Lesbians

[Worshipper]

I think B first, but then I realize A is probably also there. Just like when I here someone is a heterosexual man, I think B first but then realize that A is probably also there.

I guess I'm kind of the opposite of Spleen — I think first of love and romance and only later of sex.

 

[Reiðrœska]

I think Rita-Mae Brown is stereotyping men (not surprising - she's a feminist, right?).

If someone says they are a lesbian then I think "b" first and then "a."
There's my honest answer.

she's a feminazi, right?

Fix'd

Anyway, if you said to me "I'm a lesbian", the first thing I would think of is "My poor, shattered heart". I'd think both A and B. You can't really want to have sex with other women without being attracted to him. To be honest though, I think being a lesbian is more defined by wanting to have sex with other women but not men. You could be a lesbian but still love men, could you not? You wouldn't have to find them sexually attractive, just love them.

 

[Aishikyo]

Women who love women are Lesbians.

Men, because they can only think of women in sexual terms, define "Lesbian" as sex between women. -Rita Mae Brown

Do you think this is true? Do straight people define lesbian as "sex between women"? When they do this, are they denying that two women could possibly be in love with each other and thus the relationship is only sexual in nature?

If I were to say, "I am a lesbian." What would be the first thought that pops into your head:
a) she has/wants to have sex with other women, or
b) she loves and is attracted to other women?

Be honest.


p.s. Please, do not use this thread to discuss the morality of lesbianism/homosexuality.

I would think both b and a, usually.

 

[Ashley-Yin]

if theyre prejudice its about sex!

 

[Women_Of_Reason]

If someone were to tell me that she is a lesbian (and even if she doesn't tell me for that matter) I could have one of the following reactions:

1: I want to have sex with her right here and now!!!
2: She seems interesting, I should know her more...
3: She's not my type anyways.

 

[Kathryn]

Definitely choice B. I do think that women are more complex than men sexually and a little harder to CATEGORIZE. Maybe that's a sexist thing for me to say, I don't know. It's just my honest opinion.

 

[Green Gaia]

Definitely choice B. I do think that women are more complex than men sexually and a little harder to CATEGORIZE. Maybe that's a sexist thing for me to say, I don't know. It's just my honest opinion.

I think so too. Not to knock men, it's not their fault, it's just how they are "wired" to think about and approach sex. Most of the time I think it's very different for women, straight, bisexual or lesbian.

 

[3.14]

I have been on the internet to long the first thing that comes to my mind when i hear lesbian is my top 10 lesbian porn movies.

 

[Nanda]

I have been on the internet to long the first thing that comes to my mind when i hear lesbian is my top 10 lesbian porn movies.

Those aren't lesbians.

 

[Green Gaia]

Those aren't lesbians.

They could be... but they don't look or act like any lesbians I know or want to know.

 

[Women_Of_Reason]

They could be... but they don't look or act like any lesbians I know or want to know.

How do you know? You don't know what his top 10 movies are... Although I'd be surprised if he watches real lesbian porn

 

[Storm]

Women who love women are Lesbians.

Men, because they can only think of women in sexual terms, define "Lesbian" as sex between women. -Rita Mae Brown

Do you think this is true? Do straight people define lesbian as "sex between women"? When they do this, are they denying that two women could possibly be in love with each other and thus the relationship is only sexual in nature?

If I were to say, "I am a lesbian." What would be the first thought that pops into your head:
a) she has/wants to have sex with other women, or
b) she loves and is attracted to other women?

Be honest.


p.s. Please, do not use this thread to discuss the morality of lesbianism/homosexuality.

Honestly, I don't see a significant difference between A and B, just semantics.

 

[Women_Of_Reason]

Honestly, I don't see a significant difference between A and B, just semantics.

I have to agree with you on this one.

 

[Green Gaia]

How do you know? You don't know what his top 10 movies are... Although I'd be surprised if he watches real lesbian porn

True.. true..

 

[TurkeyOnRye]

Honestly?

It depends on the context.

If the topic of conversation was love/intimacy/affection etc., and someone brought up that they were gay or lesbian, I would take it in such a context.
If the topic of conversation was sexuality, same thing.

On the whole though, my reaction would be answer C: Both.


But what if I was walking down a street and someone I didn't even know just said blankly to me "Homosexual"? What does it mean? What does it embody?

To me, it embodies the social stigma of an uptight society. It defines a minority group of people who are sometimes hated for their lifestyle and who will endure a lifetime of struggle for the sake of love, a struggle that many straight people may never fully understand.

 

[painted wolf]

Honestly I would start with B...
But you know A can and does often follow B.

wa:do

 

[ThereIsNoSpoon]

Women who love women are Lesbians.

Men, because they can only think of women in sexual terms, define "Lesbian" as sex between women. -Rita Mae Brown

Do you think this is true? Do straight people define lesbian as "sex between women"? When they do this, are they denying that two women could possibly be in love with each other and thus the relationship is only sexual in nature?

If I were to say, "I am a lesbian." What would be the first thought that pops into your head:
a) she has/wants to have sex with other women, or
b) she loves and is attracted to other women?

Be honest.


p.s. Please, do not use this thread to discuss the morality of lesbianism/homosexuality.

My honest first thought if I see a lady that is attractive telling me she is lesbian is :
c) She doesnt want to have sex with me.
If that option is not allowed then i would take a)
I would agree that the first look is (at least for me) rather a sexual one.

Similarly the first thought that i have when someone (man) i don't know offers me his "credentials" as being gay i do automatically think about him having sex (and me thus feeling somewhat disgusted as opposed to the idea of lesbian sex which i find rather stimulating).

In any case however i do not see lesbians or gay people as people having only sexual relationships or not being in love with one another. Nor do i have any bad ideas or feelings towards them.

I guess my reply is a bit too short to really explain things.