When I found out that I was pregnant, I was happy and confused. I didn't know whether to tell cardero or not. I was planning on not telling him at all and just cut all ties and take care of the child my self. But then again I thought that he has every right to know that he has a child coming. When I told cardero, he asked me what my intentions are. We didn't have a home to raise the child in, we weren't married, we were not financially stable, and I was not in the best of health where carrying a child led to being bed ridden and not able to bring home money. Abortion came in to conversation, but I was lucky to get a chance to bare a child. My ex-husband and I tried for 5 years and no luck. Then I met cardero and a year and a half later, I was carrying his child. cardero mentioned giving up the baby, but I put in my two cents. I chose to keep the baby and if he didn't want any responsibility, I would have been fine with the help of family to raise the child. Yes, the male should have a say since he is the maker and I am the carrier, but I did what I felt was right. Ones we sat down to talk, things changed. cardero supported my decision.
Both should have a say on what should be done. But if the male doesn't want anything to do with the child and the mother does, the mother should have all rights. The mother will have to give up the right to get child support. The father will give up all the rights to the child of being a father.
If cardero chose not to be a father during the time, I would not have forced him to pay for child support or be a father since I chose to keep the child. Maybe I am wrong in the things that I am saying. My feelings are, what you chose, will change your life. What your child will grow up to be whether the child has a mother or a father, will be their chose. It's all about choises. Choosing the right and the wrong. But is there a right and wrong when a child is brought into this world whether the choise was made by the mother or the father?
There are people out there that choose to abort and regret it for the rest of their lives or until they are blessed with another child. The carrier will feel regret and question themselves. The maker may or may not because they do not know what it is like to carry a child. The feeling when a child moves inside the stomach. The anticipation. The moment and the day the child is born. The pain but pleasure of giving birth.
To solve the problem of whether to keep the child or not, wear protection or don't have sex at all. That way you don't have to worry about making any decisions.
