I am just honestly trying to figure out how exactly a person chooses what to believe. Because I honestly haven't ever heard an explanation. Not even an example. How do I choose what compels me? How do I choose what evidence is required? There are certainly circumstances where I know of ideas and evidence that could make me believe something, but I didn't directly choose the kind of evidence. I honestly don't think it's as simple as choice, at least for me it certainly isn't. I think we can try to believe, put ourselves in positions to become compelled, but I would like to hear arguments or just examples where we believe things based on choice.
I CANT simply believe that ufo's are visiting. I wouldn't be surprised if some were true, but I am skeptical because of the vast distances of space. Sure there could be some pretty advanced civilizations out there that could travel with ease, but there are other small reasons I'm skeptical we've been visited as well. I just cannot say that I believe ufos visit our planet. I don't see how a person makes a conscious decision on their beliefs. It is an argument that I hear very often, but cannot ever get an explanation on how someone can choose. Maybe I just cannot.
I'm sorry for coming off as a dick at first but it's hard to fathom that you or anyone else believe in god because of some choice. You must have at least "thought" that a god "probably" existed, before you "chose" to believe it to be true? I just don't think that someone can be sitting on the fence, not knowing what to believe, and simply pick a side and start believing that it's true. And I certainly don't think that someone can somehow switch what they think to be true, without being convinced by some kind of argument or evidence first.
Thank you for being sincere. I'll try harder.
I think the answer, though you may have difficulty in understanding what I mean, is that we "surrender" to faith. To our need to have faith, and our desire to believe that what we are placing our faith in will turn out to be true. And this surrender is an act of serious humility (it's not irrational).
I'll try to give an example.
I am a recovered alcoholic. One of the most important things I learned as I was in the process of recovering from this illness is that it had seriously effected my mind. I had a long history of a certain way of thinking that I until then did not know was the result of my being alcoholic. When I was drinking, I tended to see only the worst in everything, and everyone. And as a result, I truly believed that life was a kind of hell that I had to endure, and that people were all selfish and dishonest and only out for themselves. And I sincerely believed this, because everywhere I looked I saw the evidence for it. My sponsor in AA had a difficult time trying to get me to see that my view of reality was being skewed by my disease because to me this was the true way of things, and I saw it was so everywhere I looked. I didn't like seeing life do darkly, but I couldn't deny what I saw. So for me, this was the way it was.
But one evening we were walking down a crowded street in Chicago, and as usual as we walked along I was babbling about how bad everything was when he suddenly stopped me and pointed across the street and said, "Wait, quick, look over there!". Across the street a bag lady was giving a homeless man who was sitting in a doorway some money. My sponsor was all excited and full of joy at the site of this act of kindness amid these two poor folks on the street in the middle of all that hubbub. He was that kind of guy.
Finally, though, the light went off in my head. I was astonished that he managed to spot that one small act of kindness in the middle of all the people that were out on that street, and that he could find such joy in it, when I saw nothing and was always miserable. And it finally hit me that he saw that act of kindness because he LOOKED FOR IT. I didn't ever notice that sort of thing because I was already convinced that it wasn't there, or that it was unimportant compared to all the cruelty in the world.
I finally realized that the reason my sponsor was always such a happy and joyful guy and a pleasure to be around, while I was always so miserable I was alone all the time, was because Tom had learned what I was just then beginning to understand. And that was that our expectations color and dictate to a large degree what we will "see" happening to us in our lives. But more importantly, we can CHANGE this! We can learn to look for the evidence that supports the way we WANT to see the world, in spite of ourselves, just as Tom had learned to spot such a small act of kindness on a busy Chicago street.
And not only can we teach ourselves to see the world differently, we can allow ourselves to revel in that new vision when it's ratified. But it all begins with our recognizing that we have trained ourselves to see things as we are seeing them now. And that what we are seeing now is NOT ALL THERE IS. And this means we must humble ourselves. We must surrender our current "truth" as we realize that it's only a partial truth and that it's become a blinder for us - an obstacle of our growth.
It took some practice, but now I'm a lot more like my sponsor, Tom. I look for the good things in life and when I spot them, I revel in them. I find joy in them. I 'milk them' for all their worth. And when I encounter cruelty and stupidity in life I don't surrender to it's inevitability anymore. I call it out and try to show it for the weakness that it is.
As an alcoholic I loved the dark, negative view I had of life because it gave me a perpetual excuse to drink. When drinking finally made me so miserable that I couldn't stand it, I tried to stop and was horrified to discover that I couldn't. I had become a chronic alcoholic. I went to AA not because I thought they could help me, but because I didn't know what else to do. But thankfully, I was wrong. AA did help me because they not only showed me how the get sober, they showed me how to change the way I think, and view the world, so that I could stay sober.
That was their greatest gift to me: the gift of self control. I am in charge of my own mind, now. I decide how I will see the world, and I decide what will be the evidence for my convictions, and I decide how I will react to things emotionally, not my alcoholic brain. If it were still in charge I would surely be dead, now.
If you want to change your "truth", you can. All it takes is a sincere desire to do it, maybe someone to help you keep your eye on the new goal, and persistent practice.