Facebook....is that still a thing?
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What do u think of Facebook?
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McBell
Unbound
It's not Facebook that has a problem with privacy.
It is the members.
Some people post every little thing they do as though facebook is a running commentary of their everyday lives.
I use facebook to keep in touch with people I would not be able to keep in touch with otherwise.
So basically I am on once or twice a week for about ten to fifteen minutes.
BSM1
What? Me worry?
I've been on and off of it over the years...mainly off. I was wondering what you think of it, what has been your experiences? Just curious.
Hilarious and informative while at the same time annoying. It does, however, keep me from actually have to talk to my in-laws in person, so that's a win.
I like it. It makes staying connected with people easier.
Even if it does have it's fair share of annoyances.
Even if it does have it's fair share of annoyances.
Funny you say this, because I read an article about FB and how it is 'fading' out...that more people are turning to twitter, snapchat, and instagram. Look what happened with myspace, think that phased out, so maybe that will happen with FB.
I am not so with it that I use something newer.
I just never found Facebook intriguing.
Shadow Wolf
Certified People sTabber & Business Owner
As much as I loathe Facebook, I absolutely detest Twitter. If you have to say it in less than 140 characters, there is a good chance it isn't worth saying, a better chance it isn't as explanative as it should be, and an even better chance the discourse of the conversation could have been better.
Just look at Canadians. The average one has an attention span that is less than that of a goldfish, and social media is a suspected culprit.
We definitely need to reverse this decades-long trend of shortening things, dumbing them down, and over-simplifying them. People really need to start reading things that weren't designed to be read on a tiny phone screen.
I'm not talking about personal information being made public so easily. That's definitely on the members, not the site.
Yes, agree with you here, Riverwolf. I didn't know all of that about advertising companies targeting ads towards FB members though.
It's pretty common these days, to the point of being unavoidable if you use the internet at all. Google does it, too, as do the other major search engines.
Shadow Wolf
Certified People sTabber & Business Owner
That is where the user can beef up their internet security. Ad blockers, javascript disablers, anonymous surfing, there are many things that help. My problem comes with Amazon, in which there are no ways to screen my purchases from them (which includes the Kindle store). But I have their advertising algorithms so confused they are constantly suggesting stuff to me that is not applicable (a magazine on female African American hairstyles), or stuff that I am just not interested in (books about Christianity).
But Facebook and Google are both horrible when it comes to keeping your activities private. If you go to the way back machine, you can read how loose and anti-user-friendly Google's privacy policy has become over the years.
Jumi
Well-Known Member
Bragbook.com sounds about right. It's why I never go there anymoreFB is largely a brag book, and most of the stuff posted isn't brag-worthy. lol You're not missing much.
I have Facebook but only so I can remember people's birthday's, know when the latest shindigs are going to happen and to see what is happening in other people's lives. I even upload photos from time to time, but I have the attention span of a flea (I can't even stick to one book unless it's something reasonably challenging like Nabokov or Shakes and even then I have to listen to music whilst I read.) So I don't use it often or even sometimes.
Ingledsva
HEATHEN ALASKAN
To remember things just download the simple and free MiniMinder. MiniMinder - The Slick Little Date Reminder Program from Vellosoft
I haven't forgotten any birthdays, or anniversaries, or holidays, since I got it.
It pops up when you turn your computer on, listing whatever you put on it.
It even counts down to the event so you know you only have two days to get that Birthday gift. LOL!
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I'm on FB and visit it at least once a day (like checking my e-mails). I use RF alot more honestly. For the most part the stories in my news feed are pretty minor, and I will occassionally re-post something funny. But generally, all communication has in the past been out-going and I'm left with a sense of why make the effort to stay in touch with these people when the reverse is not true? I did find Chat as a great way to stay in touch, but each person has there own 'avoidance' strategdy; some won't reply at all, others will only reply after a few days, and the best conversations were through Chat in real time- but that ussually came with the problem that people were not giving me full attention as they would in a conversation and we're multi-tasking. I purged my freindlist last year and it's down from about 150 to 81, but it actually hasn't made much difference.Talking about personal problems is not an option on Facebook and the Anonymity of internet forums such as RF means that this is a better place to be open, honest and relax. There is always the fear that what I say will get around.
I had a second account using my current username so I could get in touch with people from forums without revealing my Real Life idenitity.
this worked for a bit. I did eventually add them onto my real account. So I talk with a freind in America on and off, but that is literaly about it. If anything Facebook leaves me with a pretty grim sensde of isolation,how irrelevant I am to other people's lives and out of step with everyone else's way of doing things. It magnifies the differences. It's nice to see someone's wedding photos or holiday snaps, but it is no substitute for real relationships. It seems that inspite of having the technology to do so, we talk less. There is a camraderie on Forums that just doesn't seem to happen on Facebook because we can take the mask off and tell the truth to each other rather than try to live other peoples lies. plus, anonymity means what you say matters less so you are more free to screw up.
