Should couples have sex before marriage or not?

[dawny0826]

Hey everyone. This is a subject I am interested in. Should couples have sex before marriage or not? People of various religions such as Christianity or Islam would say that couples should not have sex before marriage because it is a sin. However, there is another side to the story which says that couples should have sex before marriage. One of the reasons to have sex before marriage is to know whether or not you are sexually compatible with your significant other or not. Also, you may not know about different sexual issues such as premature ejaculation before you have sex with your significant other. Here are a couple of articles which argue why couples should have sex before marriage.

http://www.alternet.org/sex-amp-relationships/why-sex-marriage-moral-thing-do

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/26/sex-before-marriage_n_3333073.html

So, what do you think? Should couples have sex before marriage? Why or why not?

I think that it's an entirely personal choice. An individual should strive to be educated enough from a practical perspective and spiritual/religious perspective (if applicable) to ascertain if it's of greater benefit to partake before or abstain until marriage or whatever other life event or milestone they place value in.

 

[Smart_Guy]

Because parents obviously never abandoned their spouse and children after marriage.

Some do, we all know that. But it's not the natural selection and it's by no means anything close to the gravity of that of having sex based on pleasure only without a devoted relationship like marriage. But I guess it's cultural too. Cultures with deep marriage teachings don't have such problems as much.

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

Some do, we all know that. But it's not the natural selection and it's by no means anything close to the gravity of that of having sex based on pleasure only without a devoted relationship like marriage. But I guess it's cultural too. Cultures with deep marriage teachings don't have such problems as much.

I fail to see how a father abandoning his wife and children is "less worse" than having sex outside of marriage.

 

[Smart_Guy]

I fail to see how a father abandoning his wife and children is "less worse" than having sex outside of marriage.

It isn't less worse. Actually, it is even worse in my book (only in my book for now).

Um, did I say or imply that somehow?

 

[Saint Frankenstein]

It isn't less worse. Actually, it is even worse in my book (only in my book for now).

Um, did I say or imply that somehow?

That's what it looked like you were saying here: " But it's not the natural selection and it's by no means anything close to the gravity of that of having sex based on pleasure only without a devoted relationship like marriage."

*shrugs*

 

[Smart_Guy]

That's what it looked like you were saying here: " But it's not the natural selection and it's by no means anything close to the gravity of that of having sex based on pleasure only without a devoted relationship like marriage."

*shrugs*

Oh, sorry about that. My English failed me again

I mean in the possibility of causing such problems, not that if the exact problem happens, it is better or worse.

 

[Guy Threepwood]

a morality that goes against mans nature by punishing temptation is doomed to hypocrisy. What use is such a morality if we betray the standards of right and wrong we profess but do not practice?

We are all sinners, we all betray what we know is right, but we have the unique capacity to recognize this betrayal as such right?. That's the use of morality, we can strive to do better.

 

[angellous_evangellous]

Hey everyone. This is a subject I am interested in. Should couples have sex before marriage or not? People of various religions such as Christianity or Islam would say that couples should not have sex before marriage because it is a sin. However, there is another side to the story which says that couples should have sex before marriage. One of the reasons to have sex before marriage is to know whether or not you are sexually compatible with your significant other or not. Also, you may not know about different sexual issues such as premature ejaculation before you have sex with your significant other. Here are a couple of articles which argue why couples should have sex before marriage.

http://www.alternet.org/sex-amp-relationships/why-sex-marriage-moral-thing-do

http://www.huffingtonpost.com/2013/05/26/sex-before-marriage_n_3333073.html

So, what do you think? Should couples have sex before marriage? Why or why not?

If people are interested in having sex, it would be better to get all of that out of the way before marriage.

 

[The_Fisher_King]

Salaam,

If everything the Quran is as you said, then anyone can just claim the whole Quran is void.

On what can we base that? As I said before, just saying it like this, means anyone can just deny everything in the Quran.

We have to ask Allaah for guidance, discuss with others, and use our brains that Allaah has given us.

I still don't get it. The Prophet and the other Prophets and Messengers, along with the books, wouldn't have been sent by God then. If we can just converse with God, we could have just took what was needed and got over with instead of everything sent in the last generations.

Not just anyone can converse with Allaah. And Shaytaan leads many astray.

Finally, wrt my example, I would argue that feeling deeply offended is a kind of harm. In the same way that a Christian might feel deeply offended that we call their Lord simply a man, we feel hurt when the honour of our Prophet (saws) has been hurt. Indeed, that slander is considered a crime as well as a sin goes to show that someone who has been slandered has suffered a harm. The verses of the Qur'aan that you refer to aren't referring to whether different beliefs are harmful or not. They are referring to how we should treat people who hold different beliefs.

Wassalaam

 

[Smart_Guy]

Salaam,

We have to ask Allaah for guidance, discuss with others, and use our brains that Allaah has given us.

Not just anyone can converse with Allaah. And Shaytaan leads many astray.

Finally, wrt my example, I would argue that feeling deeply offended is a kind of harm. In the same way that a Christian might feel deeply offended that we call their Lord simply a man, we feel hurt when the honour of our Prophet (saws) has been hurt. Indeed, that slander is considered a crime as well as a sin goes to show that someone who has been slandered has suffered a harm. The verses of the Qur'aan that you refer to aren't referring to whether different beliefs are harmful or not. They are referring to how we should treat people who hold different beliefs.

Wassalaam

Understood. Thank you for sharing your opinion and views

 

[The_Fisher_King]

Understood. Thank you for sharing your opinion and views

Salaam,

A pleasure!

Wassalaam