What type of love does god have for his enemies to where he is excused of disobeying his own commandments? (sorry to put it bluntly; it is confusing)
It is understandable to be confused about it. The creation is now in a state of confusion -and God's actions will change that.
Human laws often apply to humans differently -depending on their position or other factors.
Police are not seen as being guilty of a crime if they break the speed limit, for example.
The whole situation needs to be considered.
The commandments were given to mankind by God -and the difference between mankind and God needs to be considered.
"Thou shalt not kill" is essentially a commandment God might seem to be breaking every time someone dies -because he specified that the soul that sins should die -and limited human years to about 120.
God is able to raise all from the dead.
When God kills, it is specifically toward -and with the intent of -changing the state of humans from mortal to immortal -in body and mind.
When humans kill -that is not the case.
He essentially takes us all out -then raises us all up.
It is also a temporary situation. When he has finished creating us as gods, he will no longer do the things which were once necessary to accomplish that.
Rom 12:17Do not repay anyone evil for evil. Be careful to do what is right in the eyes of everyone. 18If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. 19
Do not take revenge, my dear friends, but
leave room for God’s wrath, for it is written:
“It is mine to avenge; I will repay, says the Lord".
Just as the police can break the law without guilt -so can God -but God does so in order to correct evildoers -not simply to punish them.
Vengeance is God's because he can do it right. Anger is a force for change -and God is able to direct his anger appropriately.
Men would take their vengeance and be done with it.
Men might be satisfied with the knowledge that another "paid for what they did" -but God created a situation which necessitates that he do that which is extremely unpleasant to him for a time.
It actually pains God to mete out necessary vengeance -but he does so to bring about the end result -which will benefit all upon whom he takes vengeance.
Eze 33:11 Say unto them, As I live, saith the Lord GOD,
I have no pleasure in the death of the wicked; but that the wicked turn from his way and live: turn ye, turn ye from your evil ways; for why will ye die, O house of Israel?
Even if men took vengeance with a different attitude, it would not be specifically ordered.
All of God's actions are based on the consideration of all things -and men are not able to do that.
It is also not good for the well-being or future of humans for to be vengeful -or to take vengeance -so God takes that upon himself.
Isa 35:4 Say to them that are of a fearful heart, Be strong, fear not: behold, your
God will come with vengeance, even God with a recompence; he will come and save you.
Rom 3:4 God forbid: yea, let God be true, but every man a liar; as it is written, That thou mightest be justified in thy sayings, and mightest overcome when thou art judged.
Rom 3:5 But if our unrighteousness commend the righteousness of God, what shall we say?
Is God unrighteous who taketh vengeance? (I speak as a man)
Rom 3:6
God forbid: for then how shall God judge the world?
The vengeance of God will eventually save all -even from themselves and their own ways.
Christ will literally fight and destroy those who attempt to fight and destroy him at his return -but even those he will eventually raise up and give the opportunity
to live forever.
Luk 21:22 For these be the
days of vengeance, that
all things which are written may be fulfilled.
Zec 14:3 Then shall the LORD go forth, and fight against those nations, as when he fought in the day of battle.
1Co 15:26 The last enemy that shall be destroyed is death.