Most people who are cruel, do not act with cruelty in an obvious way, because the Law does not allow them, and they know they will get in trouble if they show cruelty.
Agreed. You're talking about malicious people, most of whom keep that relatively well concealed from most other people. It can difficult to discern when somebody is empathetic or only feigning empathy.
But there is a different kind of cruelty that isn't malicious. It's done with good intent, but is cruel nevertheless. Mother Teresa said that suffering was the kiss of Christ, and allowed her hospice patients to suffer gratuitous pain while sending the contributions given to underwrite hospice care to the Vatican instead. One could call that sadism and fraud, but I don't think she felt any malice or thought that what she did was stealing.
And when a mother tells her child about hell, she probably thinks that she is helping him avoid perdition someday, yet assuming that she is wrong about hell, she's inflicting a kind of psychological cruelty on him. Later, when the child begins to feel same-sex attractions, for example, other things she and his pastor taught him will increase his suffering. It's a cruel ideology passing as a religion of love delivered mostly by people who we would not call cruel and who feel no malice.
I'm extremely good with my choices. I found peace when I let go of "organized" religion. No more fear of judgement by man or God. My God knows my heart at all times and guides me through my worldly travails.
I'm glad for you, but that doesn't answer the question asked, which was, if you learned that the god you worship doesn't exist, would you consider the path that belief took you a good one anyway.
I think the scriptures are good. I don't see why would I regret reading it. I don't think people must go to church, tithe or even pray. I think they are voluntary things for those who want to do so. If I do them, it is not because I have to, but because I want to. And if I want to do so, I do it because I think it is good and beneficial. I don't think extramarital sex is good. And I have no desire to kill little babies. If I would loath some urge, I think there would be a good reason for that, which is why I don't see it as bad thing.
You also didn't answer the question asked. I know that you think the scriptures are good. You believe they are of divine provenance. And you weren't asked if going to church, tithing or praying were obligatory. Of course you think it's good and beneficial, because you believe these instructions come from a good god.
My point is that for me, if the Christian god doesn't exist, I have no reason to impose the values or obey the commands attributed to it, which come at a great price. You may be happy to be devoting resources to your faith and church under the belief that this god exists, but would that change if you knew otherwise?
It is interesting, if you think that as a Christian you would have to have kids
I didn't say that Christians have to have children, but there is pressure for all fertile couples to reproduce, which I would say that most accede to without objection or a lot of thought. It's simply the thing one is supposed to do.
Also, I think Children are one of the greatest gifts people can get. So, it is interesting how one can be against them.
I'm not against kids. I'm all for them having safe homes, loving parents, getting a good education, acquiring healthy values, etc.. I just didn't want to raise them. Let those who enjoy that do it. There is no good reason why a person not driven to have and raise children should have or raise children. Couples that choose not to increase the population of the world are doing us all a favor just as those that got vaccines, those that put up solar panels on their roofs, and those that don't eat meat are all making a contribution to the wellbeing of humanity.
Incidentally, I haven't done all of those. I still eat meat, but mostly as a condiment. I have some Yemeni lentils with lamb in the refrigerator now, and some red pipian with garbanzos and pork there, too. But steaks, pork chops, burgers, rotisserie chickens and the like are uncommon for us, although tonight, we will be having Peking duck at our local Chinese restaurant, but only because we are thanking neighbors for a kindness they did us, and they like duck.
This is where I realize Pascal's Wager almost fails. If there is no god, the bet is not an insignificant loss.
I'm very pleased to see a believer acknowledge that. This is the closest to an answer my question has received. You seem to be saying that the life you have chosen to lead only makes sense if the god you believe in exists since the price for living it is high.
I'm giving up the person I love the most out everyone I fell in love with.
Sorry to hear that. I presume you mean because of religious incompatibility, or why would you bring it up in this context?
Also, believing others are going to go to hell, it's not easy. It makes life almost unbearably painful if you have empathy.
Good for you again. Here's a related quote I like:
"To the philosophy of atheism belongs the credit of robbing death of its horror and its terror. It brought about the abolition of Hell." - Joseph Lewis
Most Muslims and Christians are not cruel.
I know what you are saying, which I addressed at the top of this post. Most are not malicious or antisocial. Yet what has been done to you feels cruel to me. You described how those beliefs have led to loss and suffering. This speaks directly to the OP's question, what if you are wrong.
As I recall, you posted that you left Islam for a while because you couldn't bear the thought of people you loved going to hell, but came back to it for that very promise of hell because of anger issues following the torture of your parents and uncle (who died) by a government. I understand and don't judge or condemn you for your rage or for finding solace in religion, but if that's correct, aren't you back in the fold for the cruelty?