Open Relationships

[PureX]

The OP didn't ask if it was any of our business.

I know, that's why I asked.

 

[Ðanisty]

I kind of got the impression that it wasn't really what Mercy Not Sacrifice wanted to know. In other words, I know it's none of my business what other people do, but I still have an opinion to share.

 

[PureX]

I kind of got the impression that it wasn't really what Mercy Not Sacrifice wanted to know. In other words, I know it's none of my business what other people do, but I still have an opinion to share.

Yes, I've noted that most of the replies were based on personal and anecdotal opinion. As is appropriate.

 

[Pagaal~Mexican18]

well i am a hopeless romantic andi dont think thats a good idea. as a woman i would feel as if i am not doing somthing right...like why do you have to look to other people for anything cant i do it right. not just in a physical sence but emotional and all that. i would feel inadequit.

 

[Hema]

My heart was already given to one man. I can't take it back and I don't want to. I gave my entire heart to him so there's no room for anyone else. I know that my fiance feels the same way.

 

[Pardus]

I have had some experience here, not been in one myself, but have been the bit on the side.

In general, not many people are mature enough to handle it, and most who could handle it are too mature for it.

 

[jacquie4000]

It is not something that would work for me. Plus in general I don't see it working for many people. There are just to many emotions involved.

 

[CaptainXeroid]

What business is it of mine/ours, what other people do regarding their intimate relationships?

Well...it's not...until someone clicks the Reply button and puts his business on the internet for the world to see.

I voted 'immoral and wrong, end of discussion'. I find people screwing around in engaging in group sex because they lack self control over their sexual urges to be thoroughly repugnant.:thud: Now, I know someone's going to suggest that I've mischaracterized such philanders, but sorry, but I'm not buying it.

 

[Moni_Gail]

I voted , like everything they have many pros and cons.
And also like everything the morality is for the individual to decide .That kind of "open" relationship is not for me personally , but may work well for someone else. My idea of "open" is more along the lines of being completely honest with my significant other about all aspects of my life and beliefs. I do however know a few people who swing and are happy and secure in their relationships.

My thoughts exactly.

 

[Ozzie]

I have had some experience here, not been in one myself, but have been the bit on the side.

In general, not many people are mature enough to handle it, and most who could handle it are too mature for it.

In an open relationship maybe being the 'bit on the side' will become redundant. How about "leftovers", with wifey/hubby the main menu item?

 

[Rough_ER]

I find people screwing around in engaging in group sex because they lack self control over their sexual urges to be thoroughly repugnant.

What a bizarre statement.

What on earth are you talking about? Because people enjoy sex in groups this somehow means that they lack self control? This suggests that everybody's deepest desire is to engage in group sex, or at least thats the way I read it. I can assure you that many of the people I know engage in group sex simply because it is a thrilling experience, just as sex with a single person is. Not because they lack self control or anything like that.

 

[Mathematician]

I've done it before without a problem, although it only went on for 3 months.

Neither person can be jealous, that's for sure.

 

[Comprehend]

What's your take on open relationships--intimate relationships where the couple (or group, perhaps) is allowed to seek other partners at will and without fault?

I think it is unhealthy and immoral. A bad idea.

 

[Ori]

It's not something that I would personally embark upon, but people have different needs and desires, so more power to them I guess.

 

[NoahideHiker]

I have a hard enough time sexually disappointing one woman!

 

[CaptainXeroid]

What a bizarre statement.

No, it's not bizarre at all.

This suggests that everybody's deepest desire is to engage in group sex...

Um...no it doesn't. In fact, it's not even close. I can see that we will just have to agree to disagree on this one. I value the choice I have made to honor my marriage vows by remaining monogamous. I realize not everyone is able to do that.

 

[Ody]

Like everything, they have many pros and cons.


Yep.:beach:

 

[Rough_ER]

No, it's not bizarre at all.
Um...no it doesn't. In fact, it's not even close. I can see that we will just have to agree to disagree on this one. I value the choice I have made to honor my marriage vows by remaining monogamous. I realize not everyone is able to do that.

You said quite clearly that people engage in group sex because they lack self control. This suggests that people who don't engage in group sex want to but have self control.

If this isn't what you meant then correct what you said to make it more clear please.

 

[Rough_ER]

I realize not everyone is able to do that.

I mean, can't you see what that sounds like you are saying? To me this sounds incredibly condescending, like you are suggesting that there is some sort of standard that we all have to live by, but only a select few of us are capable of doing so, a select and moral few. Monogamy is very modern, most marriages throughout history have been polygamous. Don't redefine marriage and label Christian marriage as the gold standard.

 

[Jaymes]

I know several couples in open relationships and it works for them. If I ever had the opportunity to be in one, I'd give it a shot. But I do think it's not for everyone; not everyone's going to be able to shake off years of being conditioned and told that your partner is yours and only yours and that anything else is wrong and cheating.