Please don't judge me that way

[Draka]

You clearly were not paying attention then, and this is getting boring -_-

I was paying attention. I paid attention to the whole bit about him being "stronger" and should go out and work. And to "just sitting around" and "not contributing anything". I paid attention to how it was okay for her to take care of the child because she ejected it from her V-slide and all. Believe me, I've been paying attention, you've piqued my interest. You may say you find this boring. I'm sure you want to end this line of conversation. I, on the otherhand, being a SAHM, and finding my chosen occupation at this time being critiqued so nicely by you, find this not boring at all. So please, enlighten me, do tell why it is something to "look down" on if a man does the same thing as me?

 

[ignition]

I was paying attention. I paid attention to the whole bit about him being "stronger" and should go out and work. And to "just sitting around" and "not contributing anything". I paid attention to how it was okay for her to take care of the child because she ejected it from her V-slide and all. Believe me, I've been paying attention, you've piqued my interest. You may say you find this boring. I'm sure you want to end this line of conversation. I, on the otherhand, being a SAHM, and finding my chosen occupation at this time being critiqued so nicely by you, find this not boring at all. So please, enlighten me, do tell why it is something to "look down" on if a man does the same thing as me?

Good luck with it. I'm not critiquing you or any stay at home mums. In fact, society would probably be better off if there were more of you around. I might be biased in my assessment because I grew up in a single-parent home and my mother was never a stay at home mum, she had her own career to worry about.

 

[Draka]

Good luck with it. I'm not critiquing you or any stay at home mums. In fact, society would probably be better off if there were more of you around. I might be biased in my assessment because I grew up in a single-parent home and my mother was never a stay at home mum, she had her own career to worry about.

You are critiquing stay at home parents by saying it is something to look down on if the parent in question is a dad.

 

[DallasApple]

Oh, and don't dare be a SAHM. Might as well say "Hello, I'm Peg Bundy, remember me?"

People tend to think, "Oh...she's unemployed" as if I can't get a job, or lost a job, or something is wrong in that department. I chose not to work at this point in my life while my kids are little. That baffles the minds of some people. And then when they do get it...I'm just a mom.

Exactly ..I actually had FUN over the years if someone asked me what did I do..One of the best ones was "nothing".It was funny watching how long it took them to absorb that with a confused look on their face and say ..OH O.K well lucky you !

My next favorite one was ..what do you do?

I'm a free loader...

The next best one was ....what do you do?

I'm a domestic prostitute.

 

[DallasApple]

You are critiquing stay at home parents by saying it is something to look down on if the parent in question is a dad.

Maybe because its a "feminine" role to have not a "masculine" role to have and feminine is inferior OOOPS I mean equal but different to masculine?

misogyny

 

[Warren Clark]

I don't know if it's like this anywhere else, but here in the US, this is what normally happens:

You meet someone new. You shake their hand, exchange names. Inevitably, the next question is: "So what do you do?", in other words, what's your job?

My job is not who I am. It's how I make money to pay my bills and take care of my family. But here, your job is equated with you, as a person. It's, for some reason, inherently tied to your personality and characteristics. And it's disturbing, at least to me. I'm not "Mr. assembly line auto worker". I'm a Buddhist, a father and husband, a philosopher.

So please, don't equate who I am with my job.

Anyone else feel this way, or is it something that bothers just me?

I hate working at Burger King. I went to college I have a degree. Nobody knows me, they just assume I'm stupid because I work at fast food.
I'm smarter than probably more than half of the idiots that come in.

 

[Draka]

Maybe because its a "feminine" role to have not a "masculine" role to have and feminine is inferior OOOPS I mean equal but different to masculine?

misogyny

Yeah, Tim has outright said that if I were to find a job that paid well enough that we could live comfortably on just my paycheck he'd be happy to switch roles with me. I wouldn't mind. I've been there before. And I don't see what would be wrong with it either.

 

[DallasApple]

Yeah, Tim has outright said that if I were to find a job that paid well enough that we could live comfortably on just my paycheck he'd be happy to switch roles with me. I wouldn't mind. I've been there before. And I don't see what would be wrong with it either.

Well my son does it.She makes a lot more..but they cant afford daycare.So he works part time(I kept my grandson for that) he kept him the rest ...Now they have #2 and I think the plan is he keeps both of them while she works and he maybe work one or two days a week.She is still on leave..My grandaughter is 7 weeks old.

Now I'm not sure how "happy" he is in that role ..ya know the ole "what do you do question" is hard enough for a WO MAN.For a dude it can be even harder.PLUS dealing with the same ****.Its "undervalued" "under appreciated" can be very tedious /lonely and isolating.AND you have to "depend" on the other one for money..

Its not an "easy" job physically /mentally...

Don't get me wrong I LOVED all the advantages including being with my children a lot .Not having to have a "boss" or worry about getting "fired" ..or putting up with office BS...But I don't appreciate the "its a piece of cake' attitude and the idea their are no disadvantages or sacrifices.

 

[Titanic]

If you were a movie star I bet you would be fine with people asking what your job is...

 

[DallasApple]

If you were a movie star I bet you would be fine with people asking what your job is...

No not necessarily.Especially if I was a movie "star" I might be insulted they didn't already know that.