the devil and to help us not to be ensnared....and if we are for some reason, to give us the means to regain our footing.
When I see people praying for a dying or afflicted relative that a miracle might happen to 'save them' and then to see their hopes dashed, it makes me angry that someone planted a false idea about prayers in their minds in the first place.
What it is proper to pray for is the strength to endure whatever the devil may deliver upon us in his attempts to get us to give up on God in this world. We are living in the greatest object lesson in history and it is the greatest tragedy for believers when the devil comes off victorious. For every person he lures away from the true God, it is one more who will descend into death with him. It is a Pyrrhic victory because satan already knows his fate....but it is sweetened with every addition to his ranks.
This is not the age of miracles....it is the age of endurance. (Matthew 24:13)