poll: going into other people's homes?

[Koldo]

Well, that sounds unique and I've never dealt with those issues. I know it would be rather dumb for an adult to not let their own friends come over because their kids don't like it. If that's the case, they have big issues and I wouldn't want to be friends with such a person, anyway.

I've never dealt with all these suffocating rules over just hanging out at someone's home that you seem to be constantly encontering.

Ah, I have never heard of an adult not letting their own friends come over because their kids don't like it either, although that might happen. I was thinking more on terms as to why your visit (not yours specifically, just to be clear) might not be gladly received by everyone. The spouse part though is not uncommon, particularly when each one has a quite different group of friends.

 

[JustGeorge]

Ah, I have never heard of an adult not letting their own friends come over because their kids don't like it either, although that might happen. I was thinking more on terms as to why your visit (not yours specifically, just to be clear) might not be gladly received by everyone. The spouse part though is not uncommon, particularly when each one has a quite different group of friends.

I have kids with disabilities, so while I've never not invited someone over because the kids might not like it, I've declined to invite people because life here is crazy and not everyone can handle it.

My husband did have a 'friend' I couldn't stomach, and if he came over, I'd leave. The guy was a jerk. He'd make the excuse "oh, I was homeschooled, so I don't have any social skills/common sense/decency" and my husband would believe him, but I could see through it... (Eventually my husband did, too, and kicked the guy to the curb.)

(It wasn't his upbringing; I met his siblings and they were charming.)

 

[Koldo]

What does overstaying look like(in terms of hours), typically?

That's very good question. It depends mostly on why someone was invited. If you were invited for lunch, you are generally expected to leave before dinner. I am under the impression we live under an unspoken rule that making your host feed you more meals than what they expected is rude. It is also rude to show up uninvited and staying for lunch.

However, if you were invited to a birthday party, you are expected NOT to leave until the cake is sliced and you are given some. After that moment, you are free to leave.

 

[Wherenextcolumbus]

I tend to frown upon it when someone walks into a house with shoes on, especially if they have been walking a lot on the street beforehand or if the house they're walking into has carpets.

It's considered rude and disrespectful to walk into houses with shoes on where I live, though, so I thankfully have only rarely had to ask anyone to take their shoes off at the door.

I was raised the same, to remove my shoes. I’m not bothered in my own place, I don’t have carpet. But I always do when I’m visiting other people unless they tell me not to bother

 

[Wherenextcolumbus]

Alternatively, I'm sometimes uncomfortable in places that are too 'pristine'.

I might have mud on my shoe, or leaves in my hair, and leave a mess.

I feel that way as well because I’m clumsy. I was staying with my aunty/uncle in law - I dropped foundation on the carpet. I wanted to die

 

[JustGeorge]

I feel that way as well because I’m clumsy. I was staying with my aunty/uncle in law - I dropped foundation on the carpet. I wanted to die

I'm clumsy, too. And my kids are really messy.

 

[ChristineM]

... And my kids are really messy.

That's kids for ya