I completely agree. That said, we have a problem, and the first step towards a compassionate solution is to name the problem honestly.
There are a few precedents for this type of situation. First, we've seen Christianity reform itself. It wasn't easy or fast or pain-free, but it happened.
More recently, in the US at least, we saw smoking go from "cool" to "uncool" in a generation.
So I think that compassionate solutions are possible. But I don't think we can start off by saying "all of these problems have nothing to do with Islam" - which is what politicians always say
What would you say to the government giving subsidies or tax emeptions to "approved" liberal/progressive Islamic organisations so they have a economic edge over their conservative counter-parts to gain converts?
I don't like it as it turns them into "western puppets" working for the state and breaks the secular idea of not having an edtablished church but its one of the least "coercive" ideas I can come up with. Its better to try and help the reformists than just punish the conservative branches of the religion.
Is there something simpler maybe?