poll: going into other people's homes?

[Regiomontanus]

I don't like going into other people's houses

It's stressful for me, too stressful

I don't like it

I don't mind people coming into my home though, if I like them enough

But I'd never want to host a party, no way

Does anyone else not like going into other people's homes?

I often visit the home of friends and acquaintances. What bothers me is the disagreeable odor I often encounter. I get it, everyone is different, and they might not like my place. But eww.

That is why I prefer meeting in restaurants, etc., instead. I am weird, I know.

 

[Koldo]

I disagree. I think it's easier to hang out at someone's house. It also shows closeness between people, to invite someone into your home. It would be very bizarre to be friends with someone and never visit them at their home or at your home, imo.

Easier in what sense, other than being less expensive?

 

[Eddi]

I'm actually really selective about who I let into my home...

What's in it says so much about who I am... I don't always want to share that much of myself.

I feel much the same way

 

[Koldo]

Also, you can tell a lot about someone by the state of their home

Sounds fairly judgmental.

 

[JustGeorge]

I often visit the home of friends and acquaintances. What bothers me is the disagreeable odor I often encounter. I get it, everyone is different, and they might not like my place. But eww.

That is why I prefer meeting in restaurants, etc., instead. I am weird, I know.

Alternatively, I'm sometimes uncomfortable in places that are too 'pristine'.

I might have mud on my shoe, or leaves in my hair, and leave a mess.

 

[Eddi]

Sounds fairly judgmental.

It's true though

 

[JustGeorge]

Sounds fairly judgmental.

I can be, and sometimes is.

But there's other things you can perceive, if you put away the good/bad judgments.

It's true though

It can be, but I think its good to exercise caution on them.

You may come to a conclusion, but not know all the 'whys'.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

Easier in what sense, other than being less expensive?

Requires less planning, less transportation and you can do more at your own home (play games, watch movies, cook out, have a party, etc.). Also, money is really tight for most people these days so that's not a small thing. I got sick of everyone wanting to go out and eat all the time, like they're not broke like I am.

 

[JustGeorge]

Requires less planning, less transportation and you can do more at your own home (play games, watch movies, cook out, have a party, etc.). Also, money is really tight for most people these days so that's not a small thing. I got sick of everyone wanting to go out and eat all the time, like they're not broke like I am.

I can't afford restaurants.

Doesn't mean I don't want to socialize.

 

[Kathryn]

I voted NO because I generally don't like it all that much but it also doesn't bother me that much, depending of course on the circumstances. It's just not that big a deal to me one way or the other but my preference would be that they come to my house instead of me going inside theirs.

 

[Koldo]

Requires less planning, less transportation and you can do more at your own home (play games, watch movies, cook out, have a party, etc.). Also, money is really tight for most people these days so that's not a small thing. I got sick of everyone wanting to go out and eat all the time, like they're not broke like I am.

Generally speaking, visiting people at their homes takes more planning (when they are good hosts) unless they are really really comfortable around you and don't feel the need to treat you like a guest. This might involve extra cleaning, preparing a meal that is proper to your guests, dealing with other family members that would rather not have you there and so on. Eating out is much easier because you only need to get dressed, agree on a place and that's it. But yeah, when money is an issue it becomes much harder.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

Generally speaking, visiting people at their homes takes more planning (when they are good hosts) unless they are really really comfortable around you and don't feel the need to treat you like a guest. This might involve extra cleaning, preparing a meal that is proper to your guests, dealing with other family members that would rather not have you there and so on. Eating out is much easier because you only need to get dressed, agree on a place and that's it. But yeah, when money is an issue it becomes much harder.

I don't find basic tidiness and cleaning to be a big bother, and I've never dealt with anyone's family not wanting me around. That would be bizarre as I'm 35, prefer to socialize with people my own age and we tend to have our own homes. We're not livng with parents or family. We're the heads of our own households.

 

[Debater Slayer]

It depends on the person, and the same goes for when someone visits me. I have been to close friends' houses and invited them to mine. The increased privacy is nice when having personal conversations or drinking. It's also sometimes the more considerate option when someone in a group can't afford to go out.

