People can control their sexual desires they just refuse to.
People have no need or reason to conform to your expectations for their sexual behavior.
you have control over your desires. You just refuse to.
No, I have control over my desires and choose to indulge them as I have my entire adulthood. I grew up in Southern California in the late sixties and early seventies, the era of the sexual revolution and free love. I lived away from home in a dorm at UCLA. Do the math yourself. No regrets. No infections. No unplanned pregnancies.
There is no virtue in celibacy or abstinence. Choose them if you like, but your expectation that others should conform to your values is irrelevant to them if they don't hold conservative Christian values, which in their most Puritan manifestation, teach that sex is dirty, and that it is immoral to derive pleasure from sex or have sex for pleasure. Liberals of my generation simply don't see sex as something to be done only to reproduce, and then only quickly and in the dark.
it doesn't change the fact the biological reason we have sexual organs and reproductive systems is to reproduce.
That may be natures agenda, but it isn't mine or that of some others posting here. As you indicated, we now have the ability to impose discipline on ourselves and take our lives in different directions than our uncivilized ape ancestors and cousins. We are no longer relegated to instinct or nature's call alone in choosing behavior
All the more reason for reasonable people to practice self discipline. So that they can't take control of their own sexual power instead of letting others have that power over them.
There you go again defining reasonableness and self-discipline by your values and standards. I don't consider your recommendations or expectations reasonable. Why deny yourself so many pleasant experiences when they can be enjoyed without harm or excessive risk?
Reasonable people should have as much sex as they want and can have without causing harm to themselves or others, that is, the sex should be safe, legal, and between consenting adults.
the fact that your body was created from the act of sex, to grow, and then create another person, to grow, and create another person etc. This is the reason for sex.
Perhaps that's nature's reason for sex, but not necessarily mine or the next guy's. Since we'd be the ones who reap the rewards and pay the costs of our choices, we'll be the ones making them, not nature.
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