Privacy is a real concern, yet at the same time you want to share things with other people so I'm left conflicted on that one. There is a sense of "yes, please type all your personal information into this database so it can be used by advertisers and the government" which puts me on edge, but that is true of pretty much everywhere on the Internet- Facebook just turned it into a business model.
I did have a crush on one of my facebook freinds, and there was a strange sense of how it warps personal boundaries. the internet can bring people together and yet they remain almost complete strangers to one another. "stalker" is a strong word because you really don't have to put a huge amount of effort in to violate someone's privacy without realising it on FB, but you honestly are left in the dark as to how much is too much and when to give someone else space that you would have in a face-to-face setting. I have kept a few photos of this crush from Facebook to use for my desktop and even now, I'm conflicted as to whether that is a violation of privacy as on the one hand anyone can access them and seeing their picture is a substitute for being with them, but on the other you owe it to a person to respect ther boundaries and are left wondering how they would feel if they realised that was what you were doing. I suppose this plays into discussion of whether the internet makes it easier to sexually objectify people.
It makes unrequited love alot harder as people will give you cues if your getting too close in real life that aren't there on FB or online. If you have a crush and want to stay in touch- go for face to face conversation or talking on the phone, perhaps video call on Skype- as you will be completely screwed by the ambuguity of purely written messages. The anxiety of wanting someone to like you and to spend time with them is compounded by it and the unhealthy combination of "I like this person, but I'm frightened of telling them how I feel in case they reject me" is exactly the kind of issue that has to be resolved offline.
The one thing I will say, is that updating my Facebook status was how I eventually came out as bisexual. finding alot of people giving supportive messages was very comforting. The same can be said when you go online on your birthday and get replies from people you haven't heard from in a while, the joy of "you noticed!" If you are a bit of an introvert and a loner, the sense of being 'connected' can take some of the edge off.
I had a second account using my current username so I could get in touch with people from forums without revealing my Real Life idenitity.
Privacy is a real concern, yet at the same time you want to share things with other people so I'm left conflicted on that one. There is a sense of "yes, please type all your personal information into this database so it can be used by advertisers and the government" which puts me on edge, but that is true of pretty much everywhere on the Internet- Facebook just turned it into a business model.
I did have a crush on one of my facebook freinds, and there was a strange sense of how it warps personal boundaries. the internet can bring people together and yet they remain almost complete strangers to one another. "stalker" is a strong word because you really don't have to put a huge amount of effort in to violate someone's privacy without realising it on FB, but you honestly are left in the dark as to how much is too much and when to give someone else space that you would have in a face-to-face setting. I have kept a few photos of this crush from Facebook to use for my desktop and even now, I'm conflicted as to whether that is a violation of privacy as on the one hand anyone can access them and seeing their picture is a substitute for being with them, but on the other you owe it to a person to respect ther boundaries and are left wondering how they would feel if they realised that was what you were doing. I suppose this plays into discussion of whether the internet makes it easier to sexually objectify people.
It makes unrequited love alot harder as people will give you cues if your getting too close in real life that aren't there on FB or online. If you have a crush and want to stay in touch- go for face to face conversation or talking on the phone, perhaps video call on Skype- as you will be completely screwed by the ambuguity of purely written messages. The anxiety of wanting someone to like you and to spend time with them is compounded by it and the unhealthy combination of "I like this person, but I'm frightened of telling them how I feel in case they reject me" is exactly the kind of issue that has to be resolved offline.
The one thing I will say, is that updating my Facebook status was how I eventually came out as bisexual. finding alot of people giving supportive messages was very comforting. The same can be said when you go online on your birthday and get replies from people you haven't heard from in a while, the joy of "you noticed!" If you are a bit of an introvert and a loner, the sense of being 'connected' can take some of the edge off.
I know. At least Google's more up front about it, though. And I need Youtube because I'm trying to set a channel up, so I have to put up with that one.
Plugins really can only do so much, unfortunately. However, they can at least allow for enough privacy that, so long as you don't make yourself into a target, you're most likely fine.
Marisa
Well-Known Member
I have a few family members that are a bit . . . . we'll call it self absorbed . . . . who do this. One in particular, when asked why she asked for an update on my husband that I had posted a week ago, said she used facebook so everyone could keep up with what she was doing, but didn't have time to read other's postings. Needless to say while we are friends, I don't follow her.
I find Facebook useful. In general, I like it.