Fluffy said:
I am uncertain about the exact psychological effects of taking such a course of therapy. I know it would not work for me but if it does for you then that is cool.
I like to think it works for me, but I wouldn't be surprised if this was just self delusion. If the person to whom I am complaining argues back, thus engaging in argument, it usually turns out worse than if I had not said anything at all.
Fluffy said:
However, you must realise that when somebody complains, any other person will automatically try and find the most efficient solution to the complaints. I'm sure if it became apparent to them that you were not complaining because you didn't like something but refused to do anything about it but you were complaining merely as a way of dealing with your anger then, being more enlightened of your motives, they would have less of a problem with your decision not to vote yet still complain.
It seems to me that, in general, my male friends understand that we all only complain or argue about topics such as this for therapeutic reasons, and thus the arguments are academic at best. However, my female friends seem to take these arguments much more to heart and more seriously, thus causing more anger and annoyance. There are obviously exceptions to this rule; I'm not attempting to be sexist, just stating my observation.
Fluffy said:
I am saying that there is no point in getting angry over something that either I cannot change or I cannot be bothered to change. In this example, if I could not be bothered to vote or attempt to get what I want in some other way then I have nobody to complain about but myself. If I voted but the vote went against me then complaining is still pointless since I can continue to campaign for what I want. If I felt that an issue was beyond my control and I was powerless to face it then the more healthy option would be to accept it as an inevitable part of my life rather than try and oppose it which would be, by definition, futile.
Acceptance mostly comes after anger for me, but it always comes eventually. Perhaps this is why any views I have have become dull over time, and I don't care much anymore about the things about which I cared in the past.
PureX said:
If you have the right to vote, and are too lazy or stupid to exercise it with due dilligence, then I would say that you are a fool and that you deserve the lousy politicians that you get.
wikipedia said:
Due diligence (also known as due care) is the effort made by an ordinarily prudent or reasonable party to avoid harm to another party or himself.
So I'm not allowed to vote if it will harm 'another party'? [since it is not contractual, whatever 'party' this may be is undefined- people, countries animals?] This isn't democratic.
If you use one spray of Lynx(tm) then you deserve all the sunburn you get caused by the depletion of the Ozone layer that was in turn caused by the release of chlorofluorocarbons into the atmosphere. Does one spray of Lynx(tm) affect the Ozone layer in such a drastic way? No, it doesn't.
PureX said:
Unfortunately, your fellow citizens who do vote and who do try to keep up with the behavior of their representatives suffer because you choose to be the fool.
How in the hell do
they suffer by me personally not voting? How would the Universe, Earth or country of my birth be affected if I did/didn't vote?
I keep up with their behaviour insofar as it goes 'Tony Blair does X,' 'David Cameron criticises Tony Blair for doing X for no reason other than he is the leader of the opposition, and so irrespective of his actual ideological views, the politician in him screams "Attack him!!! He said some certain thing and/or stated his views on some certain issue!!! Disagree quickly!!!"' This is politics in general, and it is why I don't like it, because it is untruthful charades perpetrated by people whose collective goals are actually the same thing: power. Some start out benevolent, but power corrupts.
/takes the moral high ground and moves on
spacemonkey said:
Great episode of South Park about this, its called "Douche and Turd" and is on the recently released 8th season on DVD and I highly recommend watching it. If for no other reason than P Diddy's "Vote or die motherf***** vote or die".
Gah I've actually seen this episode but only remember the beginning, and a small bit at the end where someone says, 'Even if the vote is only between a Douche and a Turd, you should vote anyway.' It was a good episode.
gnomon said:
The pop star's lifestyle is truly not open to public opinion. Local elections are and are also far more dependant on an individuals vote than a national election.
Some would say that we have a duty to look out for and protect our fellow man, just as we have a duty to vote. If said pop star is glamourising drink and drugs, having sex with underaged girls, or getting away with other infringements of the Law of the Land, then one could be said to have a duty to attempt to change this.
gnomon said:
I was referencing, here in the States, the efforts of women and minorities to exercise the same rights already held by others. They didn't fight for my right to vote. Well, actually in a way they did. Just wanted to clarify I'm not talking about those who fought in wars.
Ok, I see I misinterpreted. Thanks for the clarification.
(Gosh, it's a good job I'm not female, or I would have the suffragette league on my back aswell).
gnomon said:
The communist party is still around.
Nixon: "In our darkest hour we can stand erect with proud, upthrust bosoms!"
Fry: "Anyone who laughs is a communist!"
gnomon said:
I would disagree. Not all governments are fundamentally the same. Those of us in the states are trying to hold on to a Constitutional Republic (I hope). Federalism currently reigns supreme and I hope that it doesn't continue until Washington D.C. holds all power. I shudder at the thought of living in a theocratic nation or under any sort of dictatorship. We have lost some of our rights in this nation because too many people just stopped caring. Sometimes I blame the media, I always blame the politicians but eventually it comes back to the people.
My earlier comment about them all being fundamentally the same I should state I meant only for England, and then only for the three biggest parties: Labour, Conservative, and Liberal Democrat. I only really believe this because the only party policies that I see are mostly in attack of the other parties or are made in comparison to other parties, and so it just seems like one big slanging match.
This is then solidified by watching
any Prime Minister's Questions, whereby the two leaders proceed to call each other and laugh in their little "gangs" while attempting an everlasting puerile game of one-upmanship.
gnomon said:
It's likened to preseason stupidity.
Honestly, I often feel the way you do. Usually its due to an overwhelming pessimism about the future. But now that many years of overcoming mental health issues and legal problems I'm wanting to get more involved. Maybe I'm just a glutton for punishment and disappointment.
I wish I were cool like you masochists