Pickin up chicks! (or Dating)

[Ormiston]

Well, I'm now single (relax ladies ). My wife and I seperated and I thought it would be good for me to get some dating tips from the guys AND gals (I know, "stay off of the religious forums! He he hehehe"). So any advice would be greatly appreciated. Here's some questions I had in mind:

Where's the best place to meet other single people? I've heard the laundramat was good.
What makes a good date? Dinner & a movie? Walk in the park?
What does everyone think about younger vs. older girls (guys)? I'm 30.
What about these internet dating services? I think they're a load. Anyone have any luck?
Do women really prefer jerks? I'm kind of nerdy and I don't know if a nerdy jerk would be very attractive.
Should I "just be myself"? A friend told me that I shouldn't talk about nerdy things to women I'm interested in. I'm convinced though that it doesn't matter what you talk about but how you carry yourself.
I have next to no style when it comes to clothes. Any advice there?

Thanks in advance!! :help:

 

[Atheist_Dave]

Well, I'm now single (relax ladies ). My wife and I seperated and I thought it would be good for me to get some dating tips from the guys AND gals (I know, "stay off of the religious forums! He he hehehe"). So any advice would be greatly appreciated. Here's some questions I had in mind:

Where's the best place to meet other single people? I've heard the laundramat was good.
What makes a good date? Dinner & a movie? Walk in the park?
What does everyone think about younger vs. older girls (guys)? I'm 30.
What about these internet dating services? I think they're a load. Anyone have any luck?
Do women really prefer jerks? I'm kind of nerdy and I don't know if a nerdy jerk would be very attractive.
Should I "just be myself"? A friend told me that I shouldn't talk about nerdy things to women I'm interested in. I'm convinced though that it doesn't matter what you talk about but how you carry yourself.
I have next to no style when it comes to clothes. Any advice there?

Thanks in advance!! :help:

This is talking about guys, but the same pretty much applies...

Single people are everywhere, it pays to not be shy, dont be afraid to approach a woman in a bar or club, be positive, and for heavens sake, don't use any cheesy lines.

For me I like dinner and a walk in the park, but it depends on who it is I guess, if he/she likes you it wont matter too much where you go.

I don't think age is too much of an issue personally, it all depends on if you have a connection with the guy/girl.

Ive never tried an internet dating service, so can't comment.

I don't like jerks, but I don't mind nerds if they are interesting!

Be urself, and nothing else. No good ever came from being someone your not, trust me, I know.

I like a guy in casual wear to be honest, jeans and teeshirt will do, IMO.


Hope this helps buddy, peace, and goodluck!

x x x x x *hugs*

 

[angellous_evangellous]

Where's the best place to meet other single people? I've heard the laundramat was good.

Can't say.

What makes a good date? Dinner & a movie? Walk in the park?

Mix it up

What does everyone think about younger vs. older girls (guys)? I'm 30.3

Be happy with what you get. Stay away from girls younger than 18 and older than 55 (I hear that they "lose" something after 55). Personally, most girls under about 25 completely turn me off when she opens her mouth (to speak).

What about these internet dating services? I think they're a load. Anyone have any luck?

Can't say.

Do women really prefer jerks? I'm kind of nerdy and I don't know if a nerdy jerk would be very attractive.

No. Women do not prefer jerks. Unless, of course, they don't want a relationship of any length.

Should I "just be myself"? A friend told me that I shouldn't talk about nerdy things to women I'm interested in. I'm convinced though that it doesn't matter what you talk about but how you carry yourself.

By all means, be yourself!

I have next to no style when it comes to clothes. Any advice there?

If you've asked this question, you need help. Trust me. Find two wildly different lady friends to set you up.

 

[Ormiston]

Awesome! Thanks Dave!

One more question. When approaching someone in a bar or anywhere else, how do you start the conversation? I get so damn nervous and usually act shy (which I'm not). I just don't know how to BEGIN. Once I get going I'm fine though.

 

[Atheist_Dave]

"Hey, are you busy for the rest of your life?"

Don't tell anyone where you got that one, this baby is explosive!!!!!

 

[Ormiston]

I have next to no style when it comes to clothes. Any advice there?

If you've asked this question, you need help. Trust me. Find two wildly different lady friends to set you up.

Lol...you are VERY wise! That's a great idea!

 

[angellous_evangellous]

"Hey, are you busy for the rest of your life?"

