While it may cost me my Baptist Secret handshake (or perhaps not), I see scripture being unclear about Eternal punishment in Hell vs simple destruction of the soul. It is a point on which Christians can disagree and remain orthodox (true to Scripture).
I will stand by my claim that this fixation on Hell is far out of proportion to its importance to Christian Theology. The goal is to get into Heaven (be with God), not to avoid being cast into a lake of fire.
Most of the topics about Hell are thinly veiled attacks designed to say something silly like ... "See, God is amoral, so I don't believe in him."
Frankly, it is a straw man. Most of the worst imagery of Hell that is being rejected comes from the highly symbolic VISIONS of Revelation. Try dedicating all this effort to a Dragon eating a woman ... which appears in the same Vision.
I don't see people saying 'I disagree with hell therefore I don't believe in God.' I see people saying 'I don't believe in God and I think the bible presents a narrative which conflicts with the idea of an omnibenevolent (or perfectly just) entity if interpreted in this way.' You say that people disagree with what hell is about, but I'm sure you've run into and will run into Christians who believe hellfire is supported in both non-Revelations NT scripture as well as OT. I'm not sure whether or not hell is scripturally accurate, but I can say that it will most likely forever be outside what I can accept as a moral concept. So even if I did become a theist (which is unlikely) I probably would not join up with any system of belief which included hell as such.