Dear, we all love people whether males or females,
Which is true, I would hope, of any considerate human being. I love people Platonically whether they approve of whom I love or not. I won't abide blatant disregard for civility, though. I try to be civil with people even if I disagree with how they feel or what they believe unless they're hurting people.
tarekabdo said:
it's a disease only to love a person of the same sex in a way the was designed in another way so don't mix things together. I may love one of my friends more than my wife but practicing sex with him is something else. This is becoming out of the bright way that was designed by God. Designed through the complementarity in bodies, emotions and the ability to create a family.
I don't think anybody denies that males and females are biologically complementary. I don't think anybody denies that homosexuality is "abnormal" in the sense that if it were the norm there would be no future generations. (Luckily for the species, only about 10% at the highest estimates of people are homosexual, though.) That's not the issue here.
It's also not the issue of creating a family. Nobody objects when adult males and females form romantic relationships that don't lead to families, such as when they're infertile or simply don't desire children. Humans will not go extinct because of homosexuals because they have been and always will be a minority.
The issue is the false belief that genuine homosexuals choose who they're attracted to (and conversely who they're not attracted to). The issue is the belief that homosexuals can't have what you call complementary emotions -- they do. I do. We (my fiancee and I) do.
tarekabdo said:
Also, I've mentioned before that studies point to the effects of homosexuality whether medical or psychological which also proves that it's not the right way.
No, the studies that you referenced indicated that there are disproportionate numbers of people with
high-risk lifestyles. Homosexuality is
not a lifestyle (no more than "attracted-to-blondeness" is a lifestyle), and correlation does not imply causation.
Keep in mind that homosexuals are undeniably a repressed minority in nearly every society on Earth. Take a look at studies and statistics of other repressed minorities and you'll find the same patterns of high-risk lifestyles. As a midwesterner in America, I've seen firsthand the effects of repression on "racial" minorities and the economically downtrodden: there are legitimate studies that show STD's, drug habits, and other "high-risk lifestyle" factors are disproportionately present in racial minorities and poorer communities.
Does the fact that studies show, for instance, that a black teenager in the USA is far more likely to fall into a "high-risk lifestyle" than a suburban white teenager suggest that there's something inherently "wrong" with being black?
Of course not! That would be absolutely ridiculous to believe or to assert.
Repressed minorities tend to have higher rates of high-risk lifestyles because they often don't get the support and nurturing that they need. Have you ever considered that maybe there's a disproportionate number of homosexuals with high-risk lifestyles for the same reasons? Again, homosexuality is not a lifestyle any more than being black is a lifestyle. Nothing about being homosexual inclines a person towards a high-risk lifestyle -- being repressed by a needlessly disapproving society certainly can, though.
tarekabdo said:
So, you can talk the way you want but actions are different. Many people talk and try to make ugly things sound beautiful but at the end we all know that truth and you are sure of the truth, it's just a void argument.
It seems arrogant to me to assume that something is ugly regardless of others' experience with it to the extent that you believe the argument is over before it begins. I don't care for or want your
approval of homosexuality. I don't care if you
loathe it, or if you express your opinion that you believe it's morally wrong. I
do care when someone belittles my love for another person as though it somehow isn't real without remorse, though.
I'm not unfair or biased against religious belief -- I give all things an equal chance -- but I find a lot of it probably equally as repugnant as you find homosexuality. I find it absolutely abhorrent that people indoctrinate credulous children in religion before they're old enough for legitimate rational thought. Even so, I never -- and hope that continues through the future -- belittle someone's belief publicly as a
disease that needs to be "cured" out of respect for those who cherish that belief. Is it really a lot to ask for the same common respect?
tarekabdo said:
Moreover, many of those who are like you consider homosexuality a curse and others who were like you were very happy when they finally were able to desert this thing which you may consider it a gift-or just say so as nobody has reached your heart-. Anyway, finding homosexuality a bad act doesn't mean that I wish that homos should be cursed but only hate the act in itself and wish they'd abandon it.
Homosexuality is only a curse insofar as wicked people persecute homosexuals needlessly. It's not something that can be changed or "cured" any more than you can be changed or "cured" to start being sexually attracted to the same sex. Some people are bisexual and can freely be attracted to either sex -- this can lead to the illusion that someone may have been exclusively homosexual and then "cured" to heterosexuality, but that simply isn't the case.
Certain religions might discourage and condemn homosexuality, but that's not an excuse to repress people or to prevent them from having equal civil rights. Some people are born infertile -- it isn't "normal" for them to be that way, but they can't help it; since they're consenting and sentient adults society accepts them even though they are different and acknowledges their love between one another as genuine.
What's different? Some people are born with the predisposition to be attracted to the same sex and the incapacity to be attracted to the opposite sex. It isn't "normal" for them to be that way (though it is certainly
natural), but the fact of the matter is that they
are that way and it's not something that can be changed. Since they're consenting and sentient adults society
should accept them even though they're different and acknowledge their love between one another as genuine.
If some people have religious beliefs against it, that's fine -- that's their right. It's
not their right to repress homosexual people though; it's
not their right to vote against their equal civil rights or to publicly shout vitriol without any consideration for their dignity or feelings whatsoever. I will never vote to oppress religious rights, I will never speak deliberately hateful and belittling things against peoples' religious beliefs even if I strongly question them and their (in my opinion) ill-informed morality. Is it so much to ask the same?
