Take any scenario, for example you see an injustice (anything, like an animal cruelly beaten), and you become angry and think angry thoughts.
You then realise your mind is angry and you stop being angry and instead become more neutral or peaceful.
What influenced this change in behaviour, what controls the mind?
Damn, I am always the odd man out, lol. How to put this? Frankly, I am
very slow to anger. It is not my natural state which is somewhat blissful and joyful. IF, and that is a rather big IF, you manage to anger me, I am perfectly aware of WHY I am angry. It is because of that that the anger boils to the surface. I use that emotional force to propel me into action, like a springboard, throwing caution to the wind. At such points,
I do NOT care about how the other parties involved react to my anger. It is not relevant to my perspective. In effect, I quite consciously ALLOW the anger to ACT, to
force change in my immediate vicinity. The working premise here is that if anger is precipitated
something is in NEED of change. I am not shy about invoking my Shiva aspect.
For example, one pleasant afternoon a few years back I was blissfully contemplating my navel at the computer and I heard what was obviously a dog fight just across the street. Immediately I bounded to the window and saw the neighbor's small dog being accosted by another neighbor's Pit Bull Terrier. THEN... I saw the owner of the pit bull come roaring out, yelling at his horrid beast and proceeded to start pounding it on the head and... Well... I was already in action and fully enraged... I was out the door so fast it made MY head spin and was running full bore towards the man beating his dog. I was a silent, raging thunderstorm moving in VERY fast.
When I was within 10 feet I stopped and began venting rather loudly at the incompetent lout who instantly stopped beating his dog. He was OBVIOUSLY drunk and/or stoned OUT OF HIS MIND. I began to berate him so severely that he was wincing. By this time other neighbors had come out and were watching the interaction. I never laid a finger on the man. I didn't need to. The dog, amazingly, just sat there and made no move to protect his "master". I should point out that when I am very angry, I get very cold and clinical.
I get very articulate and sharp as a razor.
After a few minutes of this imbecile blubbering apologies I began to calm down. The other neighbors came up to me and said that what I had done was remarkable and the guy really deserved it. Now, feeling somewhat "spent", sheepishly, I went back inside and wrote a note to myself to call the SPCA and report the fellow.
You see, Onkara, I didn't realize I was angry and consciously try to control it. That is just silliness, in my opinion. I let the fur fly - AS IT SHOULD. In my view, venting justifiable anger
in a positive way is the best medicine. Denying that anger, when in full bloom, causes psychological short circuits that are not healthy, imo. You get angry for good reason. Understand WHY. Anger is meant to move people to act.
That said, anger should be free of hostility. You should not use it as an excuse to exact physical punishment. That is going too far, unless a physical altercation is required and
you are confident you can gain the upper hand, but in general, physical violence should not be the goal or the result.
Trust me, you do not want to make me angry, but if you do, I guarantee you will not wish to go through the experience twice. In short, what you are describing in your OP to me, is simply when I am ticked off at something -- at those times, for sure, but in my books being "ticked off" is a very long way from genuine, justifiable anger.