Patriotism? What do you think?
Patriotism has no place in my life any more. I've been cured of it by my American experience. I no longer have a meaningful concept of country or patriotism. My eyes are on the local only these days - my community (which is not longer in America) and whatever outside influences affect it for the better or worse.
I would fight to defend my community, but not any larger entity such as a country, especially America, where I consider both the government and half the citizens to be uninterested in (if not antagonistic to) the things that matter to me and those I love. These are not friends, and I have no loyalty to either of these. Die for an evangelical Christian in Alabama that despised what is meaningful to me because he has the same passport I have? No.
And I would not be surprised if people like Kaepernick feel the same way about America. Perhaps you think that because he earned a big paycheck that he should have behaved differently. I don't.
Patriotism is just a secular religion, complete with its own myths (cherry tree and log splitting presidents instead of babes in the reeds and virgin births), symbols (flags, eagles and Uncle Sam vs. Jesus, Mary and the cross), sacred documents (original parchments/papyri for each). Patriotism vs. faith. Traitor vs. infidel. The Ten Commandments vs. The Bill of Rights. Manifest destiny and American exceptionalism vs. the Chosen People. The Pilgrims and the Exodus. Godless Communists and suicide bombers. "I pledge allegiance" and "Our Father who art in heaven." "Communism is my enemy" and "Islam is my enemy." Honor vs righteousness. Lapel flags vs. crosses. He died for your rights or he died for your salvation. Serving God and serving country: What's the difference apart from the supernatural elements?
Same BS, different day. It's all fantasy and tribalism, and it exists to convince you and me to underwrite and/or die for somebody else's agenda.
Probably not the kind of answer you were looking for.