Don't tell anyone where you got that one, this baby is explosive!!!!!

Like all explosives, more people blow themselves up with this kind of thing.:162:

 

[Ormiston]

"Hey, are you busy for the rest of your life?"

Don't tell anyone where you got that one, this baby is explosive!!!!!

What happened to your "cheesy line" rule?

 

[angellous_evangellous]

Awesome! Thanks Dave!

One more question. When approaching someone in a bar or anywhere else, how do you start the conversation? I get so damn nervous and usually act shy (which I'm not). I just don't know how to BEGIN. Once I get going I'm fine though.

I'll talk to ANYONE who buys me a beer.

 

[Atheist_Dave]

No, seriously, approaching someone can be hard, I guess your just out of touch a bit, I suggest some practice on a willing friend.

 

[angellous_evangellous]

I guess your just out of touch a bit, I suggest some practice on a willing friend.

:biglaugh: I second that! :dan:

 

[dawny0826]

Well, I'm now single (relax ladies ). My wife and I seperated and I thought it would be good for me to get some dating tips from the guys AND gals (I know, "stay off of the religious forums! He he hehehe"). So any advice would be greatly appreciated. Here's some questions I had in mind:

Where's the best place to meet other single people? I've heard the laundramat was good.
What makes a good date? Dinner & a movie? Walk in the park?
What does everyone think about younger vs. older girls (guys)? I'm 30.
What about these internet dating services? I think they're a load. Anyone have any luck?
Do women really prefer jerks? I'm kind of nerdy and I don't know if a nerdy jerk would be very attractive.
Should I "just be myself"? A friend told me that I shouldn't talk about nerdy things to women I'm interested in. I'm convinced though that it doesn't matter what you talk about but how you carry yourself.
I have next to no style when it comes to clothes. Any advice there?

Thanks in advance!! :help:

Sorry about your separation. Hope your heart is doing well these days.

You'll probably get a million different answers...but I'll answer your questions as if I was single, looking for a guy...

What makes a good date? This is going to depend on the person that you're dating. I think dinner dates and movie dates are good for first dates. Long, romantic walks are nice for getting to know each other better but can also be awkward if you're not clicking.

I think for the most part, age is just a number...as long as everyone is "legal" and are mentally compatible.

One of my close friends met her husband on an internet dating service. They've been married for almost three years. I think success with these things depends on the individuals involved and the credibility of the service. I've known more people in my lifetime to have success actually...than to bomb out with these things.

I can't speak on behalf of other women but I don't like jerks. I'm a nerd. My husband is a nerd. The whole nerd bit works for us. It's who we are. We don't front.

I think confidence is important. Most women that I know are attracted to people who give off an air of confidence...but not an air of arrogance, kwim?

Just be yourself. If you have to change who you are to interest another...it's not going to work out.

I think you can meet someone anywhere. I met my husband at work.

Keep your eyes open.

Good luck.

 

[Ormiston]

No, seriously, approaching someone can be hard, I guess your just out of touch a bit, I suggest some practice on a willing friend.

Not a bad idea. I think I'm gonna have to get a few more female friends to help out...

 

[Atheist_Dave]

I'm willing to give it a try... I look great in a cocktail dress and full make up you know?

(Im kidding)

Peace x

 

[angellous_evangellous]

I'm willing to give it a try... I look great in a cocktail dress and full make up you know?

(Im kidding)

Peace x

As do I, and I'm not kidding.:jam:

 

[dawny0826]

Not a bad idea. I think I'm gonna have to get a few more female friends to help out...

That's not really necessary.

You'll know if you're attracted to someone. Then you just go with your gut.

I've always found guys lame who rely on their friends to hook them up.

 

[angellous_evangellous]

That's not really necessary.

You'll know if you're attracted to someone. Then you just go with your gut.

I've always found guys lame who rely on their friends to hook them up.

Getting a few pointers from "experieced" friends can take a guy a long way.

Hang in there, buddy!

 

[Ormiston]

As do I, and I'm not kidding.:jam:

ROFL....:biglaugh: You guys are killin me!

 

[Atheist_Dave]

Hahahahahahahahaha, frubals AE!

 

[Ormiston]

That's not really necessary.

You'll know if you're attracted to someone. Then you just go with your gut.

I've always found guys lame who rely on their friends to hook them up.

Yeah, I'm thinking more about the advice than the hook up. I'd rather have to work a bit than be handed it. Takes all of the fun out of things!