I disagree with madhatter and I already told him in the other thread that he didn't answer FH's question, but...from his POV, the gay-rights movement is attempting to force acceptance on a community that has rejected gay marriage (i.e. the gay rights movement is trying to force California to accept gay marriage after it has already rejected it twice).
So, you're right: nobody's trying to make madhatter marry another man, or ban straight marriage, or force churches to perform same sex ceremonies. But, madhatter's right too: the gay activisits are trying to force gay marriage on communities who have rejected gay marriage.