It is only nine months, too soon for me to know what I want to do. Actually, I did get a new furnace a couple of months ago, as my old one was on its last leg and it was too old to get parts to repair it. It had become a fire hazard and I was not about to take any chances so I went without hear for two weeks, before I could get it replaced. My kitchen and bathrooms are old but I don't really need to remodel anything although the front deck could be replaced and the roof needs cleaning. Most of the carpet is in bad shape because of what cats did years ago, but that would be a big project to replace it. If I was going to stay here and I had someone else living with me I might be motivated but otherwise I don't care. I have my carpets covered up with throw rugs. That was the extent of my living room remodeling. I still cannot sleep in the bedroom so I sleep on the couch in the living room with at least three cats.
I am glad to hear you got all that work done but as you said it took a while before you were ready to get on with the house maintenance projects that were needed. I don't know if I will ever be ready but at least your experience gives me some hope for the future. Right now the most important thing I need to do is stay above the depression, however I can do that, and finding people to talk to is a big part of that.
I hope your heart operation goes well and at least you have people who are to come and visit you. When I was dead set on getting married again, as you might recall, I was not looking for romantic love but rather companionship and some help around the house, but since most men are looking for romantic love that is a pipe dream.
I have come to a point where I am pretty detached about the idea of getting remarried and I am leaving it to fate and the will of God. On the other hand, I cannot imagine being alone for the rest of my life either, so I feel like I am in between a rock and a hard place. Please bear in mind that I have no children or other family and I have no friends who I see in person. It is possible to make friends but that isn't as easy as it sounds.
Actually, I never liked spring very much and I never even noticed it was spring until this year, since my life has been in chaos for over 20 years. Now with my husband gone, and other things settling down, I notice the trees and the clouds and the birds and squirrels scurrying around on my deck. However, sadly, this month and the three to follow are the anniversassary of my husband's diagnosis and demise, so I am just hoping and praying that I am able to get through these months and I am grateful that I have the GriefShare group until July 15. After that I will have to figure out what to do. I try to take one day at a time, that is all I can do.