hate doesn't attract; in fact, as you so clearly noted it creates avoidance.Emotions, Trust and Compassion belong to a lot of living things, I've had many pets that I loved and was loved it return. But If I caged them, starved them or constantly beat them they would no longer love me. For that matter no animal loves unconditionally and with animals trust must always be built up first.
so hatred is a poison that eventually destroys itself as it destroys that which surrounds it.
the harder the self tries to maintains the illusion of us vs them, the closer to self-destruction it becomes.
we may physically control something, but you can never really control the mind and emotional state of another.