No, I think the onus is one you to define the jargon you are using.
It wasn't meant as a "defend yourself" request, but as a point of clarification. I had asked you this before you asked me. I asked because I find what speaking about something in terms of absolutes, to say what it is not is far more productive than to attempt to say what it is. And the reason it is easier is because when you ask what I see it as in positive terms, you take that as me defining it. If it can be defined, then it is never ultimate or absolute.
It's an idea at that point.
I can speak in positive language about it, but as I've said all along, it's highly metaphoric, not definitions. This whole business of concretizing language, as I call it ceases to be effective as far as point to something goes. If you've defined that "this is what it is", you're no longer pointing. It's no longer a metaphor.
You may be familiar with Nirguna? His approach was to deconstruct all our ideas of the absolute to the point we are actually opened to simply see it. Clearly you have some idea of what you think I think, and my point was to hear what those thoughts of yours were to say, without doubt I would, "no, that's not how I see it". Point in case, you call it "out there". That's an idea in your mind to begin with. "No, that's not it".
Nonetheless, with all my qualifying statements, let's see how you hear my positive statements.
If you're claiming that there is an "ultimate reality" then you really need to describe what it looks like, provide a coherent definition and justification.
It looks exactly like what you are seeing in every moment of every day. It is a matter of perceptual awareness. You see, but don't see. Everyone who does says the same thing. "It was there the whole time". Put another way, it's always, ever, fully what is already. Ultimate reality is this reality. To borrow from the language of the Apostle Paul, "For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known." It's "knowing" what is. It's pulling back the veil to see what is simply obvious. Ultimate reality is the "simply obvious".
(Finger pointing to the moon)
And the same with "unitive consciousness".
Ah, this is good. I've never thought of it like this, but again from the language of Paul, "I shall know even as I am known". That describes it well. Again, metaphors abound here. It is seeing and knowing who and what we are without the eyes of judgement, before and beyond the eyes of differentiation. Seeing and knowing, holding in awareness what is without naming it and judging it on that basis. "I shall know even as I am known", as I am, as you are, as all is, before and beyond boundaries we impose upon it. In such a knowledge, in such an awareness we see and know each beyond the masks we both wear and put on each other and the whole of creation.
Unitive consciousness is seeing through the same eyes. Another quote I think fits this well comes from the Christian mystic Meister Eckhart, "The eye through which I see God is the same eye through which God sees me; my eye and God's eye are one eye, one seeing, one knowing, one love." That expresses what that is like well. It's not just a unitive consciousness with others, but with the whole of creation in seeing, knowing, and loving. That is unitive consciousness.
(fingers pointing to the moon)
And is "ultimate reality" supposed to be more real than plain old "reality"?
It isn't. However, it is. How one sees or does not see is what makes it "seeing through a glass darkly", or the illusion of separation, the illusion of a linguist reality as reality itself, the illusion of judgments, the illusion of boundaries, versus "knowing even as I am known", or "seeing face to face". Face to face is a great description. Ultimate reality is everything that already is, known and seen within us and all that is. If it is not in our awareness, then we are living in illusion, asleep, seeing through glass darkly. So yes, it's "plain old reality", but it's hardly plain!
It's vibrant, living, and full of love. That's ultimate reality. Seeing what is. Not imagining what it might be, speculating, calculating analyzing, investigating, etc. It is Being itself. Ultimate reality is this reality, with the veil pulled back and realizing we are That.