I'm conservative, or traditionalist(fundamentalist is too reactionary for me). Nothings going to change that. But I need a few things cleared up.
"Conservative or traditionalist" means what exactly? Are there 'levels' of Christianity in your view?
1: If Hell doesn't exist, where did Hitler, bin Laden, and Vlad the Impaler go? If a person lives good a morally his entire life, don't you think he or she would get upset that those three are there?
"Hell" is translated from different words in the original languages of the Bible....none of which ever meant a place of torment. "Hell" (Hebrew, "sheol", Greek "hades") was a place of rest......a place where no one was conscious and therefore not able to interact or communicate with the living. (Ecclesiastes 9:5, 6, 10)
The demons it seems, can impersonate the dead in a bid to perpetuate satan's first lie....the we "surely will not die". God said we would return to the dust. God's people were warned not to dabble in spiritism because it was detestable to him. (Deuteronomy 18:9-12)
Ask yourself where Lazarus was before Jesus raised him? (John 11:11-14) Jesus said he was "sleeping".
Jesus promised to awaken all those in their graves, "both the righteous and the unrighteous" under the rulership of his kingdom (John 5:28-29) to give them a fresh start.
The wicked, on the other hand, will never awaken. God does not need to punish them forever.....they just won't be alive ever again. Why does he need to do more? God's justice does not demand anything higher than the death penalty.
"Gehenna" is another word translated "hell" in many Bibles. It is the place where Jesus consigned the wicked Pharisees. (Matthew 23:33) It is a symbolic place where the dead never wake up. It just meant permanent death. To his Jewish audience this simply meant that the wicked would not be resurrected.
"Tartarus" is mentioned only once and it is the place where the demon angels were consigned. It is not a place where humans ever go. It is a state of restriction where they can no longer materialize as they did in the days of Noah. (2 Peter 2:4; Jude 6)
The "lake of fire" is another designation for "gehenna". Whatever goes into this "lake of fire" never comes out. It is a place of symbolic, permanent destruction. "Death and hades" are also thrown into this place...never to be seen again. (Revelation 20:13-15)
We know that the God of the Bible has no need to torture or to incarcerate anyone for any reason because this was reflected in the laws he gave to his people. There were no prisons in ancient Israel and no punishment involved torture of any sort. The death penalty applied to capital crimes, ensuring that a murderer never re-offended. He "paid" for the life he took by forfeiting his own life....just as Jesus "paid" for the lives of Adam's children by laying down his own life for them. Justice is satisfied. Everlasting life is contrasted by everlasting death.
There is no immortal soul that goes anywhere at death. We go to the same place as all living things do when they die.(Ecclesiastes 3:18-20)...back to the dust from which we were taken. (Genesis 3:19) The "righteous and the unrighteous" will be restored to life, but the incorrigibly wicked will not.
A promised resurrection is what makes us different to the animals.
2: I know you emphasis love and forgiveness, a true christian should. However, you're stepping back from the laws makes me feel like you have some humanist fear of the public's opinion. Christ said he is love, but he also said he is the way and that he came to affirm the laws.
Jesus said he came to "fulfill the law"..."not to destroy it". What parts of the law was he referring to? The sacrificial parts....the ceremonial parts of the law that all pointed forward to his ministry and his sacrificial death. He reaffirmed the moral aspects of the law as well, by inferring that all of the law was based on just two fundamental principles.....'love of God and neighbor.' (Matthew 22:37-40)
3: You say judge them by their fruit, but your more quick to judge your conservative brothers and sisters more than anyone else. I find that to be some kind of misdirection, which again feels like your scared of public opinion.
The first person any of us should judge, is ourselves. (log and straw parable) We are the only ones that we are under obligation to change. We can offer our brothers and others advice and correction if necessary, but not from a position of superiority. It would be offered humbly and lovingly, like Jesus did.
4: I respect and love others who do not follow as I do. I just don't see why that means I change my belief system simply because their in close proximity to me. Christ broke bread with the thief yes, but he he did not commit theft.
The only reason Jesus kept company with 'sinners' was to offer them the message and hope of the Kingdom, which was lost in apostate Judaism. He tried to correct wrong thinking and attitudes, but only the humble ones responded to his teachings.
God sent him, not to the self-righteous Pharisees, but to "the lost sheep of the House of Israel". Those lost sheep were floundering because their shepherds had neglected them. They became a flock under the Find Shepherd who offered them refreshment, not condemnation.....they were different in their attitudes and conduct to their former religious teachers. Jesus set the example for all of us who claim him as our "Lord".....but "many" will not be found "doing the will" of his Father. (Matthew 7:21-23)..."Few" he said are on the "cramped and narrow" road to life. (Matthew 7:13-14)
This is no a judgement. These are just the four major issues of your faith that I need clearing up.
These are issues of every faith that need clearing up.
Christians are commanded to be "no part of this world" and Jesus said that they would be "hated" for that stance. (John 15:18-21) They are no part of its conflicts, greed or immorality because of who is running that show. (1 John 5:19)
They were commanded to preach the "good news (gospel) of the kingdom" before the foretold "end" of the present world system would "come". (Matthew 24:14; 28:19-20)
They would be following Jesus' commands.....all of them....not just the convenient ones. That includes his instructions on marriage and divorce. (Matthew 19:9)
Christians can't pick and choose what parts of Jesus' instructions they will follow and what they won't. True Christianity does not compromise for the sake of pleasing selfish humans.
It sometimes involves great sacrifice, but none greater than what Christ did for us.
That is my take on things.