Trailblazer
Veteran Member
By reading all the Profiles of many men on various dating sites of “what men want in a woman” I have come to the conclusion that I do not have what most men want, and most men do not have what I want. In short, I do not want to live for this world and all it has to offer, but that is what most men want. Coming to this realization is kind of disheartening because I really don’t want to be alone for the rest of my life, but I think it is best to know oneself and act accordingly.
It is almost unbelievable what many men expect to find in a woman! I have very few requirements of a man, compared to all the requirements that most men have of a woman. Financially, I already have more than I will ever need to live on, and I don’t need a man to make me a whole person. The only reason I would want to be married would be to have a companion, someone to talk to about God and spiritual things, someone to turn to for emotional support, and someone to share in the activities of everyday life, including fun things but also household duties.
I don’t want to get married unless I can make a man’s life better, so if I don’t have what a man wants there is no point even considering a relationship with him. I would never be happy with a man unless he was happy with my character, my values, and my lifestyle. There are some things I can change, but there are some things that are nonnegotiable, like my cats and my religion.
There are some things I am not going to change because that is not who I am. I am not suddenly going to become a woman of the world who likes the activities that many men enjoy, like going out drinking and dancing, to the theater, and traveling around the world. I like outdoor activities like walking, hiking, and biking, but I don’t think I am going to suddenly become an outdoor enthusiast, living my whole life for outdoor activities.
I don’t want to get married unless I can find a man who shares at least ‘some’ of my sentiments about God and the purpose of life, because it would never work out in the long run. Regarding what I ‘aspire’ to live for, the New Testament and the Writings of Baha’u’llah sum up my sentiments exactly. I have a long way to go but I am not going to get there if I get distracted by worldly attachments.
John 12:24-26 Verily, verily, I say unto you, Except a corn of wheat fall into the ground and die, it abideth alone: but if it die, it bringeth forth much fruit. He that loveth his life shall lose it; and he that hateth his life in this world shall keep it unto life eternal. If any man serve me, let him follow me; and where I am, there shall also my servant be: if any man serve me, him will my Father honour.
“Disencumber yourselves of all attachment to this world and the vanities thereof. Beware that ye approach them not, inasmuch as they prompt you to walk after your own lusts and covetous desires, and hinder you from entering the straight and glorious Path… Whatsoever deterreth you, in this Day, from loving God is nothing but the world. Flee it, that ye may be numbered with the blest.” Gleanings, p. 276
Matthew 6:19-21 Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal; but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
“Place not thy reliance on thy treasures. Put thy whole confidence in the grace of God, thy Lord. Let Him be thy trust in whatever thou doest, and be of them that have submitted themselves to His Will. Let Him be thy helper and enrich thyself with His treasures, for with Him are the treasuries of the heavens and of the earth.” Gleanings, pp.234-235
It is almost unbelievable what many men expect to find in a woman! I have very few requirements of a man, compared to all the requirements that most men have of a woman. Financially, I already have more than I will ever need to live on, and I don’t need a man to make me a whole person. The only reason I would want to be married would be to have a companion, someone to talk to about God and spiritual things, someone to turn to for emotional support, and someone to share in the activities of everyday life, including fun things but also household duties.
I don’t want to get married unless I can make a man’s life better, so if I don’t have what a man wants there is no point even considering a relationship with him. I would never be happy with a man unless he was happy with my character, my values, and my lifestyle. There are some things I can change, but there are some things that are nonnegotiable, like my cats and my religion.
There are some things I am not going to change because that is not who I am. I am not suddenly going to become a woman of the world who likes the activities that many men enjoy, like going out drinking and dancing, to the theater, and traveling around the world. I like outdoor activities like walking, hiking, and biking, but I don’t think I am going to suddenly become an outdoor enthusiast, living my whole life for outdoor activities.
I don’t want to get married unless I can find a man who shares at least ‘some’ of my sentiments about God and the purpose of life, because it would never work out in the long run. Regarding what I ‘aspire’ to live for, the New Testament and the Writings of Baha’u’llah sum up my sentiments exactly. I have a long way to go but I am not going to get there if I get distracted by worldly attachments.
John 12:24-26 Verily, verily, I say unto you, Except a corn of wheat fall into the ground and die, it abideth alone: but if it die, it bringeth forth much fruit. He that loveth his life shall lose it; and he that hateth his life in this world shall keep it unto life eternal. If any man serve me, let him follow me; and where I am, there shall also my servant be: if any man serve me, him will my Father honour.
“Disencumber yourselves of all attachment to this world and the vanities thereof. Beware that ye approach them not, inasmuch as they prompt you to walk after your own lusts and covetous desires, and hinder you from entering the straight and glorious Path… Whatsoever deterreth you, in this Day, from loving God is nothing but the world. Flee it, that ye may be numbered with the blest.” Gleanings, p. 276
Matthew 6:19-21 Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal; but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where neither moth nor rust destroys and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
“Place not thy reliance on thy treasures. Put thy whole confidence in the grace of God, thy Lord. Let Him be thy trust in whatever thou doest, and be of them that have submitted themselves to His Will. Let Him be thy helper and enrich thyself with His treasures, for with Him are the treasuries of the heavens and of the earth.” Gleanings, pp.234-235
