Attraction adds yet another dimension to the puzzle. One I didn't mention. I don't suggest that men and women need each other because they are attracted to each other. Nor can I say that opposites attract. The opposite of water is fire, yet I like the example of ice and water: like substances that repel each other yet if willing later convert to each others element. I only suggest that men and women are perfectly complimentary beings. The feminine ego and masculine ego that lets in the Social and self destruction, in my belief, require the somewhat 'toxic' counterparts to penetrate the ego of their opposing gender and make possible for future healing instead of toxins.
Attraction is a very precarious element that can be either divisive, or supportive. In my case, I am physically attracted to many different types of women (masculine and feminine). I can use that attraction to either create a toxic environment for me, or I can control it carefully it to guide me to the perfect individual I would want to spend my life with. Attraction might point me to the general direction, but ultimately it is not the defining factor for finding the one.
P.S. I don't think same sex attraction is any different. I just think attraction shouldn't be the final say on finding that someone who is going to help you 'remove your toxins'. I mean, for a girl even a father figure, could be enough. For a boy, a mother figure. It doesn't even have to enter the realm of physical attraction. Just saying.