I have been to my best friend's place, and we usually played video games and chilled in the yard. We planned to bake a cake at my place, but she left before we could. (We're still planning to do that when we meet again, though!)

 

[Debater Slayer]

I only mind when people don’t remove their shoes.

I tend to frown upon it when someone walks into a house with shoes on, especially if they have been walking a lot on the street beforehand or if the house they're walking into has carpets.

It's considered rude and disrespectful to walk into houses with shoes on where I live, though, so I thankfully have only rarely had to ask anyone to take their shoes off at the door.

 

[JustGeorge]

I tend to frown upon it when someone walks into a house with shoes on, especially if they have been walking a lot on the street beforehand or if the house they're walking into has carpets.

It's considered rude and disrespectful to walk into houses with shoes on where I live, though, so I thankfully have only rarely had to ask anyone to take their shoes off at the door.

I wish it were a more common observance here.

 

[Koldo]

I don't find basic tidiness and cleaning to be a big bother, and I've never dealt with anyone's family not wanting me around.

Here in Brazil, some extra cleaning is always expected, else people might be judgmental. The cleaning schedule might have to be adjusted to prepare for the visit.

That would be bizarre as I'm 35, prefer to socialize with people my own age and we tend to have our own homes. We're not livng with parents or family. We're the heads of our own households.

Your friend's spouse might not want you around, for example, or even the teenagers (children) might be bothered by your presence. You might also overstay, being entirely clueless that you are doing so. There is a superstition here in Brazil that if you place a broom behind a door, the guest will leave. This should hint towards how much of an issue overstaying is.

 

[JustGeorge]

Here in Brazil, some extra cleaning is always expected, else people might be judgmental. The cleaning schedule might have to be adjusted to prepare for the visit.



Your friend's spouse might not want you around, for example, or even the teenagers (children) might be bothered by your presence. You might also overstay, being entirely clueless that you are doing so. There is a superstition here in Brazil that if you place a broom behind a door, the guest will leave. This should hint towards how much of an issue overstaying is.

What does overstaying look like(in terms of hours), typically?

 

[Debater Slayer]

Here in Brazil, some extra cleaning is always expected, else people might be judgmental. The cleaning schedule might have to be adjusted to prepare for the visit.



Your friend's spouse might not want you around, for example, or even the teenagers (children) might be bothered by your presence. You might also overstay, being entirely clueless that you are doing so. There is a superstition here in Brazil that if you place a broom behind a door, the guest will leave. This should hint towards how much of an issue overstaying is.

Same where I live for all of the above except the broom thing. Also, it is the norm that adult children live with their families until marriage, with some exceptions, so anyone in the household needs to take family into account before arranging a visit whether to their own place or someone else's.

The cleaning is one of the main reasons you're expected to inform people in advance if you plan to visit them.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

Here in Brazil, some extra cleaning is always expected, else people might be judgmental. The cleaning schedule might have to be adjusted to prepare for the visit.



Your friend's spouse might not want you around, for example, or even the teenagers (children) might be bothered by your presence. You might also overstay, being entirely clueless that you are doing so. There is a superstition here in Brazil that if you place a broom behind a door, the guest will leave. This should hint towards how much of an issue overstaying is.

Well, that sounds unique and I've never dealt with those issues. I know it would be rather dumb for an adult to not let their own friends come over because their kids don't like it. If that's the case, they have big issues and I wouldn't want to be friends with such a person, anyway.

I've never dealt with all these suffocating rules over just hanging out at someone's home that you seem to be constantly encontering.

 

[Koldo]

I tend to frown upon it when someone walks into a house with shoes on, especially if they have been walking a lot on the street beforehand or if the house they're walking into has carpets.

It's considered rude and disrespectful to walk into houses with shoes on where I live, though, so I thankfully have only rarely had to ask anyone to take their shoes off at the door.

Generally speaking, you are not supposed to take off your shoes when going into somebody else's house, but there is a fairly significant number of people that do ask for that and the "best part" (irony intended) is that, in my experience, you only get to know whether you are supposed to take off your shoes once you get there.